Dear Monty,
even more than that, what do we tell people who have terminal illness and have nothing left in life (presumably, given their diagnosis) but to suffer and then die. Ultimately, a Protestant cannot fully comfort the individual because they don’t believe in merit. They think it “blasphemous” that we can help Christ redeems others. But only the Catholic (or the Orthodox, too maybe?) can give them the fullness of comfort that God wills us to give. We can say to the dear elderly person, “Your suffering is NOT AT ALL meaningless. For now, you can ask Our Savior to give the grace to endure what sufferings cannot be aleviated by medical care and offer them up in love for anyone you wish. Imagine the great graces you can gain for poor sinners who are near damnation. and if the graces Our Dear Savior gives to one such sinners is able to save them, what a wonderful thanks you will have in heaven because Jesus used you to help redeem someone.” I can only think this is the most compelling and deep reason to be Catholic. Only the Catholic Church has this deepest mystery of human suffering.
I think also of an analogy that i have heard used by our dear sister, Rosalynd Moss, and I think by Kimberly Hahn, too, in that God is like a mother who is in the process of preparing to make a cake, and her little three year old daughter [us] says with that innocent love, “Mommy, can I help you?” What mother would say, “Oh, shut up and go away, I can do this myself, thank you!” No, even though God knows that in our early stages of the journey of faith, because we yet have significant sinful tendencies and only a small possession of sanctifying grace and knowledge of God’s truths, we will probably make more of a mess than actually help, nevertheless, as we grow in maturity of love, experience, and knowledge, and, that is, in the grace of God, we will be able to help the “mother” ever more proficiently in the business of saving souls. I mean, technically, yes, God does not NEED our help. He could just give the graces to the sinner anyway. No, He doesn’t NEED our help, He WANTS it, and also especially because, by the very fact that we possess sanctifying grace, we have a desire to love as God loves, and so how could God hard heartedly refuse our plea to help us help Him in the work of salvation.
For a more systematic elaboration, I have an article on suffering on my website, if it could be of any help.
Reflecting of the Tragedy: a Discourse on Suffering
Blessings to you and the elderly lady!
scott