Suicidal Thoughts Over Girl

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As you’ll notice from my previous thread, I’ve been having girl trouble. So much so that I’ve actually been contemplating suicide. To help make this easier for those who would pray for such a miserable person as myself. I’m 14, I have just entered High School as a Freshman, and have Aspergers as well as Bipolar disorder. I take pills for my disorder, to help stop anxiety. I blurt out my feelings to a girl a year ago; a girl who is Apostolic Christian. We were acquaintances for awhile, but didn’t know each other that well. Mixed signals are common, some oddly flirtatious, some not, which is surprising. She believes that I stare at her whatnots, when I do stare-but rather at her hair, or her face. Trying to talk to her seems futile. I feel amazingly sad as I type this, and have been sitting here for well over for what seems like thirty minutes.

For those of you that don’t know what aspergers is, or at least what it feels like to me. I have feelings sometimes, but some are weak, and some are strong. Conveying them, or getting them out in some form is what I find challenging. I don’t understand some social cues, and wonder why those of the opposite gender seem to be so…Indirect. Is this common? I’m just so confused. I’ve been told to ignore her, and I’ve seen her seemingly scared of me, happy, and a number of other emotions. I look back at her in class sometimes, and try to replace thoughts of her with thoughts of work. I’ve sought professional help, and have asked my parents. I’m so unsure of what to do. I’m sure that this girl will never like me in any way, shape, or form.

As a note, none of this is the girl’s fault; it’s my own weaknesses and faults. I think I’m just in a pit of depression, and don’t know what to do. Prayers would be real nice.
 
Prayers said.

As a mother I’m telling you you really need to talk to your parents, please. I understand your situation is more complicated with your Aspergers and bipolar, so I think you need to get some help as things are a little more complicated.

Thank you so much for seeking help here, but you need more concrete help. You are precious in God’s eyes and as his beloved child he wants you not to allow this to hurt you further and you are definitely not to hurt yourself.

Please go now and talk with your folks. I’ll be praying for you.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
God bless you for having the courage to write to us. You seem very intelligent for age 14. Please do not kill yourself. Let the grownups who care about you know about those thoughts. It is normal for teens your age to be kinda obsessive about things, and even more so with the Aspergers, so something you can learn to do is to not pay as much attention to obsessive thoughts. It is also normal for freshman in highschool to be very concerned with how people perceive them. Everything gets better as you get older and gain social skills. I do understand what you are going through because a friend of my nephew is your age and I have talked to him a lot. Post back and let us know how you are doing.
 
I know EXACTLY how you feel, I think I might have asburgers or at least something like it. what worked for me was try to adapt socially amd learn as much as you can about social cues and how to act socially. And as for girls its extremely hard at your age, I remember my 1st high school crush, I spent the whole year trying to work up the courage to talk to her, and I never really did. But as I got older and adapted socially I started dating more and finding it easier to talk to girls. Its still hard for me but its A LOT easier. Also I’m only 23. But if it gives you any confidence that the future will be better know that I just started seeing a pretty good looking girl, who also happens to be shy. You will get there too man, just hang in there, AND HOLD ON TO YOUR FAITH! I cannot emphasize that enough. If you’re feeling suicidal pray The Hail Mary, and the prayer to St. Michael The Archangel. Both those saints will drive the devil away from you!
 
Also what works for me when I’m depressed is to be around people, or at least do something you enjoy doing.
 
Prayers said 🙂

My little brother is a little older than you and also has Aspergers. As a teenager who just graduated i cant tell you high school will be a walk in the park but things do get better. Taking you life really wont make things any better. Talking to a parent or a close friend or family member really will help you feel better. If it werent for my supportive friends i dont think i would have made it out of high school. Stay strong and dont give up
 
My boy, you’re worrying too much!

As a man married man now 27 who went through a few heart breaking crushes I can tell you a few things from experience:

Women will remain enigmatic all your life, and you’ll learn to realize that it’s okay. They’re different biologically and emotionally than you but that’s no concern for despair. At this point in your life suicide should be the last thing on your mind. Life goes on and there will be more girls who enter your life and who will become important parts of your history who help you ultimately become the man you will one day be. In other words, heart break can be crippling but that’s OKAY! You’ll pull your self together slowly and get back up again.

From what you type you sound much more intelligent than the 14 year olds I grew up with, I’m sure you have a bright future.
 
Frank956 said:
My boy, you’re worrying too much!

As a man married man now 27 who went through a few heart breaking crushes I can tell you a few things from experience:

Women will remain enigmatic all your life, and you’ll learn to realize that it’s okay. They’re different biologically and emotionally than you but that’s no concern for despair. At this point in your life suicide should be the last thing on your mind. Life goes on and there will be more girls who enter your life and who will become important parts of your history who help you ultimately become the man you will one day be. In other words, heart break can be crippling but that’s OKAY! You’ll pull your self together slowly and get back up again.

From what you type you sound much more intelligent than the 14 year olds I grew up with, I’m sure you have a bright future.
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I never dated in high school and never really have. A woman is a gift from God. Don’t be in a hurry. Suicide is serious you must address that. I personally couldn’t imagine why someone would want to commit suicide especially because of a girl. But that’s me. Make friends with girls. You don’t have to go any farther. If you have to stay away from them. They can lead to trouble. Trust in God you have all you need.

God Bless
 
Wow, you took me down memory lane. I was pretty depressed as aI teenager too, not Asperger’s, but probably depressed enough for a clinical diagnosis if someone had bothered to take me to a psychiatrist. I wrote a lot of sad poetry, read books, and watched movies. I didn’t have many friends either; felt like a total geek and just wanted to be invisible. I know you probably get tired of hearing this but,“This too shall pass.” Going through adolescence is a rough transition into adulthood, obviously harder for some than others. I wouldn’t put a whole lot of credence into what a teenage girl says or doesn’t say or whether of not she likes you. I never met any that seemed well adjusted at that age. Suicide is never the right answer. It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem. As long as you’re alive there’s hope and things can change but the finality of death, mmm…you don’t want that. Please find someone supportive to talk to.
I’ll add you on to my prayer list tonight.
 
I’m joining the chorus,

Please don’t hurt yourself.
Please connect with a trusted adult as soon as possible.

And, I pray… for a clear mind, a truly loving heart, and a deep joy about the gift of life.

Please, do not hurt yourself.
 
JackieO, I will pray for you. Please take time to pray before the tabernacle or the crucifix and remember that God LOVES YOU personally – that if you were the ONLY sinner in need of redemption, Jesus Christ would still have come down from Heaven and suffered His Passion – all the mental anguish, the humiliation, the abandonment of his friends, the mocking, spitting, beating, and the agonizing death of the Cross – for YOU.

Please share your feelings with your parents or trusted adults. You deserve help as a precious child of God. I will pray for you, my friend.
 
Have you told your parents and the professional help you mentioned about your suicidal ideation? If not you should. I’ll pray for you.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death
Amen.

St. Jude, pray for them!
 
Many of us have been there with you, Jackie. I had problems like this when I was in high school, and I do not (at least as far as I know) have the additional challenges that you face.

There are a couple things I want to share with you for encouragement.

First of all, I recommend listening to the Phil Wickham song “Safe.” In my darkest hours, it is something that helps remind me just how much I am loved.

Secondly, I hope you will find comfort in the words of the prophet Jeremiah: “For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare, not for woe! Plans to give you a future full of hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

And third are a couple articles from my high school bible that helped me through some troubled times:
A popular newspaper advice columnist printed a letter from someone who was writing to share a thought on suicide. He had decided that his life was not worth living anymore and planned to kill himself. The moment before he was about to do it, he thought about who would find him, and then he stopped. He realized that he couldn’t put someone through the pain and suffering of finding him dead from suicide. Because he thought of another, he no longer looked at his life as hopeless.
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No life is worthless! No pain is invincible! No matter how overwhelming your struggles and challenges seem, there are people who can help you, and people who could no bear to lose you. Seek God for help, seek others for help - suicide is never a solution!
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And:
Some teenagers think suicide will end their pain and, use it as a way out. Unfortunately, suicide ends everything; not just the current pain but future possibilities for healing, for growth, for new relationships and good times. Consider that both Judas and Peter betrayed Jesus. But whereas Judas ended his life, Peter trusted in God’s love and forgiveness and went on to become a great hero.
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Lastly, I have a couple more scriptures that I hope will encourage you and anyone else who reads this post and is having similar thoughts.

Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
1 John 5:4 - For everyone who is begotten by God conquers the world. And the victory that conquers the world is our faith.
Luke 12:6-7 - Aren’t five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten in God’s sight. Indeed, the hairs of your head are all counted. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows!
 
Jackie - hang in there - I was married to an Aspergers man, and have an Aspergers grandson, so know some of your difficulties. THIS TOO WILL PASS. It is temporary, and surmountable, and as you successfully weather this and other storms of your life, you will build emotional strength and gain experience in relationships.

Suicide is a selfish thing, when you think about it. I have a girlfriend whose teenage daughter got caught up in a spate of youth suicides in a small town - it seemed that every week another promising soul departed. If you could see the PAIN you would leave behind, you would never do it. My friend copes with her loss by posting of Facebook to a select group of friends, and her pain is as raw two years later as it was when her daughter died. Nobody can selfishly inflict that pain on their family. The pain the girl left behind was a hundred times worse than the small emotional turmoil she was going through.

Growing up takes a lot of bravery. Adults know - we’ve all done it! Bravery not to follow the herd, bravery to discover who and what you are, and be true to that vision, bravery to be kind, honourable, loving, in the face of cruelty, dishonesty and hate. You’ll need help - we all did, and still do, and God is the one to give it to you - He’ll provide people to a season in your life, with the skills to impart that you need at the time. They may stay in your life, they may move on, but they will come when you need them.

I’ll pray for you, Jackie, and look forward to seeing future posts as you share with us how you cope with this growing up process.
 
JackieO123 said:
As you’ll notice from my previous thread, I’ve been having girl trouble. So much so that I’ve actually been contemplating suicide. To help make this easier for those who would pray for such a miserable person as myself. I’m 14, I have just entered High School as a Freshman, and have Aspergers as well as Bipolar disorder. I take pills for my disorder, to help stop anxiety. I blurt out my feelings to a girl a year ago; a girl who is Apostolic Christian. We were acquaintances for awhile, but didn’t know each other that well. Mixed signals are common, some oddly flirtatious, some not, which is surprising. She believes that I stare at her whatnots, when I do stare-but rather at her hair, or her face. Trying to talk to her seems futile. I feel amazingly sad as I type this, and have been sitting here for well over for what seems like thirty minutes.

For those of you that don’t know what aspergers is, or at least what it feels like to me. I have feelings sometimes, but some are weak, and some are strong. Conveying them, or getting them out in some form is what I find challenging. I don’t understand some social cues, and wonder why those of the opposite gender seem to be so…Indirect. Is this common? I’m just so confused. I’ve been told to ignore her, and I’ve seen her seemingly scared of me, happy, and a number of other emotions. I look back at her in class sometimes, and try to replace thoughts of her with thoughts of work. I’ve sought professional help, and have asked my parents. I’m so unsure of what to do. I’m sure that this girl will never like me in any way, shape, or form.

As a note, none of this is the girl’s fault; it’s my own weaknesses and faults. I think I’m just in a pit of depression, and don’t know what to do. Prayers would be real nice.
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You’ll be fine! Don’t worry about one girl. You’re 14. When I was 14, I didn’t even have the courage to approach the girl I liked. You’re already much more brave than I was when I was your age, and I didn’t even have any medical issues to hold me back. I never dated in high school, and it wasn’t until college that I even built up enough courage to tell somebody how I felt.

Fast forward to now, and I’m with a beautiful Catholic girl that I hope to marry someday. I just kinda fell into it. There’s no reason to think the same can’t happen for you.

Suicide is a terrible and selfish act. There are so many people that love you and would be truly heartbroken if you took your own life. Think about how you would make them feel if you did this to yourself. You have so much to live for. I guarantee that you’ll feel better as time goes on. Give it some time. Don’t make a rash decision. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Please just relax, pray, and keep in mind that others are praying fot you too :hug1:

I’ll pray for you buddy :gopray2:
 
Talk to your parents and pray for the strength to get over this also maybe try talking to your priest please don{t harm yourself in anyway God loves you and your family loves you remember that always
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
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