For a suicide to occur there either has to be:
- such an incredible arrogance that one can believe they are beyond the mercies of God
- such an incredible ignorance that they can believe there is nothing worse then there current suffering
- such a breakdown in the psyche that the inborn mechanisms to preserve life are just broken
While I would never say that a person won’t go to hell for committing suicide because there are some circumstances when very grave sin is the culprit, in most cases, stupidity or illness take away the persons’ intent necessary to commit a mortal sin.
I had an uncle who died in the Korean coflict. Story was he threw himself infront of enemy fire. No reason. No other life to save. Just got up in a hail of bullets and got himself killed. He was buried in a veterans grave, not a Catholic one.
Many years later I joined a fire service and worked on a medic unit. I had such a reputation for being a hodog and doing dangerous stunts most guys either wouldn’t work with me or just stood back out of my way. When I was diagnosed with mixed type bipolar disorder and successfully medicated, I began to notice that I experienced fear and hesitation that I found difficlt to get past even when something very important was at stake.
To the point, what I learned was that the danger of suicide was not there when I was depressed. In depression you don’t have enough energy to off yourself. (Besides, I always firmly believed that the pains of hell and offending God were worse then how I was feeling.) The danger of suicide is in extreme mania. You think you’re 6 foot tall and bulletproof. My uncle obviosly believed that quite literally. It’s in mania that you’re driving 90-100 miles an hour down the road and feel like you’re standing still. Your thoughts go so fast, everything seem frustratingly slow and its very easy to become confused.
We know nothing more about the state of the soul of someone who has died by suicide than another death. Good thing God is our judge.