Support needed to remain chaste as a single woman

[rpp]

It pains me to have to say this, to you sweet girls, but I would be remiss in not warning you. When you date, especially if it’s guys who are more than a few years older than you, beware of telling them about your virginity status too early. There is an especially creepy breed of man called The Virgin Chaser.

** They love purity. But only to defile it.** Trust me on this. I am watching it at work elsewhere. Find a man who has waited too. They are out there. Stay far away from the kind of man who seems to especially prize your virginity without holding out for it himself. What you have is precious. Don’t waste it on someone completely unworthy.

While you should be careful because there are such people, do not be over cautious. And do not exclude people because they have made mistakes in the past. Unless, that is, they do not regret their mistakes and desire to repeat them.

I will say again, it is gratifying to hear from so many women that they desire to, or have indeed, wait until marriage.

Any guys out there who have maintained your purity?

I did not. But then, I became an atheist when I was 19 and that was the first thing I wasted cast off. That is just one of the many regrets I have looking back at the nearly 25 years I was separated from God.

 

[ajk19]

I did mention it earlier, but might as well say it again. Of all the things I’ve screwed up over time with the porn and masturbation, the one thing I have managed to save my virginity. I did come somewhat close to losing it in the past, with my one and so far only girlfriend. We had some rather heavy makeout sessions, and during that time I realized that if we weren’t careful we would end up having sex without even realizing it, even though we both pledged we wouldn’t do that. I made sure to put a stop to that though, making sure we didn’t cross the line.

It was a good learning experience for me, that whole relationship. Taught me what I really want in a wife, and all that. Also too, from here on in, I plan on waiting till I actually marry for any passionate kissing of any kind with a woman, and of course no sex either. If my lips are going to touch another’s, I want it to be my wife and no one else with the same going for sex as well. Wouldn’t be fair to my wife to have given my virginity away to someone else.

 

[Chyna]

Liberanosamalo It pains me to have to say this, to you sweet girls, but I would be remiss in not warning you. When you date, especially if it’s guys who are more than a few years older than you, beware of telling them about your virginity status too early. There is an especially creepy breed of man called The Virgin Chaser.

They love purity. But only to defile it. Trust me on this. I am watching it at work elsewhere. Find a man who has waited too. They are out there. Stay far away from the kind of man who seems to especially prize your virginity without holding out for it himself. What you have is precious. Don’t waste it on someone completely unworthy

i have already met some. i never answer when asked that question from a male that is “interested”. It still shocks me though when people think this is an acceptable question, or a topic for debate.
This one male kept calling me very year, i know that it is because i am not one of his many conquests. As i said before, i am built. Due to this i am covered and really hide in my clothes. As a female, one knows when a man is not crossing the room because of her intelligence. i would have to say that this is why i stopped dating all together. i have not had an adult date at all. i hide, i want to date, i want to marry, but what i have seen, it frightens me. This is why my daddy states that the post man will not deliver him. This is also why my brothers make these comments and others, stating that if i did it, i would not be so frightened. “you are too old, to be frighten”, i am, i can not help it. i still want to believe that God will send him to me. i wonder though, have i missed him, because i am hiding? I may want to start dating however, i just do not know how. i don’t even know how to start. i am fine with a male if he does not like me, but those that do, well; i am not good at it. My middle brother has recently started to call me over his house for dinner, dinner turns into “teach Chyna night”.

 

[chevalier]

Any guys out there who have maintained your purity?

Yes.

 

[catechumen08]

i have already met some. i never answer when asked that question from a male that is “interested”. It still shocks me though when people think this is an acceptable question, or a topic for debate.
This one male kept calling me very year, i know that it is because i am not one of his many conquests. As i said before, i am built. Due to this i am covered and really hide in my clothes. As a female, one knows when a man is not crossing the room because of her intelligence. i would have to say that this is why i stopped dating all together. i have not had an adult date at all. i hide, i want to date, i want to marry, but what i have seen, it frightens me. This is why my daddy states that the post man will not deliver him. This is also why my brothers make these comments and others, stating that if i did it, i would not be so frightened. “you are too old, to be frighten”, i am, i can not help it. i still want to believe that God will send him to me. i wonder though, have i missed him, because i am hiding? I may want to start dating however, i just do not know how. i don’t even know how to start. i am fine with a male if he does not like me, but those that do, well; i am not good at it. My middle brother has recently started to call me over his house for dinner, dinner turns into “teach Chyna night”.

Chyna, upon reading this, I hope I can give you some of my humble advice. First of all, it’s okay to be scared. Falling in love is a good thing, but it can also be very scary, because you’re making yourself completely vulnerable. That said, it is very important that you’re able to overcome that fear, and put yourself out there, because if you don’t, how do you expect it to happen? God can make things happen, but there’s also something called free will. There’re a lot of decent guys out there; you just need to find them. That said, there’re also many unsavory characters out there, some of whom I’m sure you’ve had the bad luck of meeting. But don’t let that turn you off, and miss out on the good ones. Also, make sure that you yourself are ready, if and when that special someone does appear in your life. And one last thing - don’t feel that you need to settle, because you deserve better.

As for how to deal with your own family, I’m not going to comment on that, as it is up to you and your family.

Hope this helps!

 

[gradstud35]

I think it is highly inappropriate of your brother to be thinking of your sex life like that. Where on earth is his head. Do you go around wondering how many times he gets laid? Pardon my vulgarity. If you do, maybe only because he’s in a state of mortal sin and your worried for his soul?
As for your dad, is he worried about your sex life or is he worried because your not married? If he’s worried because your not married, that’s only natural. Fathers since the beginning of time have been trying to marry their daughters off, that is what they do–it’s their paternal instinct to make certain their daughters are cared for after they are gone. But if he’s just worried about your sex life, then there’s something definitely WRONG with him; all you can do is try to obey the fourth commandement and pray for him that his head and soul end up in the right place.
They are the ones with problem, not you.

 

[Chyna]

i just wanted to thank all of you for the support and advice. You all have been very kind towards me. May God the Father bless you all.

Chyna