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To me, it seems that the biggest risk of misunderstanding occurs when your girlfriend partakes of oplatki at Mass. Certainly, if anyone saw her, they may misunderstand. Besides, isn’t there a risk of your girlfriend essentially taking the position of “it’s good enough. Why do I need the real thing?” My guess (for the latter question) is that the answer is no. I trust that you understand your girlfriend’s knowledge better than any of us, so you know better than us whether there is a risk of misunderstanding. So, too, the OP knows better than us the understanding and knowledge of those involved in the group.I see where you are coming from… I guess.
For those unfamiliar with oplatki, it is the same bread as communion wafers, baked into larger rectangles and usually imprinted with nativity scenes. My understanding is that the head of a Polish household will break off a piece and pass it around the table right before the Christmas Eve meal. He may bless the family, each may forgive another, and they will offer prayers. That is my understanding. There is even pink oplatki for pets.
catholiccompany.com/content/oplatki-christmas-tradition.cfm
The pastor of my parish is Polish and supplies oplatki wafers - thousands of them - to the parishoners every Christmas. I have several and often break off a piece and give it to my non-Catholic and Catholic friends when they visit, especially for dinner, as we say grace before the meal. Many are fascinated that it is the same bread as used in Catholic communion and I am very careful to briefly explain the difference between the Eucharist and the mere bread of the oplatki.
I also have to say that my girlfriend - not Catholic - brings oplatki with her to Mass and has her own little “Lord’s Supper” in the pew while I go up for communion. She absolutely knows the difference and is discreet so as not to cause scandal (or cause an overzealous usher to demand it back).
But I’m not sure that this cultural/regional use of oplatki in the family setting translates to use of bread and wine as a “symbolic gesture of unity” in a mainstream US Catholic parish setting. There is just too much risk of misunderstanding.
I get what you are saying, ProVobis, and I do respect your opinion here and see where you are coming from. I’m just surprised, that’s all.
-Tim-
So, if it is explained to these men that this is purely symbolic, not the Eucharist of the Mass, is there really any more likelihood for confusion that the two situations you described above (you handing out oplatki and your girlfriend consuming oplatki at Mass).
Many of us are taking the principles discussed (risk of misunderstanding) and applying them to a situation we could begin to understand (they dynamics, knowledge, spiritual position in life, etc.). I think it best to give the principle, and leave it to the OP/that group to decide if there is that risk.