Talking during Mass

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Why do those people even bother attending?

I’m 20 years old and sadly, I have terrible hearing (grew up around drag racing, loud music, I never wear ear protection at the rifle range, frequent ear infections a child etc.) so it’s difficult even if it’s quiet – plus my father and I are never lucky enough to sit in the front.

Is it even worth my time to ask them to be quiet or should I just ignore them?

I actually enjoy hearing Mass and the readings; it just confuses me how people can be so disrespectful in, of all places, the House of God.

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SpiritOf1775 said:
Why do those people even bother attending?

I’m 20 years old and sadly, I have terrible hearing (grew up around drag racing, loud music, I never wear ear protection at the rifle range, frequent ear infections a child etc.) so it’s difficult even if it’s quiet – plus my father and I are never lucky enough to sit in the front.

Is it even worth my time to ask them to be quiet or should I just ignore them?

I actually enjoy hearing Mass and the readings; it just confuses me how people can be so disrespectful in, of all places, the House of God.
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Yes, bother to attend, and if someone is being disrespectful, charitably let them know they are being loud. There was a time when ushers actually kept folks in line, but today they seem to be little more than money collectors at the offering. See if you’re father will go earlier so you can sit up closer to the front. Also, read the scriptures a few times ahead of mass and spend some time reflecting upon them. This will help a little if someone gets to be bothersome during the readings.
 
First, if this is regular with numerous people, ask the priest to address the issue at the next Sunday Mass, and if it continues, ask them in a charitable manner to stop talking. If they continue, do what my brother does: turn to them a say “Be quiet,” (actually, he’d say very firmly “stop it” most of the time, and he’s only 19) not loud, but slightly above a whisper. This almost always works, mostly I think because other people noticed (likely) the “command” and to continue would only embarrass themselves. They might thow a fit and get up and leave, but if they’re going behave during the Mass as though they were at a Baptist Bible study, maybe that’s where they should go.
 
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I try to get to Mass early so I can sit in the front.
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😃 There’s ALWAYS room in the front row!
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If it’s distracting. sit where you won’t be distracted. If it’s just the fact that other people aren’t paying attention or being reverent, pray for them; they’re the ones that are missing something important.
 
I find it helpful to follow along in the missal; I’m a visual sort anyway.

Actually, I went to a parish recently that has someone repeating the liturgy and homily in sign language – I was amazed at how focused I was on the words when I was watching!

But if you’re being distracted by others and can’t hear, and are uncomfortable calling them out, I’d recommend using the missal to follow along.

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Dante
 
Oh, I’m sorry for the misunderstanding.

I was asking why the ‘talkers’ show up to Mass – not if I should continue going; Even if sin wasn’t an issue – I could never stop going. I enjoy it too much.

I’ll talk to the Priest after Mass this Sunday and see if he can address it.

So, I’ll just take it on the chin one more time and hopefully next time I’ll be able to enjoy Mass without hearing, “Did you hear about Johnny and Suzie!? snicker”
 
Most of the time at our Church its the elderly people who think they’re whispering!!! God bless them!!!😃
 
I teach Catechism K-8th grade. So I know the teachers and it makes me crazy when they (CCD teachers) talk during Mass!

There is one especially who I know took the 2nd graders to the church for a “field trip” and she explained that they had to be quiet! Same woman sits behind my family and I can hear them talking about where they are going for lunch!

It is a real trial to not let them disturb me. I only try to focus harder.

Why don’t I say something? I am trying to keep my focus forward. And “show” them how they should behave. I have 8 people in my family and from the 8 year old to me, we all sit quietly.

I use to ssshhh people. But I think then that I am disturbing people.🤷 Maybe I should teach my children to ssshhh people:shrug:
 
I think this is quite common - and I wonder the same thing you do. Why do they attend? I try to avoid sitting near a particular group of women in my parish when I attend Mass. One of them talks non-stop pretty much throughout the Mass - to the point of talking to someone two rows behind her as she gets up to receive the Eucharist! The kicker is, she has taught in a Catholic school for years and is a lector, so I believe she knows better. I just try to sit elsewhere. Try to get there a little earlier, maybe that will help. God bless you.
 
Perhaps they don’t recognize what they are doing? I find this in all sorts of areas. . .not just in church. The people who don’t obey speed limits, who park in handicapped spaces, who cut in lines, who ‘steal’ cable TV, gossip, etc. They honestly don’t think that what THEY are doing is ‘wrong’. They’d probably be the first to criticize if they saw somebody ELSE do it. . .but THEY always seem to have an excuse. They were running late and they are such CAREFUL drivers that they could go over the speed limit ‘safely’. They were ‘just running in’ to the store and the handicapped space was the ONLY space and for the 'few SECONDS" it would take them, it was not really a problem. They were really in the line FIRST. . .so they ‘cut’; Cable TV companies are money grubbers anyway who won’t miss a dollar or two; and they aren’t GOSSIPING–heaven forbid, they are just ‘discussing’ something.

Probably the people in Church are so focused on what THEY have to say that they really do not take in that they are saying it in church and disrupting other people!!! After all, they just HAVE to let so-and-so know this VITAL fact and this is the ONLY time they have, and aren’t you just the most HYPOCRITICAL person they know, how dare you criticize them when YOU are such a mean person to imply that THEIR actions are a problem, nobody ELSE is complaining, are they? GOD is their judge, not YOU. . .

Pray for them.
 
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