With the mentality that you are going to limit yourself instead of cutting yourself off, you necessarily accept the fact that you are going to do it again. When dealing with grave matter, this is not a good option. Allowing yourself to sin is never the right thing to do.
By vow, I mean a promise to God. By making a vow and breaking it, one incurs the 1st sin plus the sin of breaking the vow. The firm resolve to amend your ways in confessional is sufficient. By the way, when I told the priest in confessional that I had made the vow, he told me that I should not have done that. The reasoning is pretty much the same as the scripture passage where Jesus cautions against swearing. You should say “yes” when you mean “yes”, and “no” when you mean “no”, and anything else is from the evil one.
Right. To limit yourself, surrender then is an option. However, Its true, not all battles are won. If you should fall, go down fighting the good fight. Never surrender. If you go into the fight limiting yourself to success, you except failure from the start. You except surrender to the enemy as an option. Whats up with that?
I understand what you’re saying man.Since you brought it up… Would a100lb weight gain and a loss of both legs due to compliations from diabetes effect your physical relationship?
What’s sad to see that large numbers of perfectly natural women going to these plastic (butchers) surgeons to get breast augmentations, lip implants, nose jobs, butt lifts. etc… Now THAT is shallow! The word “sexy” is juvenile and crude as well.
A woman’s God given natural beauty is a gift to be shared with her husband. In concert with her intellectual and spiritual dimensions, a woman’s physical attractivensss strengthens the marital bond. For a woman to neglect this aspect of herself is to leave her husband extremely vulnerable to temptation and sinful lust that this culture embraces.
You have missed the point of the original post entirely.
It is a dreadful thing to go into a confessional and promise God that you will NEVER masturbate again KNOWING that eventually even though you don’t want to…you are probably going to do it again!
Why would you risk the slightest possibility of having your children find this garbage in your house or on your computer?
Here’s the thing about porn… The mind of the Christian man absolutely hates it. However the body and brain deeply enjoys it like a steak dinner to a starving man. To the flesh (body & brain) of nearly all men, porn is one of the most physically pleasurable experiences, even at times exceeding physical relations with a living breathing woman. The reason for this is simple.I hate pornogrophy, never really “enjoyed” it. My main problem was (sometimes IS) simply watching woman in erotic clothing dance, or view certain fetish sites I dare not mention.
But the end result is masterbation. I went to confession last saturday for it
Man, “masterbation” is such a gross word isn’t it?
Dear onmyknees,
Onmyknees, don’t take their comments to heart. Those 2 statements are some of the most whacked-out things I have ever read on Moral Theology. I have just about lost all respect for this forum. No wonder my confessor looks at me funny when I make a confession and am so hard on myself due to things I read on this particular forum.
Well, that’s a powerful thing you have written. Its not fair that you should have this pressure.
Dear lady, you must remember that your husband is growing older right along with you. From my honest perspective as a man approaching the age of 50, Let me assure you that I no longer see young women in the same light as when I was younger. One of the more silly things I see happening in our modern culture is women over the age of 40 getting cosmetic surgery. The natural beauty of the maturing woman is every bit as desireable to men. Your natural physical beauty is STILL one of the most powerful forces known to man. My wife and I are growing older together, we both have hair that is graying and we’ve picked up a few pounds, but that’s all part of life and I love her more deeply than ever.
To me, there is nothing more beautiful than growing older together. From that first kiss on the front porch at age 16, through the decades of marriage, family and faith, through midlife, all the way through the physical pains and sufferings that come with old age and the inevitable loss of the other through death. This is the path of true marital love as God intended.
You need to change your attitude! As someone said, your husband is getting older too. I am also a woman getting older (approaching 40) and part of me wishes that I was still a young philly, but if I were a young philly again, I’d also be insecure and naive again.
It is so pervasive around here, its just a part of life. Ladies and gentlemen alike, but much more so with ladies. Affordable too. What is vain? If you ask an Amish lady, she would say one thing, a Yankee lady from the same area would say another. Coloring your hair, whitening your teeth, I could go on and on. The Amish would say its all vanity. Maybe you are right. I don’t know.
Well if it’s any help, I too was a woman of beauty when I was younger, but I found it to be more of a hinderance than anything else. Sure, I was always being asked out and treated with “royalty” just because I was pretty. It was really disheartening though because men just wanted me for sexual pleasure or to show off to their friends. I always felt undervalued and disrespected because I was a university student / graduate and professional woman and I was always resorted to a pretty girl.