Tampons, Sin? (Please ladies only)

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Dear readers,
I apologize for touching a very sensitive and a bit embarrassing topic, but I don’t dare to ask this question anyone I know. I would appreciate it a lot if an older lady could help me with my problem (I am a teenager).
It concerns using tampons. I never considered using them because I thought they were sinful and was afraid of tiring my hymen. I have always used pads, however my skin is always irritated and I feel very uncomfortable with them. Last week, a friend from my community told me about using tampons and was surprised that I considered them sinful. I educated myself on this topic and I found out, that the church doesn’t consider them sinful indeed, so I decided to give them a chance. However, this turned out to be a very bad idea, because I believe that I have torn my hymen out of nervousness while putting it. Now I am horrified. I am scared that my future husband won’t believe me that I didn’t commit a sin and that I am still a virgin. And that maybe that I even commited a sin indeed.
Please tell me what do you think about this. Do you think that it will be a big problem in future and that I should confess this to a priest as a si?
Thank you very much for your help.
 
Honey no this is NOT a sin don’t worry about that any longer. Plus the whole hymen breaking the first time someone has sex isn’t even true for everybody. Any husband with common sense would believe that you broke it from a tampon if that’s what you’re saying happened. Don’t worry
 
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Do you think that it will be a big problem in future and that I should confess this to a priest as a si?
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No, it’s not a sin. And a man who would think you’re not a virgin simply because you don’t have a hymen is one not worth pursuing. Women can lose their hymen to a number of things, a famous one being horseback riding. A loss of virginity is through consensual sexual intercourse. If he has a problem with that, then he can argue with the Church since it consecrates rape victims as Consecrated Virgins. If the Church considers them virgins, who are we to argue?
 
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Hymens break for so many reasons before a woman is married. Your future husband won’t be checking whether your hyman is intact, and if he intends to, he’s probably not husband-material. You can break your hyman riding a bike or a horse. Ease your mind and forget about it. Use your tampons as often as you need them. God bless.
 
This is absolutely not a sin. If you have a future husband who cares about your hymen to the point he thinks you’re lying, then you have much bigger problems than no hymen. I can’t imagine for one second he would care, and as @Fauken points out, women don’t have hymens for all sorts of reasons. Please don’t fall into the trap of scrupulosity.

I suggest you talk to your parents about this.
 
Antigone97 said:
Dear readers,
I apologize for touching a very sensitive and a bit embarrassing topic, but I don’t dare to ask this question anyone I know. I would appreciate it a lot if an older lady could help me with my problem (I am a teenager).
It concerns using tampons. I never considered using them because I thought they were sinful and was afraid of tiring my hymen. I have always used pads, however my skin is always irritated and I feel very uncomfortable with them. Last week, a friend from my community told me about using tampons and was surprised that I considered them sinful. I educated myself on this topic and I found out, that the church doesn’t consider them sinful indeed, so I decided to give them a chance. However, this turned out to be a very bad idea, because I believe that I have torn my hymen out of nervousness while putting it. Now I am horrified. I am scared that my future husband won’t believe me that I didn’t commit a sin and that I am still a virgin. And that maybe that I even commited a sin indeed.
Please tell me what do you think about this. Do you think that it will be a big problem in future and that I should confess this to a priest as a si?
Thank you very much for your help.
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Ditto everything the previous posters said. You haven’t sinned, you are still a virgin, be at peace.
 
If you are irritated you can try to use reusable cloth pads or knickers.

It usually cut irritations without the problem that internal protections create for virgin girls. And it is more funny than disposable ones.
 
Tampons are not sinful to use. If you would rather not use them anyway and you also do not like pads you could try “period underwear”, Thinx is the one brand name I am familiar with.
 
Thank you very much for your reassuring answers. I wasn’t sure how other Christians view these things because I am a “self-taught” Catholic, I am from an atheistic family and I don’t know many Christians personally. . . .
But now I am really delighted that I didn’t commit any sin 🙂
 
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I hope I don’t cross any inappropriate boundaries here…

Your hymen may have been slightly torn from using a tampon but it’s quite likely it is still mostly intact. There is a size difference between a tampon and the male organ. Rest assured that you are still a Virgin no matter what happened!

If pads are irritating your skin, I would definitely either stick with tampon use or the period pants mentioned by ZemD…whichever makes you feel more comfortable. Tampons aren’t easy to insert the first few times and it becomes much easier with practice. A small bit of lubricant can help in the learning process!

Please, put your mind at ease!
 
This topic isn’t “sensitive”. This is the 21st century and men discuss their masturbation on here all day long, so there’s nothing unusual or squicky about discussing normal female functions in a PG manner as required by the forum rules.

Using tampons is NOT sinful, regardless of whether you are a virgin or not.

A properly used tampon isn’t going to tear anything. If the tampon feels uncomfortable, it’s more likely that it is just not comfortable for you. Some women find pads more comfortable.

A man who is going to check you for a hymen to see if you’re a virgin, rather than accepting your word that you are one, is not the sort of man you should be marrying. There are many ways a woman can tear a hymen through normal exercise without having sex, and she might not even be aware the tearing has occurred. Catholics are not members of some primitive tribe who require hymens as proof of virginity.

If you have further concerns, please speak to your doctor.
 
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I thought that most christian husbands check wife’s virginity in some way.
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Good grief, NO. At least, Catholic husbands don’t, and the Protestant men I have known wouldn’t do that either. I can’t speak for every “Christian” group out there as there may be some weird non-Catholic sect that does this sort of gross thing.

Any man who even suggested such a thing to me would have gotten kicked out of my life well before we ever got engaged. I would consider such behavior by a man to be ungentlemanly and disgusting.
 
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Virginity is not all about the hymen firstly.

My wife tells me that it’s highly unlikely that you’ve torn your hymen with a tampon, as it is actually quite small and generally they don’t go that far.

Even if you did, it doesn’t matter. As several posters have said, the hymen is not necessarily a reliable measure of virginity.
 
I hope these answers have relieved your mind, OP. Are you a student still? Consider talking to your student health center or getting an obgyn checkup–they may be able to help you with all sorts of reproductive health questions, and a good medical professional will never pressure you to consider actions you would find immoral (i.e. going on contraception to prevent pregnancy).
 
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