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selvaraj
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Teaching aganist women in Saudi Arabian schools.
*Women have a strong innate jealousy, which may lead to strange attitudes, as happened to the ‘Mothers of the Believers’ . That does not diminish their rank and dignity.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 148
So, because of their little failings, we need to treat them a bit differently:
O people, you owe your wives their right and they owe you your right. They are obliged to you not to let someone else into your bed, not to let someone whom you hate into your house without your permission, and not to commit an evidently vile sin. If they do, then God has permitted you to oppress them, avoid being with them in bed, and beat them – but not harshly.
From Muhammad’s last sermon, Arabic Literature, Grade 10, (1999) p. 51
“but not harshly”? - well, no bruises, that’s a good rule of thumb. And also, because they are women, they are not worth as many camels as a man, when we have to pay “blood money”.
Bloodmoney for a free male Muslim… is a hundred camels.
Bloodmoney for a woman is half the bloodmoney for a man.
Islamic Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) p. 46
Which is only fair when you think about it. We can’t go giving away camels all over the place. Camels, especially good racing ones, are very valuable.
Because we can’t really trust women (you know, “jealousy” and “strange attitudes”), we’d better keep them out of the courts.As for women – their testimony is not accepted in [matters of] legal punishments [Hudud] and homicide cases [Dima’].
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001)p. 74
And if we do let them out, then they must be fully covered, of course:
There have been many proofs for the command of the veil and the prohibition of beautification and unveiling… God has imposed on the woman the duty to cover her whole body in order to be safe because of her veil from the offenders’ insults… He has prohibited beautification and unveiling because of the scandalous deeds they lead to.
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) p. 65
Naturally, we want to avoid “scandalous deeds”. See what happens in the West. Women go around uncovered, all the men follow them everywhere, dribbling and howling with uncontrollable lust. But talking about men, we don’t want them inciting lust either, minging around, looking like girlies.
The presence in private of a man with a strange woman, as well as mingling with men , are two of the most serious things leading to adultery and the greatest harm. Therefore, God’s Messenger forbade such mingling…
Islamic Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) pp. 67-68
But how do you stop them “mingling”, especially if they want to go out? Well, don’t allow them to drive, that’s one way, we’ve got that covered. But then the wealthier ones employ a driver, which causes its own problems:
One of the manifestations of forbidden privacy nowadays is a woman who sits in the car with the strange driver with no male relative [mahram] present.
So in fact, the only way to keep them really safe is:
It is best for a woman to protect herself from going out from home whenever possible.
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) pp. 67-68
So that explains everything, it’s really quite logical. So why is it that the West has a such a problem understanding us?
Anyway, if your wife is a problem, disobedient perhaps, and if all else fails, like refusing to sleep with her or slapping her around, it may be time to divorce her. But bear in mind that you can always pick up four cards before throwing one away…
One of the most difficult matters for a sensible woman is threatening her with divorce. The matter becomes more difficult if the husband replaces her with someone who is better than she is.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 151
…although you may get an even better card in its place. But, as the song says, you “have to know when to hold them, know when to fold them”, and if it’s time to chuck your hand in, at least our law makes it easy:
One of the good qualities of this Shari’ah Law is the permission to divorce when that is needed, namely, when there is no other solution, such as when conflict between the couple increases, living together becomes difficult and other means such as admonition, separation and attempts at reconciliation between them become useless.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 132
So you just need to tell her, but only once or at most twice. If you tell her three times, it sounds as though you’re getting obsessed, and making it personal. Also, avoid telling her during her period, because she’ll be grumpy, and avoid telling her while having sex, because it might lead to a discussion and distract you from your enjoyment.
In Christ,
selvaraj*
*Women have a strong innate jealousy, which may lead to strange attitudes, as happened to the ‘Mothers of the Believers’ . That does not diminish their rank and dignity.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 148
So, because of their little failings, we need to treat them a bit differently:
O people, you owe your wives their right and they owe you your right. They are obliged to you not to let someone else into your bed, not to let someone whom you hate into your house without your permission, and not to commit an evidently vile sin. If they do, then God has permitted you to oppress them, avoid being with them in bed, and beat them – but not harshly.
From Muhammad’s last sermon, Arabic Literature, Grade 10, (1999) p. 51
“but not harshly”? - well, no bruises, that’s a good rule of thumb. And also, because they are women, they are not worth as many camels as a man, when we have to pay “blood money”.
Bloodmoney for a free male Muslim… is a hundred camels.
Bloodmoney for a woman is half the bloodmoney for a man.
Islamic Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) p. 46
Which is only fair when you think about it. We can’t go giving away camels all over the place. Camels, especially good racing ones, are very valuable.
Because we can’t really trust women (you know, “jealousy” and “strange attitudes”), we’d better keep them out of the courts.As for women – their testimony is not accepted in [matters of] legal punishments [Hudud] and homicide cases [Dima’].
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001)p. 74
And if we do let them out, then they must be fully covered, of course:
There have been many proofs for the command of the veil and the prohibition of beautification and unveiling… God has imposed on the woman the duty to cover her whole body in order to be safe because of her veil from the offenders’ insults… He has prohibited beautification and unveiling because of the scandalous deeds they lead to.
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) p. 65
Naturally, we want to avoid “scandalous deeds”. See what happens in the West. Women go around uncovered, all the men follow them everywhere, dribbling and howling with uncontrollable lust. But talking about men, we don’t want them inciting lust either, minging around, looking like girlies.
The presence in private of a man with a strange woman, as well as mingling with men , are two of the most serious things leading to adultery and the greatest harm. Therefore, God’s Messenger forbade such mingling…
Islamic Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) pp. 67-68
But how do you stop them “mingling”, especially if they want to go out? Well, don’t allow them to drive, that’s one way, we’ve got that covered. But then the wealthier ones employ a driver, which causes its own problems:
One of the manifestations of forbidden privacy nowadays is a woman who sits in the car with the strange driver with no male relative [mahram] present.
So in fact, the only way to keep them really safe is:
It is best for a woman to protect herself from going out from home whenever possible.
[Islamic] Jurisprudence, Grade 10, (2001) pp. 67-68
So that explains everything, it’s really quite logical. So why is it that the West has a such a problem understanding us?
Anyway, if your wife is a problem, disobedient perhaps, and if all else fails, like refusing to sleep with her or slapping her around, it may be time to divorce her. But bear in mind that you can always pick up four cards before throwing one away…
One of the most difficult matters for a sensible woman is threatening her with divorce. The matter becomes more difficult if the husband replaces her with someone who is better than she is.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 151
…although you may get an even better card in its place. But, as the song says, you “have to know when to hold them, know when to fold them”, and if it’s time to chuck your hand in, at least our law makes it easy:
One of the good qualities of this Shari’ah Law is the permission to divorce when that is needed, namely, when there is no other solution, such as when conflict between the couple increases, living together becomes difficult and other means such as admonition, separation and attempts at reconciliation between them become useless.
[Qur’an] Commentary, Grade 9, (2000) p. 132
So you just need to tell her, but only once or at most twice. If you tell her three times, it sounds as though you’re getting obsessed, and making it personal. Also, avoid telling her during her period, because she’ll be grumpy, and avoid telling her while having sex, because it might lead to a discussion and distract you from your enjoyment.
In Christ,
selvaraj*