Teens Coming Out

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So the fat is the chin. I need to work on my chin anatomy.
 
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@StephenBales I think that’s a good idea to just use their name instead of the pronouns. I haven’t actually been confronted with that yet as most of what I’ve seen is about sexual preferences rather than gender things.

@SeriousQuestion I try not to be in bad company. The theater group I’ve been doing things with just recently got like this and I’ve actually decided to try and do shows that are still with the group but outside of the youth program they have where most of these kids are. It’s a decision based off of the conversations they have and things they do more than the fact that a lot identify as something lgbtq+. If I do audition for one of those youth shows, I know a few kids that I can trust are appropriate that I can hang around.
 
I agree!
I think that is a good route to go to show them kindness and of course, respect and pray for them.
 
I think it’s largely a fad with many young people, especially weaker-minded ones. They eventually go back in 😊, in my experience. Meanwhile they’re looking to be cool.
 
As a teen who struggles with same sex attraction one of the reason why I came out/told people I struggle with this is because I needed support in dealing with this attraction (it also stopped the age old, why don’t you get a girlfriend, question 😓).

However that partly back fired when they told me I should act on my desires…
 
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I think for sure ‘binary/gender fluid/queer’ is the latest trend for teens who may be experiencing SSA
 
You don’t need to answer what you identify with. You could respond, ‘that is personal’. You also don’t have to proclaim Catholic teaching whenever this issue is raised. Most people who support this are the type of people about which Jesus said to shake the dust from your sandals. They won’t listen.
Absolutely, once Same Sex Marriage was allowed as the law of the land things got worse fast.
To be more accurate same sex ‘marriage’ was imposed by the Supreme Court. It was forced on us against our will, especially in states like mine.
 
Most people who support this are the type of people about which Jesus said to shake the dust from your sandals. They won’t listen.
I think you’re probably right that they won’t listen, but we are still supposed to try before we move on
 
It’s really rather sad I think, society is in fact encouraging people to ‘not be themselves as it thinks it is’ but to be some sort of something else by refusing to give people boundaries. It reminds me of a saying I heard once that went ’ don’t be so open minded that your brains fall out’ (or something like that). I personally, think this has happened to our society…mind the brains 😃 (sorry this is only funny if you live in or have ever visited London and have heard the incessant mind the gap warnings on the tube ).
Anyway I agree with people’s advice we should love our neighbours faced with this distress, I personally don’t think they are at the point of listening to evangelisation or action so praying is our best and only course of action as you have seen, as well as love and non discrimination which can be challenging, I do know. The town I live is (Brighton) is know for it’s ahem…open mindedness and so if you are not from UK, let’s just say the whole city is like this theatre life you live.

In consolation something like it happens in different forms for every generation, the body of Christ will survive through it and out of our weakness as humans, the greatness of God thrives.
 
Point #1: Catholic Answers Forums will NOT be a good place to take your questions regarding LGBT experiences, if that’s what you want. If you’ll notice, there’s a lot of negativity directed towards those persons — doubting their actual experiences, twisting their motives (Destroying the Church!), and so on.

That said, regarding your responsibility, the best thing you can do is be a GOOD friend, and a good Christian witness. If you start telling them Catholic sexual teaching, believe me, that won’t work. Are they even attracted to the Faith, in the first place? Or Jesus? Start with the fundamentals.

I’m sure it’s been hard for plenty of them. Many probably have been (or still are) bullied. The worst thing to do would be to reject their testimonies and experiences outright.
 
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I didn’t read the replies so far but honestly, leave it alone. You won’t truly know if they’re faking or not and whatever you say about how you disapprove won’t change anything. Continue being loving and friendly and share about your faith.
 
A couple of years ago I had my teen coworker come out to me as ‘asexual’. She believed she was asexual because she had never felt sexual attraction before.

I was like: You’re barely fully grown… why WOULD you feel sexual attraction???

So disturbed by this culture that sexualizes children to the point they think they’re ‘asexual’ if they have no desire for sex before they hit adulthood.
 
Exactly. No point ranting about how it’s a sin if they don’t even believe in God or Christianity.
 
I agree with this.

Because of my history the majority of my friends are LGBT in some way or other. The BEST thing you can do as a friend is be a living example of the Catholic faith and be open to answer questions if they approach you.

Jesus didn’t go knocking on doors, He let people come to Him. And they came because He lived the life.

Eventually if you are kind, loving and patient, they WILL come to you with questions. Just be ready with an answer by researching Church teaching.
 
It can be annoying and REALLY counter-productive when it gets to something like this:

LGBT Person: Yeah so I’m gay and have experienced same-sex attraction for as long as I can remember!
Catholic Person: It’s just a phase! Take up your cross and pray it away! You are called to holiness! You have a father wound! The Devil misleads us! You’re secretly trying to destroy the Church!

(Paraphrasing actual experiences of mine here at CAF…)
 
Hear that. As someone who chose to be celibate the assumption was ALWAYS that I was celibate because of sexual abuse in my past. Because NO HEALTHY human could EVER refuse sex (and to make it worse for a time I was quite the attractive little lady - not so much anymore as health problems made my weight explode but yeah… being attractive AND celibate = the assumption I was this way because I feared sex).

Unfortunate people fall on such stupid assumptions.
 
I think you’re probably right that they won’t listen, but we are still supposed to try before we move on
Maybe we are supposed to try. We have to always be prudent. But I agree in general we need to more openly proclaim the faith. There is too much of a tendency to say nothing these days which isn’t good for anyone’s soul, ours included.
 
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