Can you show where you found the catechism saying Divorce was not wrong? These terms have no qualifiers. 2384
Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law. It claims to break the contract, to which the spouses freely consented, to live with each other till death. Divorce does injury to the covenant of salvation, of which sacramental marriage is the sign. then… 2385
Divorce is immoral also because it introduces disorder into the family and into society. This disorder brings grave harm to the deserted spouse, to children traumatized by the separation of their parents and often torn between them, and because of its contagious effect which makes it truly a plague on society. Notice this passage separates adultery from divorce and describes them as the same… 2400 Adultery,
divorce, polygamy, and free union are** grave offenses** against the dignity of marriage. Separation can be legitimate… 2383 The separation of spouses while maintaining the marriage bond can be legitimate in certain cases provided for by canon law.177 Divorce can be tolerated… If civil divorce remains the only possible way of ensuring certain legal rights, the care of the children, or the protection of inheritance, it can be tolerated ( Webster’s dictionary. tolerate : to allow (
something that is bad, unpleasant, etc.) to exist, happen, or be done
innocent.- 2386 It can happen that one of the spouses is the
innocent victim of a divorce decreed by civil law; this spouse therefore has not contravened the moral law. There is a considerable difference between a spouse who has sincerely tried to be faithful to the sacrament of marriage and is unjustly abandoned, and one who through his own grave fault destroys a canonically valid marriage.179 Explain how the same person can file for divorce and be faithful to the Sacrament of Marriage? You may be confusing long term separation approved by the Bishop, with divorce. The Church is clear, the only reason for a civil divorce, is to protect finances. Separation can be acceptable if the spouse is in danger… C Law lays down the specific reasons. In all cases the Church expects reconciliation. The Church never says divorce is not a bad thing. The church admits that it may be needed to protect finances, as a legal step since the marriage bond can’t be dissolved except by the death. If a decree of nullity is granted, no marriage ever existed. The two were never married.
Please cite the sections in the Catechism where it contradicts the statements above and says divorce, is not a bad thing. C L calls for reconciliation. CL1153.2
In all cases,** when the reason for separation ceases**, the common conjugal life
is to be restored, unless otherwise provided by ecclesiastical authority. **
If one files for Divorce for irreconcilable differences, is happy they divorced and refuse to reconcile It would be hard to imagine they were repenting. If you recite the Act of Contrition, knowing you are not sorry, you lied. If the Church expects reconciliation and you refuse, you are telling the Holy Spirit that He is wrong, your way is better. The Catechism talks of - Satisfaction 1459 Sins wrong our neighbor. One must do what is possible in order to repair the harm** (e.g., return stolen goods, restore the reputation of someone . Justice requires as much. Sin also injures and weakens the sinner himself, as well as his relationships with God and neighbor. Absolution takes away sin, but it does not remedy all the disorders sin has caused.62 Raised up from sin, the sinner must still recover his full spiritual health by doing something more to make amends for the sin: he must “make satisfaction for” or “expiate” his sins.
1460 The penance the confessor imposes must take into account the penitent’s personal situation and must seek his spiritual good. It must correspond as far as possible with the gravity and nature of the sins committed. It can consist of prayer, an offering, works of mercy, service of neighbor, voluntary self-denial, sacrifices, and above all the patient acceptance of the cross we must bear. Such penances help configure us to Christ, who alone expiated our sins once for all. They allow us to become co-heirs with the risen Christ, “provided we suffer with him.” If Jesus said marriage is forever and you refuse to follow his teaching on forgiveness and reconciliation it shows you do not believe God’s Grace can fix your marriage. You refuse to even allow Him to intercede by rejecting reconciliation.
Usually when a Priest is asked if divorce people can receive the Eucharist, they will answer yes and include a statement similar to, if they are other wise in the proper state of Grace to receive. It is misleading many who miss the last part of the statement. If you are not following Church teaching on Marriage and Separation are you in a proper state of Grace?
How would Jesus have handled it? The Gospels show he spoke the truth no matter the audience. we like to water things down and call it pastoral. We tend to offer prayers where action is needed . If we just pray and don’t correct, everyone feels good… With Jesus, it was much more important to guide us to Heaven than to make sure we felt good in the moment. By refusing to confront sin we take on part of the responsibility for the sin…
1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover, we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:
- by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
- by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
- by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
- by protecting evil-doers.
