Temptation to commit adultery

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I do not want to get into too many details. However, I joined the church during Passover 2015. I am married of 2-3 years, and recently met a women and have been tempted to do what is wrong and sinful (adultery). We have each others numbers, and text often. The wheels are rolling per say. I know this is wrong, but the temptation is so strong, the struggle within is eating at me. The more I struggle, the more I seek Gods help. I am in a bind. I am not sure whats going on but I, and it needs to stop. I am struggling deeply with the temptations…

Please, please, please pray for me. I feel under attack.
 
Please, you are not under attack.

Every time you text this woman, every time you read a text from her, you are hurting your marriage. As time goes by, you will justify what you are doing. Or say “it just happened.” It never just happens, it is a choice people make.

Just stop it. Block her number, delete her from your contacts. Pay attention to your wife as much as you paid attention to this woman.

Get some counseling for yourself to figure out why you are doing this. Make an appointment with your priest, or rabbi, or whoever your spiritual leader is.

The temptation is there only because you are choosing to do what is wrong. You are not a victim of anything. Your poor wife is.

Prayers said that you will do the right thing for your marriage.
 
Brother, I was also happened to experience the same situation long back. While the other force attracted me towards the sin i often experience, I hardly prayed to the Holy Spirit with my own intention or or not to pray against this sin, God eagerly helped me to find an alternate way that he will also arrange for you once you have the willingness to get rid off the sin. God never fails and you will succeed in this. In future you will learnt that you had how saved from committing such a crime , shameful and fallen attitude. Thank to the Grace of our Lord ever.
 
Praying the St. Michael prayer for you.
**And Llsten to IrishMom. **
This is not something out of your control.
It’s totally up to you, and you KNOW it is wrong, so it’s a grave matter.
You have a wife. Tend to her.
Peace.
 
Irishmom2 said:
Please, you are not under attack.

Every time you text this woman, every time you read a text from her, you are hurting your marriage. As time goes by, you will justify what you are doing. Or say “it just happened.” It never just happens, it is a choice people make.

Just stop it. Block her number, delete her from your contacts. Pay attention to your wife as much as you paid attention to this woman.

Get some counseling for yourself to figure out why you are doing this. Make an appointment with your priest, or rabbi, or whoever your spiritual leader is.

The temptation is there only because you are choosing to do what is wrong. You are not a victim of anything. Your poor wife is.

Prayers said that you will do the right thing for your marriage.
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👍 Well said. Block her number and delete her from your contact list. Do it right now. Don’t put it off.
 
inHIMiTRUST85 said:
I do not want to get into too many details. However, I joined the church during Passover 2015. I am married of 2-3 years, and recently met a women and have been tempted to do what is wrong and sinful (adultery). We have each others numbers, and text often. The wheels are rolling per say. I know this is wrong, but the temptation is so strong, the struggle within is eating at me. The more I struggle, the more I seek Gods help. I am in a bind. I am not sure whats going on but I, and it needs to stop. I am struggling deeply with the temptations…

Please, please, please pray for me. I feel under attack.
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You need to have a zero tolerance policy regarding giving/getting phone numbers to/from other women. I am sure you would not understand if your wife got the phone number of another man, gave her number to him and shared texts back and forth.

There are many (seemingly) attractive people in the world so don’t even go there .

Go cold turkey on this one and work on your marriage. And yes, the evil one does delight in this, so if you are feeling that you are under attack, well…

Prayers said for you!
 
Irishmom2 said:
Please, you are not under attack.

Every time you text this woman, every time you read a text from her, you are hurting your marriage. As time goes by, you will justify what you are doing. Or say “it just happened.” It never just happens, it is a choice people make.

Just stop it. Block her number, delete her from your contacts. Pay attention to your wife as much as you paid attention to this woman.

Get some counseling for yourself to figure out why you are doing this. Make an appointment with your priest, or rabbi, or whoever your spiritual leader is.

The temptation is there only because you are choosing to do what is wrong. You are not a victim of anything. Your poor wife is.

Prayers said that you will do the right thing for your marriage.
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Well stated. Why are you texting/responding to the texts? You know it’s wrong. Praying for you, your wife & your marriage.
 
Deleting and blocking is the way to go. I wish I had years ago when this was going on in my life.
 
inHIMiTRUST85 said:
I do not want to get into too many details. However, I joined the church during Passover 2015. I am married of 2-3 years, and recently met a women and have been tempted to do what is wrong and sinful (adultery). We have each others numbers, and text often. The wheels are rolling per say. I know this is wrong, but the temptation is so strong, the struggle within is eating at me. The more I struggle, the more I seek Gods help. I am in a bind. I am not sure whats going on but I, and it needs to stop. I am struggling deeply with the temptations…

Please, please, please pray for me. I feel under attack.
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Delete the other women’s number, go home and kiss your wife, and tell her that you love her. Then set up a private session with a counselor to discuss why you felt the need to cheat.

The only way to over come this temptation is to examine yourself and grow in character. Speaking with a professional therapist may be the best way to start this process. It will not be easy, but start now before “anything” happens.
 
Thank you for your responses. Cold turkey is the way to go. I will seek help from our local priest.

Please continue to pray for me and my wife.

Thanks again.
 
Glad to hear that.

Don’t put yourself in situations like that. The poster that said not to even get numbers from women was correct.

You will be in our prayers.
 
Irishmom2 said:
Please, you are not under attack.

Every time you text this woman, every time you read a text from her, you are hurting your marriage. As time goes by, you will justify what you are doing. Or say “it just happened.” It never just happens, it is a choice people make.

Just stop it. Block her number, delete her from your contacts. Pay attention to your wife as much as you paid attention to this woman.

Get some counseling for yourself to figure out why you are doing this. Make an appointment with your priest, or rabbi, or whoever your spiritual leader is.

The temptation is there only because you are choosing to do what is wrong. You are not a victim of anything. Your poor wife is.

Prayers said that you will do the right thing for your marriage.
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Pretty much this.

Satan might be whispering in your ear, but only because you’re making it easy to do so by continuing with this relationship that you already realize is a major problem.

Block her number and stop interacting with her.
inHIMiTRUST85 said:
Thank you for your responses. Cold turkey is the way to go. I will seek help from our local priest.

Please continue to pray for me and my wife.

Thanks again.
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Glad to hear it, this is best for your marriage!
 
inHIMiTRUST85 said:
Thank you for your responses. Cold turkey is the way to go. I will seek help from our local priest.

Please continue to pray for me and my wife.

Thanks again.
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Right decision, stay on that path. Continued prayers for you, your wife & marriage.
 
every time your tempted to talk to the other woman or tempted to act on adultery think of how that would hurt your spouse
 
Praying for you to stay strong and get this other women out of your life.
 
Pray the St. Michael prayer each and everytime the temptation comes. Also thank the Lord and praise Him for your wife. I am so glad you will be seeing your priest. Good choice.
You are in my prayers.
mlz
 
Also, and I say this in all charity for your spiritual good, consider whether you have done anything you need to confess.

Praying to Mary to give you chastity.
 
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