Tempted And On The Verge - Advice Needed

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I’m an 18 year old guy and Catholic. I go to Church every Saturday/Sunday night but I’m also attracted to men. I don’t plan on wanting to get “married” or anything to men, I want to marry a woman and have a family but I’m sexually attracted to men and that’s it. I’ve recently come across the chance to have sex with a man and it’s been tempting me for a long time now since this offer has been around for months. Something in me keeps fighting it but it is driving me insane having to always be torn from one thing for the other and vice versa. I personally feel like I am close with God but having these homosexual feelings make me feel bad but when I indulge in them it makes me feel happy but then I feel bad after then I get the urge to indulge again. I am very confused on what to do about all of this and it’s slowly disrupting my life, I know that it is not religion that is doing this to me because I know that is what’s right but sometimes I just want to try things out and see how it works out and repent afterwards but I know that confession is only when you’re sincerely sorry for doing the act and I’d be sorry for disobeying God’s word but not sorry for that act.

I implore any and all advice from you good people, and thank you for taking your time to help me.
 
Contact www.couragerc.net today. There are Catholic people there, who are faithful to the teachings of the Church, who have been down the same road, who carry the same cross.

Prayers for you!

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Whether of not you are having a same sex attraction or an opposite sex attraction, the advice is the same.

You are not married. Resist the urge to follow society and engage in extra-marital sex.

As for your same sex attraction - that is a different issue from the immediate problem. Courage is a good start.

Good luck. You can live a chaste life no matter what your circumstances.
 
Thank you all so much for the help. It is something that I know I will have to battle with, fighting the tempation will be hard but I just hope that I will not be hated by God for this. Sometimes it’s just too much for me to handle.
 
Thank you all so much for the help. It is something that I know I will have to battle with, fighting the tempation will be hard but I just hope that I will not be hated by God for this. Sometimes it’s just too much for me to handle.
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God will never hate you! You are very, very loved… And just think, since God is letting you go through this struggle, it must mean that you can get so much closer to Him through this than you would be able to without it. He knows your heart and is pulling for you every step of the way! Have courage, hold fast to Him, and He will see you through. Your struggles are so beautiful to Him, because it means you love Him and are trying… What hurts Him is indifference.

I will be praying for you. May our Blessed Mother give you special grace and protection through her feast day today.
 
Untruth said:
I’ve recently come across the chance to have sex with a man and it’s been tempting me for a long time now since this offer has been around for months.
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Be smart, my brother, and flee the temptation. Break off any contact with this man who tempted you. Don’t talk to him, and don’t think about him. This way, you will soon feel better.

May God bless you, may our Blessed Mother and the Holy Angels protect you.
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you:) I can only imagine what you are going through. I do know how difficult it is following your own beliefs without risking hurting other people you are close to by making them feel judged (hate the sin - love the sinner isn’t an easy concept to explain, is it?)

The fact that you are struggling and keeping your faith speaks volumes for your courage as a person. Many people have never had to face a trial like yours - but be strong:)
 
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, I want to marry a woman and have a family but I’m sexually attracted to men and that’s it. …
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Until you figure things out, marriage should be the last thing on your mind. Marriage isn’t the place to decide your sexual orientation. I will pray for you and your struggles.
Kathy
 
**“Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil”…**Jesus left this prayer for us for a reason, it is especially needed in our times of struggle. Just say this over and over and picture HIM as you do. HE will always hear you and be with you, you are strong and you can resist, you sound very faithful to your Catholicism…God bless.
 
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Until you figure things out, marriage should be the last thing on your mind. Marriage isn’t the place to decide your sexual orientation. I will pray for you and your struggles.
Kathy
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I strongly agree with the above.

My dear brother, you must seek professional counseling for this is a cross you should not attempt to bare alone. RUN, do not walk to your priest. A good priest will point you to a therapist. There are faith based counselors that specialize in Homosexuality and can help you ease this burden. Do not be afraid. God bless you!
 
What you are going through isn’t all that different from what most straight men go through. There are women I see at work and elsewhere that are very attractive. If I had the opportunity to “be with them” I would have to resist a natural desire to do so. That is just a natural part of life that we can’t have everything we desire.
 
Untruth,

COURAGE. call them.

and this: the devil tries to deceive us that certain temptations will always be a burden, so, he seduces, ‘you might as well just give yourself over to it.’

that is a lie. flee from it right into Jesus’ Most Sacred Heart. by God’s grace, people can be healed of overwhelming tendencies toward certain temptations. it’s only when we give ourselves over to the sin that we become un-free. sin is what makes us slaves-- not virtue.

when i’m really having a tough time, feeling like i’m being crushed by a worry, temptation or sorrow i pray the Anima Criste and repeat the line: O Good Jesus hear me. Within your wounds hide me."
 
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