Could I ask you to NOT berate people who post in this thread? I asked for advice, that means I want to know how everyone judges the situation. While it’s admirable that you want to defend my mother, please understand that I didn’t make this thread in order to attack her. I don’t need to, it’s clear to everyone who knows her how she lives her life.Her daughter doesn’t communicate with her. How can you say that? Chances that she is not is not your responsibility or judgment call. Yes, she should be watched.
Berate people? It’s called discussion. Since the poster doesn’t know your mother from Adam, I think it’s imprudent to judge what the “chances are” that your mother is a certain way. I’m not defending your mother’s behavior or actions. She obviously has issues.Could I ask you to NOT berate people who post in this thread? I asked for advice, that means I want to know how everyone judges the situation. While it’s admirable that you want to defend my mother, please understand that I didn’t make this thread in order to attack her. I don’t need to, it’s clear to everyone who knows her how she lives her life.
It may sound excessive to someone who doesn’t know her. I mean, most people are not as bad as all that… But everything I’ve said is true as I see it. I wouldn’t say these things if I didn’t have solid proof for them. I could have gone into detail about the way she has abused her own parents, or the times she threatened me with violence, or the time she stole my identity, or all the times she has lied for attention (like the time she told everyone she had cancer), but I was trying to be charitable. I wanted to make a post asking for help, not a laundry list of all her sins.What is clear is that from the first post you called her a sociopathic pathological liar, intimated that she could’ve just become grossly fat, a big fat liar and said that you hate her. She may be all those things, but you’re not doing yourself any favors by responding this way and speaking this way.
I have some people in my life who are a lot like your mom (including a sister who faked having cancer). It is really impossible to fathom how difficult it is to deal with people like this until you’ve seen their wrath. I am not a person who deals with these sorts of things in a way that most people on the forum would appreciate, so I won’t be giving you advice except to say that I understand.It may sound excessive to someone who doesn’t know her. I mean, most people are not as bad as all that… But everything I’ve said is true as I see it. I wouldn’t say these things if I didn’t have solid proof for them. I could have gone into detail about the way she has abused her own parents, or the times she threatened me with violence, or the time she stole my identity, or all the times she has lied for attention (like the time she told everyone she had cancer), but I was trying to be charitable. I wanted to make a post asking for help, not a laundry list of all her sins.
If you don’t want to help then please don’t post in this thread any more. I am sick to death of people telling me off because I don’t love my mother the way I “should”, or how I’m a terrible daughter because I cut her out of my life, or how I should just keep all her crimes against me and others to myself and not make waves.
I didn’t say it was excessive. I said it does you no good to call her names and speak that way (that is… liar, fat, etc.). I don’t doubt that those things are true that you mentioned. You can list her behavior without resorting to meanness.It may sound excessive to someone who doesn’t know her. I mean, most people are not as bad as all that… But everything I’ve said is true as I see it. I wouldn’t say these things if I didn’t have solid proof for them. I could have gone into detail about the way she has abused her own parents, or the times she threatened me with violence, or the time she stole my identity, or all the times she has lied for attention (like the time she told everyone she had cancer), but I was trying to be charitable. I wanted to make a post asking for help, not a laundry list of all her sins.
You asked for a Catholic (Christian) response. I gave it to you. I’m not telling you how to love your mother or not to love your mother, although I did point out that as a human being, she is loved by God and therefore due some respect as a human being, created in the image of God.If you don’t want to help then please don’t post in this thread any more. I am sick to death of people telling me off because I don’t love my mother the way I “should”, or how I’m a terrible daughter because I cut her out of my life, or how I should just keep all her crimes against me and others to myself and not make waves.
Don’t underestimate emotional abuse. If you have been lucky enough to not to be abused in anyway, that’s wonderful and I’m very happy for you. I for one have had physical, verbal and emotional abuse, so I understand her concerns. Do you not understand what I meant by being bruised on the inside? It can take years for someone who has been abused, in any form, to come forward and say something! Do you sit back and wait until the can say something? Was the OP suppose to run out and tell everyone that her mother wasn’t feeding her and changing her diaper? If there is a belief that this women is going to be cruel to these children, then someone needs to know to watch her.We weren’t talking about emotional abuse. Neglect and physical abuse was mentioned. And how are we supposed to measure bruises inside? What if one of your friends sent the authorities to your house because they thought your child had “bruises inside”?
Her daughter doesn’t communicate with her. How can you say that? Chances that she is not is not your responsibility or judgment call. Yes, she should be watched.
I’m not underestimating it. All I’m asking is how can you physically check that and have the authorities act upon that? The children would need to be evaluated by a psychologist. And there would have to be sufficient reason for the child services to investigate that. Yes, I understand what you mean.Don’t underestimate emotional abuse. If you have been lucky enough to not to be abused in anyway, that’s wonderful and I’m very happy for you. I for one have had physical, verbal and emotional abuse, so I understand her concerns. Do you not understand what I meant by being bruised on the inside? It can take years for someone who has been abused, in any form, to come forward and say something! Do you sit back and wait until the can say something? Was the OP suppose to run out and tell everyone that her mother wasn’t feeding her and changing her diaper? If there is a belief that this women is going to be cruel to these children, then someone needs to know to watch her.
Oh boy…listen…I never told you not to post. We were having a discussion (I thought) between adults. People disagree. That’s life. But we don’t have to get so emotional about it. Yes, she has a right to be concerned. And she can do what she likes. I’m trying to help her by making her case stick if she runs with it.If you don’t want to agree with me fine!! But the OP asked for advice and I’m giving it to her, if she doesn’t want mine, all she has to do is say the word and I will stop posting, no feelings hurt. I think she has every right to be concerned about these children and every right to voice these concerns. I’m sure her anger is coming from thinking about this women hurting yet another child! It has to be terribly frustrating to know that this cycle could be repeating itself, again.
You are NOT a terrible daughter…you sound wise beyond your years, the result, I’m sure of the life you have been forced to live because of the circumstances that have been put upon you.It may sound excessive to someone who doesn’t know her. I mean, most people are not as bad as all that… But everything I’ve said is true as I see it. I wouldn’t say these things if I didn’t have solid proof for them. I could have gone into detail about the way she has abused her own parents, or the times she threatened me with violence, or the time she stole my identity, or all the times she has lied for attention (like the time she told everyone she had cancer), but I was trying to be charitable. I wanted to make a post asking for help, not a laundry list of all her sins.
If you don’t want to help then please don’t post in this thread any more. I am sick to death of people telling me off because I don’t love my mother the way I “should”, or how I’m a terrible daughter because I cut her out of my life, or how I should just keep all her crimes against me and others to myself and not make waves.
How many 13 month olds could reason out that an infant needed to be fed and would have the ability to prepare bottles and feed said infant? And, if they were so advanced, would they even remember doing it when older?At the age of 13 months I was preparing bottles for my infant sister because nobody else remembered to do so
I don’t remember doing it. That would be crazy. My Grandmother told me, and I trust her word. The reason I brought it up is because it’s one of the few things she’s told me about that time. People don’t talk about that time too often in my presence because they are trying to protect me. I’m sure I wasn’t mixing formula or anything, but I was a very precocious child so I don’t see it as too fantastical for me to have screwed off the lid and put water in it or something. And it’s possible that she’s a bit off about my age. Perhaps I was doing the bottle thing when I was two… In any case, it’s still pretty serious when a very young child feels like a mother to her younger sibling because her real mother is so terrible at it.Everyone involved here needs our prayers. I saw this thread when it was first posted but didn’t have a chance to post until this morning. Am I the only one who noticed this part of the op:
How many 13 month olds could reason out that an infant needed to be fed and would have the ability to prepare bottles and feed said infant? And, if they were so advanced, would they even remember doing it when older?
I am not accusing the OP of anything other than listening to and believing what someone else told them probably from the time they were very young. Parts of it may indeed be true but parts were likely exaggerated or embellished for whatever reasons.