Thank You Notes - when, how, and how frequent?

[jarn98]

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Ah…I vote for the card without the gift.:whackadoo: Let them shake it a few times to see if something falls out. Who knows, they might even finally call you and ask if you forgot something. And then you can say, “Let me think. Nope. Can’t think of anything. If you are referring to the lack of a gift, it is because I thought you didn’t want any from me because you never thanked me for the previous presents.”

Picture yourself in those fuzzy pjs by the fire eating that box of candy. :yyeess:

Bahahaha-I CAN picture it!! aicirt, I like your style!

 

[Viki63]

I once sent a large donation to a family who had a fire. I never heard back from them. I’ve been kicking myself for some time because it’s too late to ask if they received it, but they might not have. Next time I will be sure to inquire, just to know the gift arrived.

I have family members who don’t know about the custom of thank you notes. I’ve been to several quinceaneras, birthday parties and weddings, and never received an acknowledgement for a gift. It doesn’t seem to be a custom in their country of origin.
I’m torn between stopping with the gifts, or next time asking them if they received it. I think that’s the best plan – maybe they’ll start to understand the custom here eventually,

 

[aicirt]

I once sent a large donation to a family who had a fire. I never heard back from them. I’ve been kicking myself for some time because it’s too late to ask if they received it, but they might not have. Next time I will be sure to inquire, just to know the gift arrived.

I have family members who don’t know about the custom of thank you notes. I’ve been to several quinceaneras, birthday parties and weddings, and never received an acknowledgement for a gift. It doesn’t seem to be a custom in their country of origin.
I’m torn between stopping with the gifts, or next time asking them if they received it. I think that’s the best plan – maybe they’ll start to understand the custom here eventually,

You could attach a self addressed envelope with the gift. In a separate note with the gift, you could say that you’d appreciate it if the other card was mailed back to you upon receipt of the present. The reason: “I’m never sure if a gift has arrived and this way I’ll know you have received it.”

You could also add, if it is expensive, “This way I don’t have to worry about notifying the insurance co. Thank-you”.

Or the actual gift could be a very pretty box of THANK YOU cards with a pretty pen and some stamps.