Thank You, Thank You, Thank You

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Sina said:
I bet whomever told me that wedding thank you cards are due up to a year later mixed up the gift giving etiquette as pointed out.

I did mine RIGHT away before leaving on the honeymoon too.

Now… Christmas gifts… I wrote two thank you cards to my friends parents who gave me very thoughtful gifts this year. My DH mocked me and said nobody ever has to write Christmas thank you cards.

In this case I really wanted to, but I agree that maybe thank you cards are not needed for your parents and siblings when they give you Christmas gifts. What do you think?
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Yes they are!! IMO even if you open those gifts with those family members!!!
Think of it this way!

Pack 8 of Thank You Cards (at a discount store) = $5.00
Postage Stamp = $.41
Showing someone how thankful you are that they took their time, energy and money to give you something = PRICELESS
😃
 
lizaanne said:
So I took her shopping for her wedding gown, for her husband’s ring, to pick out decorations for the backyard reception, then decorated everything the day before. Oh, and I made her the most GORGEOUS card bag from left over lace from her gown - I could have sold it for well over $100.

Then my ex got a call that I was not INVITED!!!
~Liza
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Hold it - I am confused. You got un-invited the day before the wedding after you had already decorated for them?

At and rate…Yes - people are incredible. Plus no thanks you for all your assistance.
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StratusRose said:
Hmph. I would have given them a children’s book on basic manners. Seems like that’s what they needed most of all!
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LOL, I did that to a “friend” of mine, to say the least we have not talked in years. All I can hope is that she read the book!!! 😃
 
Now, I could be wrong…however, I was taught that if you receive/open the gift in person and say THANK YOU to the person who gave it to you, a formal thank-you note is not required.

I always sent thank-yous when I was younger…just married, etc.

Now that my oldest is going on 7, she writes them. For her birthday or Christmas or whatever.

With the 4 and 2 year old, we usually just call and let them thank the person over the phone, unless the person delivered the gift personally and my children had the opportunity to personally thank them, too.

Did I miss the boat on that? I guess I always thought (or was taught at some point) a personal “thank you” was even better than writing one out.🤷
 
jrabs said:
Hold it - I am confused. You got un-invited the day before the wedding after you had already decorated for them?

At and rate…Yes - people are incredible. Plus no thanks you for all your assistance.
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Yep - you got it!! We decorated during the day, and that evening her soon to be husband called the house to speak with my ex about it.

Rudeness knows no bounds. :rolleyes:

She didn’t even thank me the next day at the wedding or reception, or mention that I had helped her with anything.

~Liza
 
lizaanne said:
Yep - you got it!! We decorated during the day, and that evening her soon to be husband called the house to speak with my ex about it.

Rudeness knows no bounds. :rolleyes:

She didn’t even thank me the next day at the wedding or reception, or mention that I had helped her with anything.

~Liza
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Horror! See, that’s where you are such a better person then I ever could be! Grace follows you.

I know if in that situation I may have had fun with wedding cake. 😃 ( kidding people!)
 
3GirlsRUs said:
Now, I could be wrong…however, I was taught that if you receive/open the gift in person and say THANK YOU to the person who gave it to you, a formal thank-you note is not required.

I always sent thank-yous when I was younger…just married, etc.

Now that my oldest is going on 7, she writes them. For her birthday or Christmas or whatever.

With the 4 and 2 year old, we usually just call and let them thank the person over the phone, unless the person delivered the gift personally and my children had the opportunity to personally thank them, too.

Did I miss the boat on that? I guess I always thought (or was taught at some point) a personal “thank you” was even better than writing one out.🤷
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I finally decided to look up the proper etiquette on Thank You cards. Guess I am more strict than the etiquette 😦
Here is the link entertaining.about.com/cs/etiquette/a/thankyou.htm

You are right 😉

Although, I will still send my cards cards 😃 , just my personal preferences
 
K…my opinion on this is TOTALLY different from everyone else here. If you are attending a function and/or giving a gift, you SHOULD be doing so with NO expectation of anything in return. If you expect to get a note or some other such recognition then you are not giving from your heart. Yes, sending a thank you note is considerate and good form, but it should not be expected, and to whine about it is surely wasting your energies and time.

just my little opinion…:cool:
 
I love sending thank you cards!!
For all kinds of things too. Mostly because I thoughtfully write something special for whoever it is for and because no one does it anymore. They never expect it. Sad really, but I stock up on nifty cards at half priced books and goodwill and such. I have a huge stash for all kinds of occasions.
 
Ilroy said:
K…my opinion on this is TOTALLY different from everyone else here. If you are attending a function and/or giving a gift, you SHOULD be doing so with NO expectation of anything in return. If you expect to get a note or some other such recognition then you are not giving from your heart. Yes, sending a thank you note is considerate and good form, but it should not be expected, and to whine about it is surely wasting your energies and time.

just my little opinion…:cool:
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I completely disagree. If I handed someone a gift and they just snatched it and went about their business, you better believe I would be PO’ed.

I don’t think expecting a note or a simple “Thank You” is out of line. It’s basic manners.

Just because one would expect a thank you note is no way indicative that they did not give from the heart. Gifts and the people who gave them are to be appreciated in a proper way.
 
Ilroy said:
K…my opinion on this is TOTALLY different from everyone else here. If you are attending a function and/or giving a gift, you SHOULD be doing so with NO expectation of anything in return. If you expect to get a note or some other such recognition then you are not giving from your heart. Yes, sending a thank you note is considerate and good form, but it should not be expected, and to whine about it is surely wasting your energies and time.

just my little opinion…:cool:
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I can see your point and I never give anything expecting anything in return. Although, I will NOT be giving the Mom’s Club anything else again if they could not take even 1 minute of their time to call and tell me or send me a Thank You for a $300+ donation. IMO an Thank You does tell the giver how much you appriciate their gift.
 
agree agree agree agree agree!!! my brother and SIL handed out these pathetic little scrolls at their wedding that were pre-printed thank yous and had the same message in them. don’t get me wrong, i think that the scrolls were nice, but come on…people gave them like $500 cash gifts.the LEAST these people deserved was a one sentance thanks that was personalized and showed the guest that they personally recognized their gift and were thankful for it!! i write thanks cards for all gifts and have taught DD the same. there is no excuse for laziness, bad manners or just plain stupidity. sorry to all that might not agree, but we need to get back to some basic values, and were I come from, gifts deserve a thanks. twk
 
I think people should send thank yous…but at the very least they could email you:shrug:
 
Ilroy said:
K…my opinion on this is TOTALLY different from everyone else here. If you are attending a function and/or giving a gift, you SHOULD be doing so with NO expectation of anything in return. If you expect to get a note or some other such recognition then you are not giving from your heart. Yes, sending a thank you note is considerate and good form, but it should not be expected, and to whine about it is surely wasting your energies and time.

just my little opinion…:cool:
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Oh, gag me. That is just so trite. If you invite someone to your formal wedding, and they accept, I’ll bet you (a) *expect *them to dress accordingly; (b) *expect *them to behave appropriately; and, probably, (c) *expect *them to give a gift. Or would that mean your invitation was not “from the heart”?

And, when I care enough about someone to give them a gift, my expectation is that they care enough about me to take two minutes to express some level of appreciation. And it is (a) a disappointment and (b) really poor form, when they do not.
 
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