I am among the 1% or less, maybe much less, of Mormons who do believe that Jesus was married to Mary, Martha and Mary and had children with them. I have four bases for this belief: 1. The opinions expressed in the Journal of Discourses. 2. My assumption that Jesus “needed” in his mortal life to experience marriage and parenthood so that he could feel as we do. 3. It is just too painful for me to think that Jesus never had the love of and for a wife or wives and children in his mortal life. 4. The whisper of the spirit.
I can’t claim to have received a personal revelation telling me that Jesus was not married; but my
theological understanding is that He most likely wasn’t, for the following reasons:
Firstly, it is obliquely implied in the following verses:
Matthew 19:
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
This need not necessarily imply that Jesus was not married. It could mean that He was married, but that He abstained from having marital relations when He began his public ministry. But it definitely implies one of those two things. It either means that He was not married at all; or that He discontinued His marital relationships when He began His ministry; and in my opinion, it most likely means the first.
The other reason why I believe this is that Jesus was groomed from birth to be a “sacrificial lamb”. His ministry didn’t begin when He was thirty; it began when He was born. He was “about his father’s business” when He was twelve. It is just that His
public ministry among the Jews did not begin until He was around thirty. And in my opinion, it would have been inconsistent with that appointment for Him to be preoccupied with marital relations or the problems of raising a family—especially knowing that He was going to bereave them when at a very young age.
Under the old Mosaic Law the sacrificial lamb was to be one of the “first year without blemish”. I haven’t studied at what age sheep become sexually active; but I am guessing that a lamb of the first year would not have been old enough to, or at least the season would not have been right for it to do so.
As for it being “too painful” not to think of Him having been married or had children, I think He had a lot bigger pains to worry about than that. And as a result of those bigger pains He became the Father of many more children than He would have ever been by being married, as Isaiah has written of Him:
Isaiah 53:
7 He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a
lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth.
8 He was taken from prison and from judgment: and who shall declare his
generation ? for he was cut off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
9 And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence, neither was any deceit in his mouth.
10 Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
11 He shall ***see of the travail of his soul, and shall be satisfied: ***by his knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many; for he shall bear their iniquities.
12 Therefore will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the strong; because he hath poured out his soul unto death: and he was numbered with the transgressors; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
That is how He begat His children. He didn’t need to get married to have kids.