Tbh I found it contrary to one of the most fundamental aspects of Christianity - the divine commission to preach the gospel. The idea that we should hunger down “marrying within the tribe” and cast off the souls who can’t be reached while waiting for the apocalypse is fundamentally repugnant to the ethos of the gospels.
I agree with another poster that I think you missed the point of the article.
The author wasn’t arguing that we should stop preaching. Rather, he was suggesting that our preaching will become more clear and fruitful when we stop sending mixed messages to the world – and preaching starts in the family, with our own children. When he suggests marrying fellow Catholics, the clear rationale (to my eyes) is that children who grow up in households where one parent doesn’t practice the faith, are much less likely to believe in the religion of the other parent, or even consider it worth learning about. The example of the non-believing parent is a constant gentle nudge towards spiritual apathy. AKA
“If my Dad thinks religion is stupid superstition, why shouldn’t I?”
Suggesting that practicing Catholics marry other practicing Catholics is eminently reasonable and has nothing to do with ceasing to preach but rather with keeping ourselves spiritually healthy enough to preach
well. Paul advocated for it in 2 Corinthians 6:14-15.
Even beyond children, a spouse who shares your passionate love for Christ and encourages and strengthens you in your walk with God, will surely make you a better preacher than a spouse who sows seeds of doubt in your mind, grumbles that you go to Sunday Mass or want to contribute your resources to the Church, and constantly wears you down defending your own beliefs and values, wasting your time and emotional and spiritual energy that could have been otherwise put to the service of people actually open to receiving the spiritual gifts God wants to give through you.
And so on. When Dreher suggests that the Church overall will be healthier when those who only attend Mass out of habit stop attending, he’s not suggesting he doesn’t care about their souls. Of course he’s hoping they’ll
eventually come back. But he’s suggesting that if a person isn’t already internally living in accordance with true Catholic faith or belief, but deludes themselves that they’re spiritually secure because they go through certain external motions out of mere cultural habit, then losing that habit (and consequently ceasing to attend Mass) may help them look at what they actually believe for the first time in a long time. And honest realization of the actual state of our soul is far more important than mere external presence in a physical church building. Someone who deludes themselves that they’re an “alright Catholic”, but is actually just going through cultural motions with no internal life of love or faith, is in more danger (and puts others in more danger) than someone who at least knows they’re far from the Church so is unsettled in their heart and aware that they need to make a change.