The Golden Rule, Morality in Other Religions and People

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I’ve had two discussions with a friend over the past week that left me scratching my head. He’s a non-denominational Christian with a very conservative, Baptist background.

The first conversation was about other religions, and that he believes there’s absolutely no truth outside of Christianity. I asked about a moral Buddhist or atheist, where would their morality come from? He said it’s either a lie from the Devil or it’s really not “morality”, it’s just self-centered actions that appear “good”. I then asked what about marriages and families; there are plenty of Muslims, Jews, Hindus etc who love each other and love their children. Where would that love come from, if Christ is the source of Love? His response was that they don’t “actually love each other” and that it would be a marriage built on selfishness. So what about their kids, I asked. Surely they wouldn’t sacrifice for their kids without some kind of authentic love, right? He said nope, their love for the kids would just be selfish and it wouldn’t be the same as how God loves or even how Christians love (that last part I agreed with). My last question to him was, “Would you really say that to someone who wasn’t a Christian?” And he said yes, because they need to know the truth.

Later we were talking about a mutual friend who is gay. She had gotten “married” in another state and he said he thought she was single due to some social media posts. My immediate reaction was “Oh, that’s too bad.” His reaction was that it was a good thing and that maybe this would turn her towards God. I said yes, hopefully, but is that really what you would say to her if you ran into her and she shared with you that her marriage had ended? He said yes, her relationship was sinful (which I agree with) and it’s a good thing even though painful. I said sure, I can see where you’re coming from but that would be a tremendous amount of pain and emotional upheaval for anyone, regardless of sexual orientation, to go through and it seems like you’re response skims over that. Furthermore I don’t know that it’s the best way to try to convert people. So we agreed to disagree but I’d like some help with examples from Scripture to help convey a Catholic understanding of these issues. I’m not sure if there’s a branch of Calvinism or other Protestant theology that thinks this way but I find it a little narrow-minded.

Thanks for your help!
 
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Some people have no filter and call it mercy.

Other people show real mercy and try to work with people where they on the journey to holiness.
 
I’d say your friend is better with rules than he is with the greatest commandment. That’s too bad.
 
  1. Jesus was Jewish…so…
  2. Jesus’ “blasphemy” was judged by people…so…
 
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The first conversation was about other religions, and that he believes there’s absolutely no truth outside of Christianity. I asked about a moral Buddhist or atheist, where would their morality come from?
Christian moral behaviors are not exclusive to Christians. Over time the morality has been codified culturally and legally. This influences our subjective interpretations of what is/isn’t moral. Beyond that Christians aren’t the only ones that attempt to claim they have an objective set of morals. Jews do, Muslims do, etc. And I’d really challenge his assertion that everything the “immoral” non-Christians do is self-centered. I don’t see the benefit of anonymously donating to charity for an atheist. For him to look upon the good deeds of others with such cynicism and lack of compassion just because they don’t ascribe to his beliefs is horrid. Two people could live identical lives save for their religious convictions and he would presumably say that one lived a selfish life and the other a selfless one. Preposterous tripe.
Later we were talking about a mutual friend who is gay. She had gotten “married” in another state and he said he thought she was single due to some social media posts. My immediate reaction was “Oh, that’s too bad.” His reaction was that it was a good thing and that maybe this would turn her towards God.
I don’t want to make a “No true Scotsman” kind of argument because I don’t know this person, but he just sounds incredibly abrasive. While he may have the best of intentions and hope for others to mend their ways and come to Christianity, he’s going about it without much tact. Jesus didn’t chastise everyone he came across in order to convert them. He showed compassion. I was actually just reading the bit about the adultress where Jesus famously proclaimed “he who is without sin, cast the first stone.” I feel like he’s lobbing stones indiscriminately, and he really needs to consider how the recipients of that can be repulsed by his beliefs, and how he can end up turning others away as a result.

I wish you the best in helping him to show more compassion.
 
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You didn’t reply tot he OP.
Just sayin’

I’m not the OP
 
I’d like some help with examples from Scripture to help convey a Catholic understanding of these issues.
I am not sure, but I would suggest looking at non-believers in the Bible. King Cyrus (the Great) of Persia comes to mind. The Lord moves Cyrus to cooperate in carrying out his will:
2 Chronicles 36:22
… the Lord roused the spirit of Cyrus, King of Persia, to spread this proclamation…
and similarly:
Ezra 1:1
… the Lord stirred up the spirit of Cyrus king of Persia to issue a proclamation…
The Lord holds Cyrus in high esteem:
Isaiah 44:28
I say of Cyrus, My shepherd!
He carries out my every wish…
Isaiah 45:1
Thus says the Lord to his anointed, Cyrus,
whose right hand I grasp,
Subduing nations before him, …
That’s a start for you. There must be others in the Bible, but that’s all I can give you at the moment.
 
Honestly I think a lot of it comes down to how he was raised. He comes from a WASP-ish family, and has always been very outspoken on things like homosexuality. I think his idea of God is like a wrathful judge. He gets very frustrated when I remind him that Scripture says God is Love. I think he equates compassion with acceptance of sin (his response to God is Love is “God hates sin”).
 
It wouldn’t work on me, that’s for sure. I feel like for him, Christianity is more about being on the “right” side of morality than it is about charity and mercy. No one comes to conversion when their life is pigeonholed into the dichotomy of “you’re way is wrong and mine is right”. It’s like marriage- do you want to be right, or do you want to be married.
 
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Thanks you! I asked for Scripture because that’s what he understands as authoritative. He doesn’t really do critical thinking and our discussions often end up like this.
 
Funny you say that, I just recommended it to him probably a week before we had this discussion.
 
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