The help i get from here helps me

[jesus4ever]

i know i am always asking question on here i should know. but the help i get from here helps me.

my problem is yesterday i got a parking fine and when i came home and told my parents my dad wasn’t angry but he can talk about it all day and out of know where start again and talk about. he will repeat the same talk over and over, ask questions and its like you answer him for nothing.

anyway my problem is I showed announce and impatience towards him and I said to him “Dad enough”. I didn’t go to mass this morning because I dont know if i should recive holy commuion. My mum said you know how your dad is he goes on and on. what you said wasn’t big.

saying tro my dad “DAD ENOUGH” with a bit of a impatent voice would that only be veinal.

 

[Barbkw]

Venial.

He’s just “ribbing” you. Using a bit of reverse psychology to “steer you away” from making future mistakes. God and fathers chastise those whom they love.

“I didn’t go to Mass this morning because I don’t know if i should receive Holy Communion.”

If I might suggest…don’t hide from Jesus when you’re in most need of Him. That can easily turn into a sin against hope - despair that Jesus won’t forgive you of your sins.

 

[Kontrak]

I do see where you are coming from. I wish I could avoid confrontation and be more patient. I struggle with it a lot. Going to mass can only help.

 

[PAboy57]

venial sin if any. don’t announce parking tickets – just pay them yourself. most have those envelopes or a place where you can walk in and pay.

 

[GratefulFred]

I cannot speak for your dad, but I am very skilled in his technique.:tiphat:

What generally quiets me down is hearing an excellent paraphrasing of Pop’s persistent preaching. (You gotta like that aliteration, eh?)

When my daughters, and now grandchildren, one is 17, can state my concerns in an eloquent way, THEN I realize they have internalize the important message. And I can stop repeating.

But when they sulk, or limit it to, “I get it” or some other response that indicates the message has not really gotten through, then I just keep transmitting.

So find a good way to convince him you really got the message.

 

[EmeraldWings]

you already got your answer, but i’d like to add in response to what you said about not going to mass,
even if you can’t receive communion, there are still many good reasons to go, and don’t forget the main reasons you go is to give God praise for His honor and glory, thanksgiving for the graces and benefits received from Him, propitiation for the many offenses given to Him, and to petition to Him for obtaining His assistance in your spiritual and temporal needs,
of course the sacrifice is the main and most important part of the mass, but even that you participate in without receiving the Eucharist,

but aside from that, i think this will help you much more - gaiaonline.com/guilds/viewtopic.php?t=20845781
it is called the “77 Graces and Fruits to be Derived from Devout Attendance at Holy Mass”
just remember that while we do go to mass for our own benefit, we mostly go for God, because even by doing what is good for yourself, you give glory to God, and even by doing something for your own benefit, it should still be done for the love of God.

and also remember, God still want’s to see you, even if you sin, because remember how tender and loving Jesus was to those who were sinners, He told them to come to Him,
and especially those who wished to repent,
but don’t beat yourself up when you do fall, instead simply ask God to help you get back up and try again, because it is by our weakness that we fall, and our neglecting to ask God for help, or neglecting to use the help He gives us,
so when you do fall, don’t become disappointed in yourself, which is a hidden pride, but instead resolve more earnestly to seek Gods help in all your temptations and trials, reminding yourself that, it is only in our failure to ask Gods help and use the help He gives that we fall, because it is God who gives us strength, and without Him we are weak.

ok, hope this helps, take care.