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Schrode
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Catherina, I appreciate what you said. The only thing that bothers me is that you keep refering to “children”. If one grants that the Church is correct in saying that life begins at conception, then are you only referring to those women who are ovulating when raped and become pregnant or are you referring to those women that are raped, are not pregnant and are not ovulating but will ovulate in the next 72 or so hours? IMHO, there in lies the difference. No child/no life is present when the woman is not pregnant or is not ovulating when the test is taken after the rape. (the latter doesn’t even garuntee a pregnancy) The only life that is present is if the woman is already pregnant or possibly if she unfortunately ovulating when the rape occurs. There is the “potential” for life if the woman does nothing and she ovulates within the next 72-96 or so hours - but luckily, the Church in its wisdom has seen that the “potential” for life does not a child make in every case.I do not disagree with the bishops.
However, I’ve known a number of women who have conceived as a result of rape.
Their example and valor in carrying those children to term awed me.
So yes, my personal preference would be “do nothing.”
The bishops say we can do something -
so we can.
A child born of rape is, for me, simply another child.
And I would like to add - I Know that you mentioned that the four rape victims you knew or were aware of were happy to have a child borne of rape. I have known only two others from when I was doing counselling at a Church. Both women who were pregnant at the time didn’t realize they had the option of plan B - (not until too late). One woman didn’t go to the hospital after the rape until she came into my office (two days later). One woman was so overcome with a feeling of disgust over knowing that a part of the rapist still was within her that she tried to kill herself. The other believed she and her husband could handle having a child borne of rape. This was not the case - she also had extremely negative feelings everytime she realized a change in her body as this caused her to realize a piece of the rapist was still within her. She miscarried at nearly 5 months. I honestly believe that this was due to the amount of stress she was under due to the rape and subsequent pregnancy. I know that both would had benefitted if they had been tested for pregnancy and ovulation and if at the time they were not ovulating would have been able to take plan B. BTW, we do know from the second woman that she wasn’t ovulating until 2 days after - she and her husband used NFP. I have no doubt had plan b been an option for her, she would have chosen it. This also caused great upheaval with her husband - he had a hard time accepting that the pregnancy hadn’t occured because of him as well as the fact that his wife had been violated. So while there may be some situations that turned out brilliantly, there are others that have turned out horribly. I’m glad you’re aware of so many that turned out well - unfortunately, that’s not always the case. If plan B will help those women like the two I mentioned, then I think in these rare cases it should be looked at like a gift - the article that Rence mentioned even said (and I paraphrase) that the rapist’s sperm can be considered an aggressor - IMO aggressive sperm were not something that God wanted present when making a child…
God Bless
Schrode