The morality of spouse searching

[ComputerGeek25]

Right, man can choose to do good or evil and I have touched on free will before but you don’t seem to be getting my point. I am looking at it from the perspective of God’s original plan (whereas you seem to be looking at it only from the perspective of free will).
I have been trying to explain my use of “meant to be”. CCC clearly states God’s original plan regarding divorce. I guess this discussion started because of my “meant to be” statement and I have simply been trying to justify that statement.
How you reconcile God’s original plan with free will is more of what you are concerned about.
God has a plan. We are free to make choices. But making choices does not change God’s original plan/will. I don’t know if you get the point.

God’s plan (and will) is that we all get to heavean. That’s it.

How we do that is up to us.

 

[seanflynn]

I don’t know if anyone is still on this topic, but

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Originally Posted by seanflynn
… I would think that people get divorced not because they married the wrong person, but because they have not formed themselves (or allowed God to form them) to be able to love sacrificially, fully, fruitfully, freely, and faithfully. More simply, they don’t know how to be a husband or wife…

Ok, so people who haven’t formed themselves (in the way you nicely explained above) shouldn’t get married in the first place (and it could prevent divorce) right?

Yes, they shouldn’t get married. That doesn’t mean they should find another vocation if they realize they aren’t properly formed. More often, I’d say they should get formed.

You are smart, Kelvinf, in bringing up God’s original plan for divorceless marriages. But I’m not sure you properly explained the idea that “Marriage is God’s will” doesn’t necessarily mean He has an exact person set aside for each person to marry. In the story of Tobit, Tobiah’s marriage to Sarah may be ordained by God, but narrative is not normative, to borrow an alliteration from a protestant friend of mine. Our lives are to conform to the Gospel, but that doesn’t mean God always treats us the way he treated specific people in the Bible.

p.s. Thanks for the affirmation, Kelvinf