THE ONE, Soulmate, Prince Charming, Princess Charming, The right guy?

[Sierrah]

Are any of these realistic or is it all just a numbers game? What do you think? At this point I still think it’s more of a numbers game. Just my 2 cent’s

 

[happymommy]

Are any of these realistic or is it all just a numbers game? What do you think? At this point I still think it’s more of a numbers game. Just my 2 cent’s

What do you mean by “numbers game”?

 

[dove51]

I think you are asking, is it true that there is possibly one person made for you, meant for you, that you are destined to be with? And the numbers game is, I’m assuming, just making relationships into a game of odds and whoever you happen to meet?

I don’t rightly know. I believe that God intervenes in our lives and therefore might have soul mates for us, but I don’t know if we always find them. Mayhap he lets us decide.

 

[Sierrah]

I think you are asking, is it true that there is possibly one person made for you, meant for you, that you are destined to be with? And the numbers game is, I’m assuming, just making relationships into a game of odds and whoever you happen to meet?
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Yes that was along the lines of what I was trying to
get at.

 

[happymommy]

I think you are asking, is it true that there is possibly one person made for you, meant for you, that you are destined to be with? And the numbers game is, I’m assuming, just making relationships into a game of odds and whoever you happen to meet?

I don’t rightly know. I believe that God intervenes in our lives and therefore might have soul mates for us, but I don’t know if we always find them. Mayhap he lets us decide.

Okay now I understand. Maybe the reason so many relationships fail is because they look at it like a numbers game. If it doesn’t work, it’s okay, you weren’t my right number. Instead of waiting to see what God has in store for them. They are running around trying to find Prince Charming. Just a thought, but what do I know. I got engaged at 18 and married at 19…but I did kiss a lot of frogs before I met my prince

 

[Sierrah]

Okay now I understand. Maybe the reason so many relationships fail is because they look at it like a numbers game. If it doesn’t work, it’s okay, you weren’t my right number. Instead of waiting to see what God has in store for them. They are running around trying to find Prince Charming. Just a thought, but what do I know. I got engaged at 18 and married at 19…but I did kiss a lot of frogs before I met my prince

Wow I really didn’t even start dating till I was about28 due to work and family obligations. My friends are always telling me it’s a numbers game when you come down to it. I think that’s debatable but sometimes I still wonder.

 

[CWBetts]

I may be completely off my rocker, but I think relationships fail because one of the two has stopped working at it. Relationships require work–from both parties.

 

[Sierrah]

I may be completely off my rocker, but I think relationships fail because one of the two has stopped working at it. Relationships require work–from both parties.

That’s probably true as well. There are many reasons relationships fail but this thread is more about finding a relationship in the begining.

 

[happymommy]

Wow I really didn’t even start dating till I was about28 due to work and family obligations. My friends are always telling me it’s a numbers game when you come down to it. I think that’s debatable but sometimes I still wonder.

I had no intentions of dating him, I was just going out with him because he was the brother of a friend. It was suppose to be just one date…well, we got engaged after dating for just two months and I guess you could say the rest is history I feel very blessed to have found him at such a young age. And I love him more everyday

 

[Sierrah]

I had no intentions of dating him, I was just going out with him because he was the brother of a friend. It was suppose to be just one date…well, we got engaged after dating for just two months and I guess you could say the rest is history I feel very blessed to have found him at such a young age. And I love him more everyday

Great story. I wish you family Merry Christmas.

 

[happymommy]

I may be completely off my rocker, but I think relationships fail because one of the two has stopped working at it. Relationships require work–from both parties.

I agree, but I think there are a lot of people who don’t care enough to work at a relationship. If it ends, that’s okay there is always someone else out there. Or you have the people who want the fairytale and miss out on a great relationship because they are always looking for something magical to happen. Like fireworks when then kiss…they don’t have that with guy #1 oh well, lets try this guy next.

 

[happymommy]

Great story. I wish you family Merry Christmas.

Thanks! I love telling my story!! I’m so blessed!

Merry Christmas to you too!

 

[CWBetts]

My problem is taht I am 37 and graduating college. Most of the women I encounter are WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY to young for an old foagie like me.

 

[His_little1]

Soulmates are out there if you let God do the driving for a while. I was at a crossroads in my life and I felt a call to both a life of a priest and also the call to be a husband and father. I tend to ramble, but I’ll try to make this one quick

Dec. 24, 1990 - attended Christmas Eve Mass with my 70+ neighbor lady who I often gave rides to church. While I know it was a nice thing to do, I found myself feeling sorry for myself like “why can’t I be sitting here with a beautiful young girl at my side?” (Keep in mind I’m in my early twenties.)

I know we shouldn’t give God requests for signs, but I threw this one out: “Find me the perfect wife BEFORE next Christmas or I’ll know You want me to become a priest.”

Oct. 1991- (Notice how God made me sweat this one out) I meet my would-be wife. Turns out our Mother’s were best friends in high school. We find this out about 2 months into the relationship.

5 years later we marry.

13 years and 2 kids later we still fall in love all over again with each other every chance we get.

I didn’t mention, nor will I include, the list of attributes a perfect wife should have for me, but, God filled it to the letter!

 

[kage_ar]

The Church states this about marriage:

[1625](javascriptpenWindow(‘cr/1625.htm’) The parties to a marriage covenant are a baptized man and woman, free to contract marriage, who freely express their consent; “to be free” means:

• not being under constraint; - not impeded by any natural or ecclesiastical law.

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Nothing there about being soul mates or charming.

The key thing is to find someone who has like Faith, shares your values and idea of marriage. After that, it is about finding compatability and someone who is your friend and can be your partner in this Sacrament.

I’d suggest you read the CCC on marriage, begin at 1601

scborromeo.org/ccc/p2s2c3a7.htm#1601

 

[CWBetts]

The Church states this about marriage:

[1625](javascriptpenWindow(‘cr/1625.htm’) The parties to a marriage covenant are a baptized man and woman, free to contract marriage, who freely express their consent; “to be free” means:

• not being under constraint; - not impeded by any natural or ecclesiastical law.

---

Nothing there about being soul mates or charming.

The key thing is to find someone who has like Faith, shares your values and idea of marriage. After that, it is about finding compatability and someone who is your friend and can be your partner in this Sacrament.

I’d suggest you read the CCC on marriage, begin at 1601

scborromeo.org/ccc/p2s2c3a7.htm#1601

D’oh!!! That would be the smart thing to do wouldn’t it! Stop worrying and give it over to God. Just when I start thinking I’m a pretty good Catholic God sends someone along to say “Hey, Carl, Jesus told me to tell you to stop being stupid–He’ll take care of it!”

 

[happymommy]

My problem is taht I am 37 and graduating college. Most of the women I encounter are WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY to young for an old foagie like me.

Hey watch it! You are only 4 years older then me and I am no old foagie, thank you very much

I’m sure there is a wonderful woman out there for you and God will introduce you when the time is right.

 

[happymommy]

D’oh!!! That would be the smart thing to do wouldn’t it! Stop worrying and give it over to God. Just when I start thinking I’m a pretty good Catholic God sends someone along to say “Hey, Carl, Jesus told me to tell you to stop being stupid–He’ll take care of it!”

That’s right, He will take care of it, when you let Him. When I did the picking, I really messed it up.
My first boyfriend was emotional, verbally and physically abusive to me. It took me a year to get out of that one…I ran from him into the arms of a great guy, but his home life was a mess and I was not healed at all from boyfriend #1. So we clung to each other. What a mistake that was…so much gone that I can never get back and more baggage…So I start my senior year in high school saying I AM NOT DATING ANYONE! Well, my one and only Catholic friend, I was Prebyterian, had a brother that she thought I would be perfect for…NO…just one date…NO…come on whats it going to hurt, just one date…okay…but it’s not going to go anywhere, cause, well he’s Catholic:blush: He treated me like a princess and showed me how a real Christian man is…so I fell madly in love with him, married him…have beautiful children and if it pleases God I will have more…I also became Catholic in 2001…See what happens when you let God take control…It’s a beautiful thing.

 

[Pro-Life_Teen]

In theory one can grow to love anyone. But sometimes you get that special love that should be impossible. Because perfect love is all but impossible when you look at the factors- age, gender, proximity, values, hobbies. That you’re born in a time in which someone you’ll spend the rest of your life with is of opposite gender, relatively close age and distance to you, that you can tolerate for 50 years at least and trust completely at most-- those are low odds.

And so it leaves that love is a miracle.

I wouldn’t say there is One and no one else will do… widow(er)s wouldn’t then remarry [and to be fair, some don’t], but there are degrees of love… and some are more close to perfect than others.

I have friends who go on dates often, who lots of guys are interested in, and sometimes have more than one guy professing love to her at a time. I happen to have never gotten a glance [that I noticed] for the longest time [or so I thought, in all my 16 years of wisdom at the time] but then I began to date my boyfriend. We met online in a fantasy RP chat [geek thing- magic, swords and such ] and were friends for a year or two before we started dating. He lives in England *-- we are interested in similar things, and in what we look at differently, the difference complements the other. I’m Catholic and he’s a Deist-- but he reminds me to cross myself before eating, and we chat about God.

I had always felt a bit left out when I didn’t have a boyfriend when my friends all began to talk about ‘liking’ people and such. But at 16, which was the dating age in my house, He sent me someone who I trust completely, get along with, and love dearly. Who actually falls under the ‘requirements’ that I used to pray about when I was younger.

I suppose in theory there’s another person out there who I could be with and find a similar experience. But it wouldn’t be quite the same. Can’t see myself calling anyone else ‘darling’ or trusting anyone else in the same way.*

 

[chevalier]

Are any of these realistic or is it all just a numbers game? What do you think? At this point I still think it’s more of a numbers game. Just my 2 cent’s

Not sure about “the one” and from the perspective of logic and reason, it’s unlikely. It seems to be something akin to astrology. On the other hand, it doesn’t need to have developed from astrology. It may even have arisen from one of the interpretations of one of the depictions of the process of Creation contained in the Bible, where it says, “God created them [lit. “him”, as far as I know] man and woman.” After all, the theory has found following with good Catholic people who’d never even look at a horoscope.

There is actually no way to rule it out, either. There are people who seemed to be paired up like that. Sometimes earth trembles and everything burns and collapses on the way until they meet each other. Obviously, still, if you already married, your vocation is just that, not a person you can’t marry any more.

As for soulmate, barring the Eastern spiritual connotations, as long as it isn’t “the one”, it simply means a kindred soul. Those exist. Some people have more affinity than others.

As for Prince or Princess Charming, wouldn’t that simply mean one of the few people who are better matches than others and who can sweep you off your feet, inspire respect and admiration as well as love and all such? Doesn’t happen every day, or even every year, but still happens.

Wow I really didn’t even start dating till I was about28 due to work and family obligations. My friends are always telling me it’s a numbers game when you come down to it. I think that’s debatable but sometimes I still wonder.

There was an experiment once, although I don’t know the details. The computer analysed the data and took care of all the matching the programmers could imagine. Personalities and whanot. One thing the computer couldn’t predict - even though the matches were great, some people just couldn’t put up with each other. Their marriages failed. Now think OK Cupid. Their maths is great. The algorithms give me so much to think I’ve never really considered and I learn something new every day. Still, there are some things you can’t put it numbers.

Soulmates are out there if you let God do the driving for a while. I was at a crossroads in my life and I felt a call to both a life of a priest and also the call to be a husband and father. I tend to ramble, but I’ll try to make this one quick

Dec. 24, 1990 - attended Christmas Eve Mass with my 70+ neighbor lady who I often gave rides to church. While I know it was a nice thing to do, I found myself feeling sorry for myself like “why can’t I be sitting here with a beautiful young girl at my side?” (Keep in mind I’m in my early twenties.)

I know we shouldn’t give God requests for signs, but I threw this one out: “Find me the perfect wife BEFORE next Christmas or I’ll know You want me to become a priest.”

Oct. 1991- (Notice how God made me sweat this one out) I meet my would-be wife. Turns out our Mother’s were best friends in high school. We find this out about 2 months into the relationship.

5 years later we marry.

13 years and 2 kids later we still fall in love all over again with each other every chance we get.

I didn’t mention, nor will I include, the list of attributes a perfect wife should have for me, but, God filled it to the letter!

I had a situation once when I was wondering. Long story short, I actually got locked up in a church with that girl. I was wondering if I wasn’t perhaps meant to be a priest. She was wondering if she wasn’t perhaps meant to be a nun. We talked a lot, for some reasons I didn’t want to take her phone number, but I said a short prayer so that she would give me hers without asking if God considered that proper. She did. Conversation went on. However, for all factors, it was all very strange and given some of the things she said (her mind was drifting off to strange lands, she seemed childish in many things, she mentioned some strange stuff I won’t name) I concluded it just couldn’t be, the whole thing was an accident. I feel weird when it comes back to my mind sometimes, but hey, no one is perfectly sane all the time. Sometimes your brain just acts up. It is able to conceive “signs”.