The permenency of marriage

[tee_eff_em]

there are always things present that look like they might cause a marriage to be invalid - no one is perfect and no situation is perfect. your plan would put an end to marriage.

I don’t understand – Are you saying that **every **marriage, if scrutinized closely enough, would be found invalid!?

tee

 

[quasimodo]

I don’t understand – Are you saying that **every **marriage, if scrutinized closely enough, would be found invalid!?

tee

No, I’m saying that if you look close enough, every marriage has something about it which could be evidence that the marriage is invalid. There must be enough evidence and that the evidence must be strong enough to prove the case to a moral certainty.

 

[Liberanosamalo]

I think a marriage ending is a big clue something was wrong. Like a building collapsing in on itself is an indication that the foundation was inadequate and the building lacked total structural integrity. Valid marriages in and of themselves endure till death do you part. Just the way a well-built building doesn’t crumble to the ground.

I do think there are too many weddings going on. How many priests have the courage to tell couples that they will not perform a wedding because they don’t think the marriage will last? How many couples sleeping together before marriage, co-habiting, drinking to excess during the dating time, using drugs, with a long history of fornication with multiple partners and with untreated or unattended psychological problems and who don’t go to church but want the church as a backdrop for a flashy wedding production would blow a gasket if Fr. refused to do their wedding?

The priest who did my wedding left his vocation within seven years of my wedding. Apparently I was the only chump on that altar who thought a vow made to God was permanent.

And I also think the wedding industry is a huge part of the problem. How many brides get so lost in the wedding preparation and the hall rental and ignore horrible feelings that they should back out of the wedding because their dresses are unreturnable? (Not my particular situation… but…)