"The Priest Will Separate You Two..."

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I’d be more worried about being married in the eyes of God then in the fact that my relatives cannot make the ceremony in time. This is what gives me de-stress on this post. All of you May judge me harshly but if I were this person I would be more concerned with being right in the eyes of God then at having my relatives at a wedding that dissolves my sin. Your wedding is not an event it is a sacrament. You ignored this Sacrament and God is giving you a chance to make it right. Yet you talk to me about the ceremony and making sure that people are there that you care about. I suggest you care about how God feels in light of the way you have brought this Union to him. Make it right as soon as possible and forget your relatives. It’s not about the ceremony it’s about reconciling to God. I
 
It was not accurate unless one party is Catholic. You implied all civil unions were invalid.
 
They do not have to live apart.
They should live as brother and sister. FAR different.
There is a couple on CAF who are living as brother and sister because of marriage issues It can be done, and with the approval of the church.

I continue to be astounded at the harshness of people who THINK they know the proper answer.
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You are free to respond to whomever you choose. However, I don’t think it’s a productive use of your time and energy to engage such an irrational person.

She has stated that I “talked to her about the ceremony” when I have not directly addressed her even once. She has also made several accusations. It’s impossible to have a mature and thoughtful discussion with someone who is unhinged. Let’s just pray for her.
 
The loudest people are often the most ignorant.
I’m told that family support for Catholic marriage is very helpful.
Therefore, wanting parents to be present at a sacrament is expected and encouraged.
 
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I agree. I just wouldn’t want someone who wandered into this thread to think that was true. The Church absolutely recognizes civil marriages—and if the people being married are baptized, then that civil marriage is a sacrament.

The only exception is if one party is Catholic.

And having said this, I’ll take your advice! 🙂
 
You are talking about what you would do in my situation but I’m having trouble seeing how that is relevant…especially since that is not what I asked.
 
Living under the same roof while unmarried is not inherently immoral.
 
This document clearly states that a couple may remain together yet they must refrain from sexual relations. There is nothing about being obligated to live apart:

“Couples who approach the Church for
convalidation are requested to abstain from sexual union until after the official
convalidation ceremony. Until a marriage is deemed sacramentally valid, Catholics who
marry outside the Church are considered to be living in a sinful condition and the
Church wishes to shield her members from further sin. The couple may remain together
but should refrain from conjugal acts, relying on their faith to strengthen their resolve in
this discipline.”

I’m not sure why you keep mentioning your niece and nephew because every parish and every priest has different approaches to common situations.

I appreciate your apology.
 
I have been through the convalidation process. Basically, the priest asked about my faith life and whether there was anything that I was keeping from my wife that would prevent her from marrying me if she knew about it. He was also concerned that my wife isn’t a practicing Catholic, even though she is baptized, and he kind of laid a guilt trip on me for not doing more about that. After more than 15 years of civil marriage, maybe 10 with me going church, I felt like I had tried everything I knew to try.
 
Yes, when we were having our marriage convalidated we were told to live “as brother and sister.” We weren’t told to live apart (we have four kids, so that would have been tough) but to abstain until the wedding.
 
I pray that she will want to be fully received into the Church (she is baptized but nothing else), and she is going to Mass with me now, but so far she has not wanted to pursue full initiation. I can’t get her to articulate what the obstacles might be, but I do know that when I push, it seems to drive her away instead of inviting her in. I know that I have not always been the best example of a Catholic, so that probably doesn’t help.
 
I went through convalidation. The questions are just to ensure you are doing it for the right reasons and serious about marriage etc

We had no such sleep or not sleep together talks. We did have the Convalidation scheduled ASAP. I did a confession too,from memory. My hubby was unbaptised, it was the olden day’s, when my father heard that, he Baptised him on the spot. My father was used to dealing with sudden deaths and dying.
These days , that’s no advised

Congratulations!
 
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The loudest people are often the most ignorant.
I’m told that family support for Catholic marriage is very helpful.
Therefore, wanting parents to be present at a sacrament is expected and encouraged.
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I pray your family will be able to be with you on your special day.

May God bless and keep you in His tender care.
 
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My husband and I will be convalidating our marriage next year. I would like to be able to receive Communion again but we are only married civilly. We would have our convalidation sooner but I would like a few family members to attend and they live outside of our country so travel arrangements are a concern.

We will be meeting with a priest at our church soon. When I spoke to the church secretary, she mentioned that our priest will separate us and ask each of us questions. Any idea as to what the priest will ask?
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Every diocese has its own forms. However, they are all essentially the same, although the format will vary.

I did a quick internet search, and this one just happened to be at the top of the results.

Most diocese do not make their pre-marriage forms available online to the public, but a few do.

https://www.cdlex.org/documents/Chancellor/Prenuptial_Investigation_rev_email_addr.pdf

Read through this. These are the questions he’ll be asking each of you individually.
 
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