The Purgation Lust

[silentrosary]

Hello, my name is Blake. I am 19 years old and I have been called to the priesthood, though I am still in discernment. I just as most young people struggle with lust, I would have to say its my biggest weakness. I care not of wealth or power but the flesh is a massive temptation. I know that all sin stems from a disordered desire of the good. You can learn allot about yourself from your sins. I lust, therefore my true desire is for love but I express it in a disordered and sinful way. I am a virgin and I’ve never even had a girlfriend, but I have a profound love of the feminine. Everything about femininity brings me joy and warms my heart. This is probably why I have a strong devotion to our lady. Some people around me say that I should try a relationship and some say I should engage in the sins associated with male/female relationships before I make the decision to become a priest. I find this to be nonsense, all people have sexuality both lay and religious. God put these desires on our heart for a reason. People called to a religious vocation have to transform those desires into pure undivided love of Christ and the church. Lay married people have too grow in love of God through their relationship. Anyway to get to the point, does anyone have any advice on how too curb the temptation? Perhaps it may never be fully purged in this life, but there’s no harm in trying. I would appreciate any pearls of wisdom anyone has. Thanks - Blake

 

[TLM08]

Hello, my name is Blake. I am 19 years old and I have been called to the priesthood, though I am still in discernment. I just as most young people struggle with lust, I would have to say its my biggest weakness. I care not of wealth or power but the flesh is a massive temptation. I know that all sin stems from a disordered desire of the good. You can learn allot about yourself from your sins. I lust, therefore my true desire is for love but I express it in a disordered and sinful way. I am a virgin and I’ve never even had a girlfriend, but I have a profound love of the feminine. Everything about femininity brings me joy and warms my heart. This is probably why I have a strong devotion to our lady. Some people around me say that I should try a relationship and some say I should engage in the sins associated with male/female relationships before I make the decision to become a priest. I find this to be nonsense, all people have sexuality both lay and religious. God put these desires on our heart for a reason. People called to a religious vocation have to transform those desires into pure undivided love of Christ and the church. Lay married people have too grow in love of God through their relationship. Anyway to get to the point, does anyone have any advice on how too curb the temptation? Perhaps it may never be fully purged in this life, but there’s no harm in trying. I would appreciate any pearls of wisdom anyone has. Thanks - Blake

Need for affection and the natural human desire for sex are universal and felt by nearly all human beings. The apostle Paul said that it was better to marry than burn… burn with lust.
He also said it was good not to touch a woman. By that, he meant that it is not necessary for man to marry in order to life a godly life.

Additionally, some people (both men and women) simply have a significantly lower biological drive than others. For those who have this gift, they will find the restrictions of the priesthood easier than those who don’t.

We also have to be careful not to confuse “lust” with normal sexual attraction. “Lust” is sexual attraction allowed to run unrestrained and strictly for the self serving means of physical pleasure.

 

[centurionguard]

Need for affection and the natural human desire for sex are universal and felt by nearly all human beings. The apostle Paul said that it was better to marry than burn… burn with lust.
He also said it was good not to touch a woman. By that, he meant that it is not necessary for man to marry in order to life a godly life.

Additionally, some people (both men and women) simply have a significantly lower biological drive than others. For those who have this gift, they will find the restrictions of the priesthood easier than those who don’t.

We also have to be careful not to confuse “lust” with normal sexual attraction. “Lust” is sexual attraction allowed to run unrestrained and strictly for the self serving means of physical pleasure.

The apostle Paul said that it was better to marry than burn… burn with lust.
He also said it was good not to touch a woman. By that, he meant that it is not necessary for man to marry in order to life a godly life.

Even Jesus makes reference to this after speaking about the divorce question.
In Matthew Chapter 19: verse 11.
Some were born Eunuchs from Birth.
Some were made Eunuchs by their choice of Celibacy.
But some also on earth have been made Eunuchs (“castrated”) through brutal acts of Rape.

 

[EmeraldWings]

the temptation is not what you need to worry about, that doesn’t really go away, although it may lessen, temptations of the flesh never go away, even if you experience the temptation only once in a while,
but that is nothing to be worried about, because even those temptations don’t have to disturb you as long as you can strengthen your will, and actually, every time you resist a temptation, it makes you stronger, so temptations can be a good thing.
well, i think what you really need to practice is mortification, which is the denying of self,
here is a good article on mortification and penance…
gaiaonline.com/guilds/viewtopic.php?t=13047443

prayer is also a great weapon when you are tempted to sins of the flesh, whenever you feel tempted, ask the Blessed Mother for help, or bring to mind Jesus crucified,
something my priest recommended to me is, every morning and night, say 3 Hail Mary’s for Purity and holiness, so far it has yet to fail me.

are you actually having problems with giving in to these temptations? or are you just disturbed by the temptations themselves? if that’s the case, then there really is no problem…but otherwise, prayer and mortification are very powerful against sins of impurity…actually, fasting is a very strong means against impurity to, so that might be a good idea also, as long as you know the proper way to fast, if not, then you should read up on it(though i’m sure you do)

and as for trying out dating before joining the seminary, i would say no to that, i’ve always been told, if you have the desire to become a priest or nun, you should find out if that’s the right decision first, because then you will know for sure, and not have any regrets, and you also won’t be breaking someones heart when you decide to break up with them and then join the seminary.

ok i guess that’s it for now, if you have any more questions i’d be glad to help.

 

[silentrosary]

Thank you very much emerald wings, I think mortification would do me some good.

 

[danj6354]

Its ok Blake. God made us this way. I highly doubt that god is this dictator that wants us to fear our every move and feeling. Apparently even when your married sex is bad? If thats wrong i dont want to be right.

 

[silentrosary]

Its ok Blake. God made us this way. I highly doubt that god is this dictator that wants us to fear our every move and feeling. Apparently even when your married sex is bad? If thats wrong i dont want to be right.

Well sex can be bad when your married, if you are objectifying your spouse in bed. If your using them just for your pleasure through their body then that is definitely sinful. God isn’t silent about sex, remember Jesus’s words " he who soever looks at a woman in lust has committed adultery with her in his heart". Being that I am going to be a priest and will never have a wife or sexual intercourse I think it would be best for me to at least minimize the desire… at best transform it into pure love of God and my future bride the holy mother church.

 

[Kamalayka]

Anyway to get to the point, does anyone have any advice on how too curb the temptation? Perhaps it may never be fully purged in this life, but there’s no harm in trying. I would appreciate any pearls of wisdom anyone has. Thanks - Blake

You can always chop it off!

 

[ALIZEE2009V]

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[danj6354]

The bible says a lot of things, one of them pertaining to not being in the presence of a woman while menstruating. I don’t know one person of any faith that believes the bible is 100% literal

 

[Timbothefiveth]

The bible says a lot of things, one of them pertaining to not being in the presence of a woman while menstruating.

Various OT laws of moses no longer apply, they were for the Hebrews. Jesus himself said not to lust, and that applies to all of us.