Dear Roger
George Bernard Shaw had a similar view as yours and of course it is peculiar to Shaw to be quite direct in putting down his views most directly as you did, he in point of fact called the response “rude”.
However, most of the commentaries, I read indicate that Jesus, used the common term for insulting the cannanite people, but only to display the poor womens perfect observance of the virtue of humility.
Many saints have commented in words very similar to what Cornelius a’ Lapide, comments on the Canaanite woman’s response, Please, Lord, for even the dogs eat the scraps that fall from the table of their masters – “She means to say, ‘It is altogether true what Thou sayest, 0 My Saviour. I acknowledge that I am a worthless dog, and not worthy that the children’s bread should be given to me, who am a Gentile. Yet the dogs and the curs (in Greek the word is the same, κυνάρια) are wont to eat the crumbs of bread which fall from the tables of their master’s children. Nourish me then as Thy dog. I cannot leave my master’s table. You cannot drive me from Thee either by rough words or by blows. I will not leave Thee, until thou give me what I ask. Give me therefore, 0 most merciful Lord, only a crumb, give me this least favour of my daughter’s health. Let this one crumb fall among us Gentiles, and I will gather it up.’
We would not have received this example of this virtue of humility had Jesus not said what he did, for it is important to know what Jesus tested, by looking at what he did not intend to test in my opinion:
- I feel he did not intend to test her patience and/or desperation: She was desperate and so many of us are.
She went to our Lord, and Jesus well knew that she did not lack faith, but many around him were justifiably proud of their Jewish identity so he tests her humility and by doing so also tests her patience.
- I also feel he did not test her wit or at least intend to, but as you can see by her direct answers she obtained all her heart desired and gave us an example in our prayerlife and wisdom and wit in making a good response.

God bless
Derrick