The unmarried catholic has no business getting

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Sexual pleasure is a good natural thing.
Amen, but reserved for married couples. Correct Chibi?

The unmarried catholic has no business intentionally allowing themselves to experience “sexual pleasure”… this “good natural thing” should not be experienced until he or she is married by the Church…or should try their best to not willingly experience it, due to not having the call to marriage. Correct?
 
Kate, yes it is unfortunate that ppl have kids out of wedlock…we are all sinners. You say “many many”… Is there a study out there, that says Catholics beat everyone else in the world with kids out of wedlock?

I don’t have data…but I would imagine that all kinds of people, all over the world, of all kinds of faiths and walks of life have kids out of wedlock too. Now, do we Catholics beat them? I don’t know, hope not, lol.
sorry, I don’t have statistics for you. Maybe some day you can come to a family reunion of mine. Seeing is believing.
 
sorry, I don’t have statistics for you. Maybe some day you can come to a family reunion of mine. Seeing is believing.
Kate, seeing many kids out of wedlock at your family reunion is not gonna make me believe that Catholics have more children out of wedlock than any other set of people. 😛
 
I’m just gonna throw this out there, but the way this thread is going makes it seem as though it would be wrong for a serious or engaged couple to spend much time together at all. I’m not saying that anybody necessarily means this, but it could easily be assumed from what has been written so far. If spending time, especially one-on-one time with your fiance causes you to become aroused to some extent, wouldn’t the next step be to say that to spend time with your future spouse is to cause yourself to become aroused and so is a sin?

Again, I’m just bringing this up because the Catholic perspective is more nuanced than this but it would be very easy for someone reading this thread to assume that this is what is meant.
 
Pilgrim,

Agreed, sexual arousal is indeed one of the functions of the human body. But reserved for men and women who have a spouse? Further, what are the “means” for a unmarried person to reach the “end” arousal state? Willfully Fantasizing? Willfully Wishful thinking? Willfully using all the senses? pure or unpure thoughts?
I already answered this. They are to practice chastity. They are to use their will and intellect and train themselves to make their passions subject to their reason. Your examples are not in accord with chastity.
The unmarried catholic has no business allowing himself or herself to be sexually aroused by any means…else SIN…failed to master thyself. Is this what CCC says?
The CCC says what I just said. Sexual arousal is not evil in itself. Being aroused in itself is NOT a sin. Acting on it is. We are ALL called to chastity, not just unmarried Catholics, so the principle applies to both married and non-married Catholics.
 
The unmarried catholic has no business intentionally allowing themselves to experience “sexual pleasure”… this “good natural thing” should not be experienced until he or she is married by the Church…or should try their best to not willingly experience it, due to not having the call to marriage. Correct?
What part of the CCC is confusing to you? I feel that your questions have been answered directly.

Involuntary sexual pleasure = not problematic
Voluntary or entertained sexual pleasure = problematic

Is there something you do not understand? Where is the ambiguity or confusion?

And “having the call to marriage” has nothing to do with anything.
 
What part of the CCC is confusing to you? I feel that your questions have been answered directly.

Involuntary sexual pleasure = not problematic
Voluntary or entertained sexual pleasure = problematic

Is there something you do not understand? Where is the ambiguity or confusion?

And “having the call to marriage” has nothing to do with anything.
Baelor,

I’m researching simpler versions “layman’s terms” of this teaching. The CCC is, it seems to me, too “canon lawish” in its presentation for some people.

Voluntary or entertained sexual pleasure = problematic

Amen bro

Now you’re saying, “And “having the call to marriage” has nothing to do with anything.” For the unmarried? married? Can you elaborate. Thanks for the feedback.
 
I’m researching simpler versions “layman’s terms” of this teaching. The CCC is, it seems to me, too “canon lawish” in its presentation for some people.
Now you’re saying, “And “having the call to marriage” has nothing to do with anything.” For the unmarried? married? Can you elaborate. Thanks for the feedback.
The fact that someone is not married at a given moment has no bearing on whether they are called to marriage, the implication of the statement that I quoted.
 
I already answered this. They are to practice chastity. They are to use their will and intellect and train themselves to make their passions subject to their reason. Your examples are not in accord with chastity.
Pilgrim, nice I like your post. We are to use our will and intellect and train ourselves to make our passions subject to our reason.:yup: So can we say, spouses need to be careful about being “passionately in love with their partner”, this can turn into idolatry since they are allowing their reason to be subject to their passion?
The CCC says what I just said. Sexual arousal is not evil in itself. Being aroused in itself is NOT a sin. Acting on it is. We are ALL called to chastity, not just unmarried Catholics, so the principle applies to both married and non-married Catholics.
A couple of reasons why married Catholics practice chastity is to avoid having too many children, spacing out children and to make their reason subject to their passions. So this chastity is not indefinite for the married. They enjoy the “conjugal rights” as explained by Paul in 1 Cor 7:3…of course, not in a sense that a spouse is allowing their reason subject to their passions.

Now, the unmarried catholic must be chaste as long as they are unmarried. And possibly, It could be indefinitely…as we all know, not everyone receives the gift of marriage. The unmarried shouldn’t voluntarily willingly act upon being sexually aroused in such a way that it makes their reason subject to their passions.

Great prompt feedback everyone! Thanks! 👍

PS. Gonna start using smilies, it appears that some ppl are misinterpreting my post and me as a person trying to open up a “can of worms” 😛 Just trying to learn here folks, and I sometimes post opposing viewpoints for the sake of learning.😃
 
The fact that someone is not married at a given moment has no bearing on whether they are called to marriage
Baelor, can you or me or anyone prove or disprove that someone is called to the vocation of marriage? Holy Orders? It is a leap of faith. Each has their own special gift from God.

So if someone is not married, it MAY BE an indication that they are called to marriage…because the Spirit will bring the couple together…but when the time is right in the future.

If someone is not married, it MAY BE an indication that they are not called to marriage.

And the end of the day, we can’t prove or disprove. What ya think?:o
 
ok a little edit, uh more edit…haha

The unmarried catholic has no business allowing himself or herself to be sexually aroused…else, SIN. Is this what the Church teaches? 🤷

True or False?
Here’s one of the shortest, sanest pieces of writing about the Catholic view of human sexuality I’ve come across. The author is Fr. Thomas Santa, and I found it on the Scrupulous Anonymous website: mission.liguori.org/newsletters/pdf_archive/SA_0412.pdf

***Sexuality and sexual feelings are gifts from God. They are not sinful. It is not a sin to routinely have a sexual thought. Sexuality and sexual feelings are very powerful, and at certain times they seem to be ever-present, even dominating. However, that being said, sexual feelings are normal for human beings. God intends for us to be attracted to other
people in a sexual manner.

As we grow through adolescence into adulthood, each of us learns who he or she is as a sexual person. We slowly learn that sexual expression includes activities that are primarily 1) procreative, 2) relational, and 3) recreational. Healthy sexuality and sexual expression integrate at least these three specific functions.

People who become entirely focused on just one aspect of their sexuality are understood by most mental-health professionals and caregivers to be immature and sometimes have the potential for deviant behavior.

All men and women—with or without scrupulosity—are invited by God to grow in maturity every day, including developing, celebrating, and integrating our sexuality.***

I hope this helps.

Luna
 
Baelor, can you or me or anyone prove or disprove that someone is called to the vocation of marriage? Holy Orders? It is a leap of faith. Each has their own special gift from God.

So if someone is not married, it MAY BE an indication that they are called to marriage…because the Spirit will bring the couple together…but when the time is right in the future.

If someone is not married, it MAY BE an indication that they are not called to marriage.

And the end of the day, we can’t prove or disprove. What ya think?:o
You implied that because someone was not married, they were not called to marriage. This is not true. That is all I am saying.
 
Chibi,

Ok another edit:

The unmarried catholic has no business intentionally allowing himself or herself to be sexually aroused…else, SIN. Umarried catholic men cannot have a erection, exclude morning wood, else SIN. Unmarried catholic women cannot be in the mood…else SIN. Is this what the Church teaches?
LOL, I think you are making it too black and white. The answer is not so simple. Mainly because the most sins are personal and therefore the persons intent is important. Take your question for example. An erection is a physical act. However what cause the erection is also as important. Plus, what if the person had the intent, but did not have an erection? Questions like these are the reason why sin is not always so simple and why we are taught not to be judgmental and condemn people. We can be judgmental on sin however and say that action or intent is a sin. Love the sinner, hate the sin. 😉
 
Pilgrim, nice I like your post. We are to use our will and intellect and train ourselves to make our passions subject to our reason.:yup: So can we say, spouses need to be careful about being “passionately in love with their partner”, this can turn into idolatry since they are allowing their reason to be subject to their passion?

A couple of reasons why married Catholics practice chastity is to avoid having too many children, spacing out children and to make their reason subject to their passions. So this chastity is not indefinite for the married. They enjoy the “conjugal rights” as explained by Paul in 1 Cor 7:3…of course, not in a sense that a spouse is allowing their reason subject to their passions.

Now, the unmarried catholic must be chaste as long as they are unmarried. And possibly, It could be indefinitely…as we all know, not everyone receives the gift of marriage. The unmarried shouldn’t voluntarily willingly act upon being sexually aroused in such a way that it makes their reason subject to their passions.

Great prompt feedback everyone! Thanks! 👍

PS. Gonna start using smilies, it appears that some ppl are misinterpreting my post and me as a person trying to open up a “can of worms” 😛 Just trying to learn here folks, and I sometimes post opposing viewpoints for the sake of learning.😃
Are you confusing “chasity” with “continence”? It sure seems so in this post.

Married or single we are called to live chastely. In other words we are to use, or not use, our sexual faculties in the way God designed them. For the single person, this means continence, no sexual activity. For the married it means dignified, unselfish sexual activity.
 
Pilgrim, nice I like your post. We are to use our will and intellect and train ourselves to make our passions subject to our reason.:yup: So can we say, spouses need to be careful about being “passionately in love with their partner”, this can turn into idolatry since they are allowing their reason to be subject to their passion?
Having passions, and so being ‘passionately in love’ does not necessarily mean they are contrary to ones reason or even hold sway over ones reason. I would be very afraid of a spousal relationship that did not include emotional attachment of the spouses to each other.
A couple of reasons why married Catholics practice chastity is to avoid having too many children, spacing out children and to make their reason subject to their passions. So this chastity is not indefinite for the married. They enjoy the “conjugal rights” as explained by Paul in 1 Cor 7:3…of course, not in a sense that a spouse is allowing their reason subject to their passions.
Chastity is much more than refraining from sexual acts… All people, whether married single or consecrated are supposed to practice chastity at all times. Read John Paul II’s book ‘Love and Resoonsibility’. In this he talks about the full understanding o chastity as refusing to look on another as a mere object of use and the importance of this virtue in marriage.
Now, the unmarried catholic must be chaste as long as they are unmarried. And possibly, It could be indefinitely…as we all know, not everyone receives the gift of marriage. The unmarried shouldn’t voluntarily willingly act upon being sexually aroused in such a way that it makes their reason subject to their passions.
except for the fact as mentioned above that chastity is meant to be practiced by all at all times, I agree wih this.
 
Are you confusing “chasity” with “continence”? It sure seems so in this post.

Married or single we are called to live chastely. In other words we are to use, or not use, our sexual faculties in the way God designed them. For the single person, this means continence, no sexual activity. For the married it means dignified, unselfish sexual activity.
David you are correct. I will need to go back and review.

Aren’t these the definitions we agree on?

Chastity - refraining from sexual intercourse
Continence - exercise self control
 
David you are correct. I will need to go back and review.

Aren’t these the definitions we agree on?

Chastity - refraining from sexual intercourse
Continence - exercise self control
Again, Chastity is much more than simply refraining from sexual intercourse. I again suggest you read Blessed John Paul II’s book Love and Responsibility, in particular the chapter on the Person and Chastity. He explains it very well. Chastity has both a negative and a positivve connotation and is often only connected with the negative “thou shalt not have sex” whereas there is also a positive aspect of it that is intimitly connected with the very meaning itself of love and from which the “thou shalt not’s” of chastity flow. It is involved with a true love of others, and so in marriage specifically with a true love for your spouse that leaves no room for the disordered ‘love’ that is really only lust, the desire for the spouse as something for your own use as opposed to true love which is a complete gift of self to the spouse.
 
Having passions, and so being ‘passionately in love’ does not necessarily mean they are contrary to ones reason or even hold sway over ones reason. I would be very afraid of a spousal relationship that did not include emotional attachment of the spouses to each other.
agreed, that is why I said, “this can turn into”…it is not definite…so yes, “does not necessarily mean”
Chastity is much more than refraining from sexual acts… All people, whether married single or consecrated are supposed to practice chastity at all times. Read John Paul II’s book ‘Love and Resoonsibility’. In this he talks about the full understanding o chastity as refusing to look on another as a mere object of use and the importance of this virtue in marriage.
“Chastity at all times”. Wanderer, what is the definition of “Chastity” in your post?:hmmm:
 
Again, Chastity is much more than simply refraining from sexual intercourse. I again suggest you read Blessed John Paul II’s book Love and Responsibility, in particular the chapter on the Person and Chastity. He explains it very well. Chastity has both a negative and a positivve connotation and is often only connected with the negative “thou shalt not have sex” whereas there is also a positive aspect of it that is intimitly connected with the very meaning itself of love and from which the “thou shalt not’s” of chastity flow. It is involved with a true love of others, and so in marriage specifically with a true love for your spouse that leaves no room for the disordered ‘love’ that is really only lust, the desire for the spouse as something for your own use as opposed to true love which is a complete gift of self to the spouse.
Thanks I’ll look into this book:)
 
LOL, I think you are making it too black and white. The answer is not so simple. Mainly because the most sins are personal and therefore the persons intent is important. Take your question for example. An erection is a physical act. However what cause the erection is also as important. Plus, what if the person had the intent, but did not have an erection? Questions like these are the reason why sin is not always so simple and why we are taught not to be judgmental and condemn people. We can be judgmental on sin however and say that action or intent is a sin. Love the sinner, hate the sin. 😉
Yes, Rico, I tend to make things BLACK and WHITE alot:p I don’t like GREY, lol. I recall Corapi once saying GREY is the devils favorite color 😛

Yeah, you’ve posted some good points.
 
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