I’d like to meet someone who thinks they are a cat or dog.
My point was that it is not black and white. This “maleness” and “femaleness” is generally true. But it’s not true for everyone. It is not experienced the same way. There is no “right” way to be male or female. We say there is complementarity between the sexes, but it’s hard to see to what extent this is beyond the physical level (biological/reproductive). For everyone has his or her own personality, and social roles change, as does the culture that informs it.
In other words, a guy and girl can engage in sex, and this is a pretty universal experience and operates the same for basically anyone who does it. So in this sense, “maleness” and “femaleness” are apparent in the biological activity. But beyond this, I would like to know how one ought to be “male” or “female.” I think it is very hard to describe.