The "Why are you still single?" quiz, sorta

[whatevergirl]

*I’ve known my fair share of ‘‘shallow’’ women…women who are only looking for men, for money. (just one example) I think that men, while they might be attracted at first to a woman for looks (as my husband claims to have been with me)…if the woman has nothing to offer…is shallow, is boring, is immature, is needy, is insecure, is negative, etc etc…doesn’t matter if the woman looks like a Sophia Loren (in her younger days)…the relationship will fizzle. Let’s not forget, most men who are devout Catholics want more than a pretty face. They are looking for a woman who yes, they are attracted to from a physical sense (which actually has more to do with mating reasons, than just men being shallow but I won’t get into all of the science behind it all on this thread. lol) but they are looking for a woman who is a devout Catholic also…I would imagine, or a woman who might be open to becoming Catholic. And what kind of wife and mother will she make…etc. I would like to think that strong Catholic men by and large are not wading in the shallow end of the pool.

So, I like to call the looks thing —>> chemistry. That is somewhat essential at first, to attract two people. It isn’t just men who get to have chemistry, and make that decision. It also has to be there on the woman’s side. I think that chemistry means different things to different people, however. But, it’s not just a male thing.

I keep adding a few more cents worth…lol I’m past a dollar, I’m sure. Are my thoughts cheap? lol*

 

[BadTurkey]

Hee hee. I love The Onion! But maybe I wasn’t talking about European men. But since men are very visual, by default, they have to be shallow.

CountrySinger, men are the same, everywhere.

 

[CountrySinger]

*I’ve known my fair share of ‘‘shallow’’ women…women who are only looking for men, for money. (just one example) I think that men, while they might be attracted at first to a woman for looks (as my husband claims to have been with me)…if the woman has nothing to offer…is shallow, is boring, is immature, is needy, is insecure, is negative, etc etc…doesn’t matter if the woman looks like a Sophia Loren (in her younger days)…the relationship will fizzle. Let’s not forget, most men who are devout Catholics want more than a pretty face. They are looking for a woman who yes, they are attracted to from a physical sense (which actually has more to do with mating reasons, than just men being shallow but I won’t get into all of the science behind it all on this thread. lol) but they are looking for a woman who is a devout Catholic also…I would imagine, or a woman who might be open to becoming Catholic. And what kind of wife and mother will she make…etc. I would like to think that strong Catholic men by and large are not wading in the shallow end of the pool.

So, I like to call the looks thing —>> chemistry. That is somewhat essential at first, to attract two people. It isn’t just men who get to have chemistry, and make that decision. It also has to be their on the woman’s side. I think that chemistry means different things to different people, however. But, it’s not just a male thing.

I keep adding a few more cents worth…lol I’m past a dollar, I’m sure. Are my thoughts cheap? lol*

I get what you are saying. I’m just tired of men saying, “I would date you if you were hot”. So they want someone who is a devout Catholic women, who is also a supermodel on the side. I see those all the time, . Once you get past a certain age, the “hot” ones are all taken. And you have to be more realistic about what you can get physically.
Maybe I’ve read too maybe dating books. That it what I got for Christmas, tons of dating guides.

 

[CountrySinger]

CountrySinger, men are the same, everywhere.

Dang it. But I do know one guy who likes me and thinks I’m pretty, but he’s gay. So I don’t think that counts.

 

[whatevergirl]

I* think that men AND women want to date people they are physically attracted to…it’s natural. I had certain ‘‘looks’’ I liked back in my dating days, in men…I liked my husband’s ‘‘look,’’ and the way he smelled. I didn’t think of myself as shallow, but it definitely was something that attracted me. He liked my ‘look,’ and thus…that attracted him. I think that it’s fair to say many men and women like people of the opposite sex who take care of their bodies…that doesn’t mean you need to spend 5 hours per day at the gym, but I am of the opinion that one should become what he/she wishes to attract. I think that it might make things easier, but it’s not bullet proof.

I would say that your best ‘bet’ is to BE YOURSELF, Countrysinger. You have much to offer. I have never met you, but I bet you are the life of the party, and there’s no reason to think that your ‘time has passed,’ or that you have to work extra hard to find a good man. I think that is why many people out there who are Catholics and my age, are still single…they refuse to settle. I have often thought of myself, as a 41 yr old Catholic woman, if I were not married…I would not settle. I would rather be alone.

I know, easier said than done. I’m just trying to show you, that you don’t need to settle ma’am. You are a catch, if you want to tweak some areas of your life, do it for you…not to only attract a man. If you attract men whom you like as side bonus, GREAT…but, it’s better to be you, and love yourself than only see yourself in the eyes of what men might say about you. :hug1:*

 

[Havard]

My recent ex was only 5’2", and I’m 6’5". And she wasn’t rail-thin, either, she had a healthy, womanly body. So I know I’m not limiting myself to supermodels. The beauty I’m looking for far greater… and different than that standard.

 

[CountrySinger]

It’s funny whatevergirl, but I don’t care about a guys looks at all. I have types I like (Elliott Yamin), but for a boyfriend, looks don’t matter. It just seems so weird that someone would reject someone just because of what they look like. As long as they pass basic hygenie, they are set. Lol.
But I know that it doesn’t go both ways. I want to get married (if I were single, I would be miserable), so I have to lose weight. Oh well, I guess it’s the beginning of the sacrifice of marriage, right?

P.S. I’m actually very quiet in person (I’m soooo not the life of the party) unless I feel really comfortable.

 

[whatevergirl]

*Yes, the beginning of many sacrifices. As times goes on, the sacrifices draw you closer…and you grow in holiness. God has a sense of humor.

Well, today is the first day of a brand new year…new year, new possibliities. I say that a lot, sorry.

Who is Elliot Yamin? I know the guy in your profile pic with you, but who is he again?*

 

[CountrySinger]

*Yes, the beginning of many sacrifices. As times goes on, the sacrifices draw you closer…and you grow in holiness. God has a sense of humor.

Well, today is the first day of a brand new year…new year, new possibliities. I say that a lot, sorry.

Who is Elliot Yamin? I know the guy in your profile pic with you, but who is he again?*

He’s an R&B singer. I think he’s cute, but I really like his singing voice. I met him before his concert by accident (long story).

Yes God does have a sense of humor. I have found that out in spades. I’m ready for Him to be in a romantic mood.

 

[flyingfish]

It’s funny whatevergirl, but I don’t care about a guys looks at all. I have types I like (Elliott Yamin), but for a boyfriend, looks don’t matter. It just seems so weird that someone would reject someone just because of what they look like. As long as they pass basic hygenie, they are set. Lol.
But I know that it doesn’t go both ways. I want to get married (if I were single, I would be miserable), so I have to lose weight. Oh well, I guess it’s the beginning of the sacrifice of marriage, right?

P.S. I’m actually very quiet in person (I’m soooo not the life of the party) unless I feel really comfortable.

Maybe your shyness is a bigger problem than your weight? I don’t know how overweight you are, but plenty of overweight people are in relationships.

 

[CountrySinger]

Maybe your shyness is a bigger problem than your weight? I don’t know how overweight you are, but plenty of overweight people are in relationships.

I’m not shy (working in retail cured that, you have to be able to talk to anyone). I’m just soft-spoken, and tend to stay out of the limelight (wallflower). I hate being the center of attention or receiving praise.
Once people get to know me, I open up and you can’t make me stop cracking jokes. Or talking.

 

[chevalier]

I’m not shy (working in retail cured that, you have to be able to talk to anyone). I’m just soft-spoken, and tend to stay out of the limelight (wallflower). I hate being the center of attention or receiving praise.
Once people get to know me, I open up and you can’t make me stop cracking jokes. Or talking.

Possibly some form of a strong introverted tendency. It’s not like every introvert is the same.

So, I like to call the looks thing —>> chemistry. That is somewhat essential at first, to attract two people. It isn’t just men who get to have chemistry, and make that decision. It also has to be there on the woman’s side. I think that chemistry means different things to different people, however. But, it’s not just a male thing.

Women may be more audial or tactile, which is not to say they can’t be quite visual or men can’t be quite audial.

I get what you are saying. I’m just tired of men saying, “I would date you if you were hot”. So they want someone who is a devout Catholic women, who is also a supermodel on the side. I see those all the time, .

Men are thought to have some threshold, after which they will move on to weighing things and making a more balanced decision, while women would be inclined to go for the best. I remember reading something to this effect.

 

[CountrySinger]

Possibly some form of a strong introverted tendency. It’s not like every introvert is the same.

Men are thought to have some threshold, after which they will move on to weighing things and making a more balanced decision, while women would be inclined to go for the best. I remember reading something to this effect.

So I don’t make the threshold of acceptable? Well, if that isn’t that a self esteem boost, lol

And I’m the wrost possible combination: I’m an extrovert (I get my energy from interacting with people), but I’m also very quiet (and so ignored).

 

[chevalier]

So I don’t make the threshold of acceptable? Well, if that isn’t that a self esteem boost, lol

I once got refused a dance by every woman present in the establishment, so does that mean I was worse than everybody else?

BTW, making the threshold is comfier than having to prevent competition from raising heads.

And I’m the wrost possible combination: I’m an extrovert (I get my energy from interacting with people), but I’m also very quiet (and so ignored).

I come out different in every test I take.

 

[CountrySinger]

I once got refused a dance by every woman present in the establishment, so does that mean I was worse than everybody else?

BTW, making the threshold is comfier than having to prevent competition from raising heads.

I come out different in every test I take.

I always come out extroverted. It’s weird.

When will guys realize that plain girls are easy to date? If you give a plain/ugly girl attention, they will melt and do anything you ask. The hot ones have many suitors, and are picky, and are harder to please.

 

[whatevergirl]

How do you split quotes like you often do, chev? You’d think I’d know this, and I’ve asked…but still can’t figure it out.

 

[whatevergirl]

*There are definitely scientific and innate reasons behind men and women’s ‘‘preferences,’’ but I think that when it comes to love…there are no cookie cutters. *

 

[chevalier]

I always come out extroverted. It’s weird.

When will guys realize that plain girls are easy to date? If you give a plain/ugly girl attention, they will melt and do anything you ask. The hot ones have many suitors, and are picky, and are harder to please.

I looked better than some of the girls who refused me on that day, I think.

 

[CountrySinger]

I looked better than some of the girls who refused me on that day, I think.

I’m sure you had all your best makeup on, red high heels, and your hair done. Lol.

 

[chevalier]

How do you split quotes like you often do, chev? You’d think I’d know this, and I’ve asked…but still can’t figure it out.

Oh, sorry, here I am! You type /quote ] to finish one and quote ] to start a new one (without the spaces).