My son Jake is gay, he came out when he was 18 and me and my wife couldn’t have been more proud of him! He is now 31 and his older sister Lucy is 37. We’ve all been a happy family until about 6 months ago, when Lucy converted to Catholicism. Neither me, my wife or my son are particularly religious.
Since then Lucy became more distant with her Jake, and I started to notice Jake looking less jolly than his normal self. I decided to ask him about it, because I could sense something was wrong. At first he denied something was up, so I kept asking him what what was wrong until he finally broke down in tears one day. He told me that a few months back Lucy had called him to meet up.
Apparently when they met up she had tried to talk to him about his sexuality. According to my son, she literally begged him to repent and give up his ‘homosexual lifestyle,’ by breaking up with his boyfriend of two years. Since then she constantly rings him and texts him begging him to repent his sin, and has even messaged his boyfriend directly to ‘try and save him from hell too.’ - I was livid.
Me and my wife immediately called Lucy and demanded a ‘family meeting.’ We all sat round the table (me, my wife, Jake and Lucy), and we asked her about it. She literally said in front of us all ‘Jake, I want you to go to Heaven, you’ve got to stop this, its not natural.’ My wife burst into tears and I started to literally shake in rage. After a lot of screaming and crying from everyone, my wife and I eventually said something along the lines of: ‘you can believe what you want, but if you dare to say anything even remotely related to Jake’s life choices ever again, you will not be a part of this family.’ Her response was to look Jake in the eyes and say ‘can you not see what your doing is wrong, it’s a violation, it’s sick.’
After throwing her out of the house and telling her we would never speak to her again, we got on the phone and decided to amend our will. She now gets absolutely nothing. She arrived at our house begging to let her into our lives again, and saying not only are we letting Jake down but we are not respecting her religious beliefs
EDIT: Thanks everyone for your touching words and advice. It’s truly wonderful how supportive everyone has been, both with legal advice and heartwarming comments. Thankyou also to the people who have reminded the importance of forgiveness, we will reach out to her and try and come to an understanding. The main thing we all want to do is to put this behind us. For the people who have suggested family therapy, we are taking that into consideration (obviously with the current situation in the world, our options are limited, but we will see what we can do). Thanks all.
