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After discussing with a priest, my problems I’ve been having with being very attracted to my dance teacher who is married- he advised ‘let’s get a boyfriend’. Well, by chance a few days later I was asked to a movie by a new friend.

Well it worked beautifully…I now think of my new friend all the time instead of my teacher but my body is reacting the same way when I think about him. :confused:

Maybe now I should get a puppy to keep my mind from thinking of my date too much. :rolleyes:
 
Your body is supposed to act like that. Don’t be too concerned.
 
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Stylus:
After discussing with a priest, my problems I’ve been having with being very attracted to my dance teacher who is married- he advised ‘let’s get a boyfriend’. Well, by chance a few days later I was asked to a movie by a new friend.

Well it worked beautifully…I now think of my new friend all the time instead of my teacher but my body is reacting the same way when I think about him. :confused:

Maybe now I should get a puppy to keep my mind from thinking of my date too much. :rolleyes:
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Your body is going to act up like that no matter what you do or who you date. That is just a natural part of our human sexuality. The best thing is to confront these issues directly. It is very important that you don’t repress these feelings. Repressing sexual feelings is alot like repressing anger, it may work for a while, but we will just end up exploding in the long run. I would recommend reading a few sections of Fr. Benedict Groeschel’s book “The Courage to be Chaste”. He addresses these same issues in his book. I think you would gain a lot from it.
 
Well that’s certainly a relief to hear. The only thing that I get so scrupulous about is that if you’re not supposed to entertain a thought that arouses you. If you think blissfully about your boyfriend’s smile and it causes that reaction, isn’t that the same thing? :confused:
 
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Well that’s certainly a relief to hear. The only thing that I get so scrupulous about is that if you’re not supposed to entertain a thought that arouses you. If you think blissfully about your boyfriend’s smile and it causes that reaction, isn’t that the same thing? :confused:
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No, but when that happens, stop thinking about the smilefor a while, lol!

It’s if you START OUT by thinking about your boyfriends err… well… that’s when you know your in trouble.
 
And you can still get a puppy…may I suggest a Scottish Terrier?
 
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And you can still get a puppy…may I suggest a Scottish Terrier?
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Please. :confused: Get a Doberman. I’ve got 2, and they are simly the BEST dogs out there.

Their sole purpose in life is to bond with you and protect you. You will never find a more faithful dog than a Doberman. My 2 constantly patrol the house and yard, sleep in front of my bedroom door to guard, and won’t let anyone near me unless they hear in my voice that I am OK with the person to come closer.

The threat level in my house is always at Red to them. 😃 but once they know you, you can’t get them out of your personal space. they constantly want to be pet and loved. they are a riot, and always doing the funniest things.
 
Whatever type of dog you get, make it very large, very protective, and very intimidating. It’ll help with the staying chaste thing. 😃
 
Peace be with you!

A priest recently told me that when these thoughts and feelings come up, make a joke of them and thank God for reminding you that you’re still only human. He said that will help with them so that they don’t lead you to sin.

In Christ,
Rand
 
What i do when im tempted about a person is to ask god to make me love them more. My reasoning is that if i loved them more (purely), i wouldnt be thinking about them in that way. As for random lust that wasnt an escalation of thinking of someone i care for, that is diabolical and i start praying and dont stop until its gone.

As for you body reacting to his smile, I have no idea how female “feelings” work, but as a male i can tell you there is a difference (sometimes ill admit it is hard to tell where it is, but there is definatly a line) between sexual arousal and physical manifestations of bliss. God has answered my prayers in some cases and there are some female friends that i love with all my heart, but not romantically. Just thinking about them makes me blissful and happy and my whole body feels good whenever im just talking to them or thinking about them (in some ways i like it better than sexual feelings, more joy less guilt), but it is not sexual (trust me i know that temptation all to well).

as for the dog: basset hounds rock my wolrd.
 
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After discussing with a priest, my problems I’ve been having with being very attracted to my dance teacher who is married- he advised ‘let’s get a boyfriend’. Well, by chance a few days later I was asked to a movie by a new friend.

Well it worked beautifully…I now think of my new friend all the time instead of my teacher but my body is reacting the same way when I think about him. :confused:

Maybe now I should get a puppy to keep my mind from thinking of my date too much. :rolleyes:
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The body is the enemy of the soul. That is why Jesus fasted for 40 days prior to starting His public mission. We need fasting, penance and sacrifice to mould and model our souls just as we need diet, rest and exercise to develop our bodies. “Sacrifice is giving up something you do not have to in the midst of plenty.” (Locution I received.)
We live in a society where morals, disciplines, sacraments and chastity are mocked. That is one of the reasons many of us struggle harder today with lust and lustful thoughts than did some of our ancestors previously as sinful behaviour is subtly and not so subtly okayed and enshrined in so many ways including laws.
Please everyone do not accept these uncontrolled and uninvited emotions as ‘normal’. See them for what they are which is sinful behaviour that is not sinful only within the context of sacramental marriage when we forsake all others and cling only to our spouse.
 
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Whatever type of dog you get, make it very large, very protective, and very intimidating. It’ll help with the staying chaste thing. 😃
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Then it would have to be a Bouvier:D.

Being 120 pounds with a very serious expression should qualify my Bouvier in the large, protective, and intimidating categories, lol.
 
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Maybe now I should get a puppy to keep my mind from thinking of my date too much. :rolleyes:
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As long as you don’t think of the puppy like *that:bigyikes: *, lol
 
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