Hmm…if you want to be kind to her friends, and save their sanity, cut off contact, but let her know in no uncertain terms that you are doing so. I’m the friend of an overanalytical woman. She has gotten better over the years (aided with some anti-anxiety drugs) but holy cow, sometimes the conversations had me banging my head against whatever was closest.
“Why hasn’t he called me? I left five messages!”
“Hon, perhaps you should just let it go.”
“No, I need to know what’s going on. Maybe I did something wrong? Why won’t he text message me?”
“(sigh) Perhaps he got tied up at work. It happens to you sometimes.”
“I know, but you’d think he would take five minutes to at least return my emails! He was all flirty with me the last time I saw him. That means he likes me, right?”
And then I would consider contacting the guy myself to tell him to grow a spine and tell her that he’s not interested and to leave him alone. But of course I never did this, he never worked up the guts on his own to actually confront her, and so I would be the one on the phone for hours trying to talk sense into my friend.
“He didn’t say he wasn’t interested, so maybe he still is, right? He said I looked nice. Maybe I should call him again. I sent him a card to let him know I was thinking of him. Do you think I should cook dinner and take it to his house?”
"(sigh) :banghead: "
Please, for all the women like me out there, tell her you’re not interested. Tell her in such a manner that there is no room for debate. Then change your email address. And if you’ve given her your work email or some other one you can’t change, well, you’ve learned your lesson for next time.
