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VeritasLuxMea said:
Sorry, just don’t get it. Makeup, thongs, padded bra’s… so what?

Also what kind of crazy boundaries does your mom have to be telling you all about your sister’s underwear? Seriously.

Just to reiterate - I don’t see anything wrong with what was mentioned.
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Agreed.
 
I don’t think what is going on necesarily indicates that something immoral is going on, but ultimately this is up to your parents’ to handle.
 
I agree with most of the posters here. This isn’t really your job, and if you’re a brother, then it’s even stranger. If the rest of your sister’s behavior seems good, then undergarments and make-up aren’t an issue. It’s just a matter of her personal preference.
 
Maybe you can get your hubby or your Mom to watch your kids and take your sister on a girls day out. Take her to lunch and listen to her and find out what’s going on in her life. Take her to one of the malls and the big stores and have her get a “makeover” at one of the counters, Estee Lauder was always my favorite. Let them know she’s 16 and wants that “no makeup” look. If the funds are there, buy her a good mascara or lipstick. Then do some window shopping and maybe top it off with a manicure or a haircut. And listen to her and be honest with her if she asks questions. And just be her friend as her sister.
Many good Christian teens wear makeup and have nails done and love to dress nicely.
I never had any siblings, so I missed out on this kind of day and then I had sons. Never got to take a daughter or sister out for a day like this! Enjoy it and have fun.
Thongs, makeup and padded bras don’t mean your sister’s gone to the dark side, it just means she’s become a young lady and is stretching her world a little bit and wants to fit in with her friends.
 
JA25 said:
I need some advice. Today, my mom found thongs in my 16-year-old sister’s underwear drawer while she was gone at school. Lately, my sister has been sneaking in padded bras, makeup, and inappropriate clothing into the house and locking herself in her room for long periods of time. She says she’s doing homework and “praying,” but one can only imagine what she’s really doing. My parents have talked to her about the importance of chastity and living a pure life style numerous times. They’ve showed her videos by Jason and Crystalina Evert, who I know are great speakers on teen Catholicism and chastity. Despite their attempts, my sister is being stubbornly resistant because right now, physical appearance and social acceptance are her main priorities. What should we do?
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She is being influenced by her Protestant friends. If your parents really care about her, they would check her purse before she went to school to make sure she did not have skimpy articles of clothing. They would take away her phone(give her a walkie-talkie), and her internet privileges.Even wiser would be to put her in an all-girl’s Catholic school away from the temptation of Protestants and boys.

Show this to your Mom.

Either they do something now, that may cost a little money for her proper education, or they will be paying more for the upkeep of another baby, after she whores herself out for social acceptance and gets pregnant. If need be Spank her. I had it done to me 30 years ago, but somewhere down the line, parents got sloppy, and the kids now rebel against the parents and tell them what to do.
 
Catholic_Prime said:
She is being influenced by her Protestant friends. If your parents really care about her, they would check her purse before she went to school to make sure she did not have skimpy articles of clothing. They would take away her phone(give her a walkie-talkie), and her internet privileges.Even wiser would be to put her in an all-girl’s Catholic school away from the temptation of Protestants and boys.

Show this to your Mom.

Either they do something now, that may cost a little money for her proper education, or they will be paying more for the upkeep of another baby, after she whores herself out for social acceptance and gets pregnant. If need be Spank her. I had it done to me 30 years ago, but somewhere down the line, parents got sloppy, and the kids now rebel against the parents and tell them what to do.
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This is very rude, and I hope you’re trolling us here. If this is a serious post, then Catholic_Prime, I think you have some real issues.
 
Et_Cetera said:
This is very rude, and I hope you’re trolling us here. If this is a serious post, then Catholic_Prime, I think you have some real issues.
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I didn’t think it was rude. Brutal? Yes. Given today’s cultural context, it seems like a pretty normal response although I don’t know where the heck the Protestant references came from.

Do I think it fits with the thread? Not really. If all it is is underwear, it’s not a big deal, and there’s no real reason to hit the panic button.

I don’t really see a direct connection between wearing a thong and then, say, growing up to be a white house intern. 😃

The friends she hangs out with, however, are another matter…
 
Catholic_Prime said:
She is being influenced by her Protestant friends. If your parents really care about her, they would check her purse before she went to school to make sure she did not have skimpy articles of clothing. They would take away her phone(give her a walkie-talkie), and her internet privileges.Even wiser would be to put her in an all-girl’s Catholic school away from the temptation of Protestants and boys.

Show this to your Mom.

Either they do something now, that may cost a little money for her proper education, or they will be paying more for the upkeep of another baby, after she whores herself out for social acceptance and gets pregnant. If need be Spank her. I had it done to me 30 years ago, but somewhere down the line, parents got sloppy, and the kids now rebel against the parents and tell them what to do.
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Not sure if serious?

And that’s the scary thing about CAF. I might as well flip a coin to determine if you’re for real or not because it’s a 50/50 shot.
 
VeritasLuxMea said:
Not sure if serious?

And that’s the scary thing about CAF. I might as well flip a coin to determine if you’re for real or not because it’s a 50/50 shot.
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I just looked at some previous posts, and I think it’s a joke account.
 
Catholic_Prime said:
She is being influenced by her Protestant friends. If your parents really care about her, they would check her purse before she went to school to make sure she did not have skimpy articles of clothing. They would take away her phone(give her a walkie-talkie), and her internet privileges.Even wiser would be to put her in an all-girl’s Catholic school away from the temptation of Protestants and boys.

Show this to your Mom.

Either they do something now, that may cost a little money for her proper education, or they will be paying more for the upkeep of another baby, after she whores herself out for social acceptance and gets pregnant. If need be Spank her. I had it done to me 30 years ago, but somewhere down the line, parents got sloppy, and the kids now rebel against the parents and tell them what to do.
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Seriously? She’s wearing some make-up and choosing undergarments that are comfortable for her and you deduce that she’s going to get pregnant because of it? And blaming Protestants for it? Really?

If the parents were to follow your suggestion of spanking a 16 year-old girl, are you going to post their bond money and pay for their attorney when they are charged with child abuse? Physical or sexual? A swat on the behind of a young child may not seem any different to you than spanking the buttocks of a teenage girl, but let me enlighten you…there’s a world of difference (and a ton of damage that can be done) should that happen. Emotional, psychological, and of course, legal.
 
Nec5 said:
I didn’t think it was rude. Brutal? Yes. Given today’s cultural context, it seems like a pretty normal response although I don’t know where the heck the Protestant references came from.

Do I think it fits with the thread? Not really. If all it is is underwear, it’s not a big deal, and there’s no real reason to hit the panic button.

I don’t really see a direct connection between wearing a thong and then, say, growing up to be a white house intern. 😃

The friends she hangs out with, however, are another matter…
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Come on, man. His post was some bizarre scaremongering. Also, the term “whore” is pretty offensive. I’m surprised it’s not on automatic edit here. All we know about this girl is her preference for undergarments. Make-up is normal for a 16-year-old girl as long as it’s not overdone. It’s reasonable to expect that she might have some blemishes to cover or want a little nail polish or blush. It’s a ridiculous leap to say that she will get pregnant or that she should be sent to a girls’ school. Spank a 16-year-old? Give her a walkie-talkie? That was not a normal response. The guy either has issues or is trolling.
 
Et_Cetera said:
Come on, man. His post was some bizarre scaremongering. Also, the term “whore” is pretty offensive.
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Well, it’s used extensively in the Bible, so I think you problem with it is that it is judgmental. Whether it applies in this circumstance is impossible to know. I have no idea what the daughter si doing or like.

I just think that kind of language was effective when it was used in the past. The problem of today is the fear of using accurate and powerful language in an attempt to be politically correct.

The walkie talkie stuff didn’t make much sense to me either. I will say this: Christ himself called told us it would better to cut off a body part that caused us to sin rather than give into that sin.

I don’t know. I suspect the answer to this thread is to have the parents talk with the daughter to see what’s going on. If they have a brain and aren’t complete pollyannas, they should be able to figure out if it’s just a phase teenager thing or if she’s hanging around trash that will lead her to some horrific outcomes.
 
It’s just underwear. I wouldn’t worry about padded bras and thongs. Maybe she’s just concerned about panty lines…
 
Nec5 said:
Well, it’s used extensively in the Bible, so I think you problem with it is that it is judgmental. Whether it applies in this circumstance is impossible to know. I have no idea what the daughter si doing or like.
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…or a good problem with it could be that, you know, it’s entirely uncalled for based on the original post.

Yeah, that could be it.
I just think that kind of language was effective when it was used in the past. The problem of today is the fear of using accurate and powerful language in an attempt to be politically correct.
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Is it even close to accurate based on the original post? Are you just a fan of throwing the label “whore” on women whenever you get a chance because it’s “effective”?
The walkie talkie stuff didn’t make much sense to me either. I will say this: Christ himself called told us it would better to cut off a body part that caused us to sin rather than give into that sin.
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You think her phone is endangering her immortal soul and you base this on… what exactly?

A post by someone who is a stranger to her and called her a whore?
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Nec5:
I don’t know. I suspect the answer to this thread is to have the parents talk with the daughter to see what’s going on. If they have a brain and aren’t complete pollyannas, they should be able to figure out if it’s just a phase teenager thing or if she’s hanging around trash that will lead her to some horrific outcomes.
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Do you know what “pollyanna” means or are you just in love with typing that word?

What we know about this mother is that she snooped in her daughter’s underwear drawer, told her sibling all about what type of underwear she is wearing and then made him/her frantically search the internet for parenting advice.

Does this really sound like the behavior of a pollyanna to you?

It’s confusing at this point: on the one hand, you’re perfectly willing (perhaps even excited?) at the idea that this girl could be a “whore” with sparse evidence to support that claim. On the other hand, you’re open to the idea that her parents might be pollyannas despite the mother’s bizarre behavior?
 
Et_Cetera said:
This is very rude, and I hope you’re trolling us here. If this is a serious post, then Catholic_Prime, I think you have some real issues.
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I’m pretty sure Catholic_Prime had his/her tongue planted firmly in cheek when (s)he typed that out!:o
 
VeritasLuxMea said:
…or a good problem with it could be that, you know, it’s entirely uncalled for based on the original post.

Yeah, that could be it.

Is it even close to accurate based on the original post? Are you just a fan of throwing the label “whore” on women whenever you get a chance because it’s “effective”?

You think her phone is endangering her immortal soul and you base this on… what exactly?

A post by someone who is a stranger to her and called her a whore?

Do you know what “pollyanna” means or are you just in love with typing that word?

What we know about this mother is that she snooped in her daughter’s underwear drawer, told her sibling all about what type of underwear she is wearing and then made him/her frantically search the internet for parenting advice.

Does this really sound like the behavior of a pollyanna to you?

It’s confusing at this point: on the one hand, you’re perfectly willing (perhaps even excited?) at the idea that this girl could be a “whore” with sparse evidence to support that claim. On the other hand, you’re open to the idea that her parents might be pollyannas despite the mother’s bizarre behavior?
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Thank you all for your answers. The situation has been handled by my parents effectively, and I am no longer involved. My mom patiently talked to my sister and was very open with her. No spanking was done. 🙂 And I appologize for any misunderstanding, but my mother is a very good parent. I have a very close relationship with my mom, and she wasn’t putting pressure on me to do her parenting for her. She was merely asking for some resources that she could use because she knows that I can find things really well (I’m a bit more computer savvy than she is, haha). We were both looking for things on the Internet because she wanted to get as much information and opinions as possible. So my mom didn’t force me to go on the Internet to find anything. When she came to me yesterday, she was stressed out because this isn’t the first issue (whether it be viewed as minor or major by interpretation), that my parents have had with my sister.
Not that my sister is being a slut or anything. The reason she’s been using thongs, padded bras, and excesssive makeup is to attract boys at school (no big surprise there, seeing that she’s a sixteen-year-old girl). She openly told my mom so yesterday. It’s completely normal, I agree. What my parents are concerned about is that it will get out of hand if they don’t say anything to her. It seems that lately, my sister has only been focusing on her appearance (again, no big surprise there). My parents want to let her know that it isn’t healthy to only focus on one’s physical appearance and that she’s beautiful without having to wear all the added things. Plus, thongs actually are health hazerdous. Here’s some potential risks of wearing thongs:
  1. Thongs can transport bacteria from your rectal area to your private area, resulting in urinary-tract and vaginal infections.
  2. Wearing tight material like a thong can cause tiny tears in your urethra and outer vaginal area.
  3. Thongs can cause chafing and hemorrhoids in the anal area.
  4. The string part can inflame the skin and cause yeast infections.
My sister has actually been complaining of some problems, well, down there, for a while now so my mom took her to the doctor yesterday to check it out because it was really bothering my sister. It is possible that it could be from thong use, but they don’t know for sure.

So again, the main reason I posted my question was to be helpful because I care about my sister’s health and I love her very much. She’s a beautiful young girl, and I want her to realize that too without having to depend soley on beauty products.
 
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