Oh there are more details. There always are. But they come mostly in the form that strays away from “gee, he is just a great guy and this is his only screw up.”
If the poster is betrayed enough to post here, there is more to it than a one time deal.
My wife and I did one year long distance before we were married. We had an agreement that still stands to this day 13 years and 5 kids later. If either of us were uncomfortable with a situation, we told the other, the other, then did not do it. This was anything, it engages incredible trust in someone to give them veto rights over your freedom. You find out right away if the other person is either controlling or sneaky.
I wanted to go to a concert once, with a pretty wild crowd. She said no, I was fine with that. It was probably better than the trouble I would have been surrounded by.
She had a mouse in her dorm room once. She was going to stay in a male’s room whom she was friends with, I said no, she pulled the “oh don’t worry he is gay” line and I still said I did not like the idea at all. So she found someone else to stay with.
Here is the thing, if she had lied to me, or I lied to her, and she found out about it or I found out about it it would have been a deal breaker. And that is why I know I can trust her and she can trust me, because I know her character. And I know it because of how she acted when we were courting.
Think of it this way, if the OPs boyfriend loved her like a man would love a wife, then wouldn’t the last thing he would want to do is hurt her, much less divulge personal stuff about her to another girl? That is no honorable, laying his life down for his woman type of man. He can learn from the incident and maybe make a great husband to a woman someday. And she can find someone who is marriage ready.
