Thought experiment, Celibate men living together going together to Church

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I think some form of this question probably has been asked, but I’m not sure if this has been done in a way to consider your own values and assumption. How would you view two men or women living together that come to Church together, maybe with a child? Yes this is a bit theoretical, but though experiments are exactly how Einstein came up with E = mc². Would you assume they are having sex? Or maybe one is divorced with child custody and a friend simply joins them for Church? Would you presume a same sex couple cannot be celibate, or even if they aren’t, and bring a child up for for Baptism?

There are certainly more permutations, but I think one’s response has much to do with how we gossip, presume, and welcome people to Church. This extends into many more ways we view and treat people in Church, but I picked this topic to poke at something more uncomfortable. Uncomfortable topics are how we best examine our consciences.
 
I think that the biggest issue here would be who are the parents of the child, and who is raising the child. If it is clear that these are two single men who are sharing an apartment, but one of them also is raising a child (perhaps from a marriage that resulted in divorce), then I don’t see a problem with this situation in principle. But it is true that some people might jump to the wrong conclusions, given the current cultural climate.

For what it’s worth, I am a man, and I have lived in the same apartment with other men (i.e., college roommates), and I went to church with at least one of those roommates. I don’t think anyone would have an issue with that.
 
Well, what else is happening? are they two sisters or brothers living together to rise one of their children?
Do they make PDA?
 
My roommate and I used to attend mass together.
Sometimes my fiancé would join us.
Maybe everybody thought we were Mormons and he was married to us both
 
This is not really an answer to the OP’s question, but just something I thought of that is somewhat in keeping with the topic of this post:

When I was in college, I had a summer internship one year, where I needed to rent an apartment for the summer months only. I had a friend from a different college who was doing an internship at the same time in the same place. We decided to save money by sharing an apartment for the summer. Because the internship was in a bigger city than the small college towns that we were accustomed to living in, the apartment prices seemed pretty high to us. We decided to rent a one-bedroom apartment rather than a two-bedroom, to save money. We figured that it’s only for the summer, and we both would be out of town many of the weekends anyway, so we wouldn’t mind having less room. And it’s not like we would have to sleep in the same bed. But we did have a good laugh over what the rental agents thought about two guys renting a one-bedroom apartment. We figured they may have assumed we were gay. We also didn’t care. We knew the real story, and we weren’t too concerned about what some stranger might think.
 
I would assume they were brothers or friends. No problem.
When I was in college and graduate, for years I had male roommates. Sometimes we would be together in town for one reason or another. I don’t think people thought we were gay.
 
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I don’t make assumptions about people of the same sex who live together and/or come to their chosen place of worship together.

But going under the assumption that this is merely a hypothetical question, if I did make assumptions and knew that they were living together with or without children, it would be that they were roommates who were sharing expenses and who went to the same place of worship.

If I didn’t know whether or not they were living together under the same roof, I would assume they were friends sharing a ride to their chosen place of worship or that they had met up in the parking lot and were entering their place of worship together.

I wouldn’t automatically assume they were gay under either circumstance.
 
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How would you view two men or women living together that come to Church together, maybe with a child?
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I’d view them as two people at church with a child, if I even noticed them at all.

I really don’t have time or brain space to sit around speculating on the relationships of people to the other people who come to church with them, unless they are making it obvious by engaging in inappropriate PDA during the Mass. I’m busy praying and minding my own affairs.
 
I think the OPs question just goes to show how sexualized (or dirty minded) our society is.

Does anybody else remember when two women walking down the street were just two women walking down the street?

Now people are all: they must be lovers!

Sheesh
 
No one would know if the men are celibate or not of course.

I’d probably think that one of the guys had joint custody, and that’s why mom wasn’t there.

Growing up with the Odd Couple on TV, I wouldn’t think they were necessarily gay sex partners.
 
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