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I felt compelled to create an account to answer this question. I am a practicing catholic woman, who married last year to an agnostic man who also previously was brought up protestant but in a toxic way. He enjoyed it when he was young, but after growing up, he had too many questions that he felt couldn’t be answered. So he fell out with that church.
While we were dating, I was also questioning about our future. But we read alot of books on marriage prep (if both are serious on marriage, I definitely recommend reading christian catholic marriage prep books together and discussing!) that helped us have the difficult discussions about money, kids, politics, sex, religion, family. What drew me to my husband was that morally, he believes in doing what is good for others. To him, it wasn’t about trying to be saved or to get into heaven. It was about seeing people who are struggling, and doing what he can to help them. I really admire this about him and feel that he is better at practicing the faith than many Christians are. As Jesus said “whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me”. How many Christians are willing to speak with a poor person, offer them money without judgement, or buy food for them? Because I know him, I am a better Catholic. I discussed with one of my best friends who is also catholic and has been dating an agnostic man, and she brought up that point to me. If all the things you’ve discussed honestely together with no reservations, and you truly love one another and see yourself learning from each other, then I think it is very possible. My husband respects my faith and goes to church with me every Sunday. I never forced him and if anything, he offered to take me to church while we were friends!
As @yppop said perfectly, it is important to
Start praying for him! Everyday! If it is in God’s will, it will work out. Pray for what God wants for you and Your boyfriend. Not for what you want. Whatever results, it is for the best for you both. You are young still. Focus on building a strong friendship that will last.