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I converted last easter. I’ve very recently felt a discernment for a religious life. It happened very fast, in just a few seconds. This is something I never looked for. Never sought. I’ve been confused and resistant to the idea. Yet I want God more than anything and I want to follow God’s will for my life. I’ve been reading some of the earlier entries made here and its good to know that other people have been confused and/or resistant. Part of me wishes that I have have some of this convert zeal, while the other part rejects this idea. I don’t know whether to hope that’s the case or not. I’ve decided to just to wait and see for now, while I become more confortable with the possibility. I am glad that I’ve found this forum. Its good to see that what I’m feeling right now isn’t odd; that others have felt this.
I think that your decision to wait and see for now is a good one. This is the time for you to experience the life of a parish, be in relationship with other Catholics and just deepen in your faith life and spirituality. If God is calling you, your sense of call with remain. In my experience, God always gets us where we are meant to be.

I will be holding you in prayer as you put down roots in the Church!
Sr. Judith Ann
 
Just another thought, is religious life an everyday renewal of oneself in order to better serve the Lord? If this is my vocation, I foresee myself doing this for the rest of my life which I find so fearsome and troublesome. There are probably moments when I will not be happy and will be in low spirit. How do you deal with it? Is this what they meant a living sacrifice or a mere temptation? Will a community accept someone who are much afraid yet want to try or they mostly accepts a clear mind?
 
Just another thought, is religious life an everyday renewal of oneself in order to better serve the Lord? If this is my vocation, I foresee myself doing this for the rest of my life which I find so fearsome and troublesome. There are probably moments when I will not be happy and will be in low spirit. How do you deal with it? Is this what they meant a living sacrifice or a mere temptation? Will a community accept someone who are much afraid yet want to try or they mostly accepts a clear mind?
I understand some of your feelings. I find I have been up and down a great deal over the last month as well. What I found helped my negative feelings the most was talking about them with my priest and reading about what other people feel here. I’m not an expert, but it seems to me negative feelings don’t last forever. Find out what the driving force is behind your feelings and talking about them is a great way to get to the root cause. You should have seen my post I left a week ago. I was in a bad place when I left it, but leaving the message itself was helpful. Hope that was helpful.
 
Hello!

My name is Lina and I will be 20 this Saturday! I’ve been discerning religious life since I was 16. I’m looking into Franciscan Contemplative but Active communities. Any ideas?

God bless!
Hi Lina,
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Welcome as you begin what may be a process to a vocation.
I hope you will find much help in this forum. One thing of course that everyone without a doubt will tell you is to

Pray Pray Pray

Find a Spiritual Advisor

Try to connect with a sister in the tradition you are looking in. She can be of invaluable help in finding books on the way of life you are drawn to

Also in this day and age of the internet these websites may be of use

There are a few websites or guides to ministry that may be of some help. I will list them here. I am sure that many of our friends in the forum will pop in with other suggestions also.
  1. VocationMatch.com
  2. www.religiousministries.com*
    ( This is a great one as it lists communities by state, by order and by ministry
3)www.VocationsPlacement.org
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(This is also a fantastic website as it has a survey for those in whatever stage of discernment. They also begin sending information on various communities. They do send some information outside of the parameters in other words you may mention Franciscan Spiriuality and you may rec some response from say Dominicans. This is actually by design as many people who visit their website are unsure of the exact spirituality they may be called to. )
When I was first in my discernment process, as I reenter again. I used all three to help me along in my journey.

Blessings of Peace and All Good!
 
Hello!

My name is Lina and I will be 20 this Saturday! I’ve been discerning religious life since I was 16. I’m looking into Franciscan Contemplative but Active communities. Any ideas?

God bless!
I would strongly recommend the Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal and the Sisters of St. Francis of Perpetual Adoration! I’ve met the CFR Sisters, and they are INCREDIBLE!

franciscansisterscfr.com/
ssfpa.org/
 
Hi, everyone! 🙂

I’m a college student beginning discernment. I am a recent ‘revert’ (I had received the Sacraments as a child, but my family never practiced the faith growing up). I recently told my priest that I thought I should consider religious life, and he told me he thinks I have a possible vocation to contemplative life. This priest is now acting as my spiritual director.

I’m having a little trouble finding communities. There is such a big difference between purely contemplative communities and active-contemplative! I want something in between! 😊

I love the Nashville Dominicans, the Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist, and many other active-contemplative communities, but their daily schedules just look a little too packed full for me. I thought about how I would feel living that life, and though I think I would be happy, I think I would feel rushed and would be thirsting for more quiet time to sit with Christ.

On the other hand, the purely contemplative communities don’t seem like the right fit, either! I am looking online at some cloistered communities, but I’m not sure… I don’t feel comfortable with a full cloister, and I think I need more contact with people in my life. I love the schedule in the contemplative, cloistered communities, in which only about 4 hours are dedicated to work, but I wish the work consisted of something other than sewing, baking, art, etc.!

My perfect community would have a schedule like those cloistered, contemplative communities, but our “work” would consist of teaching classes, spiritual direction, or retreats–something focused on sharing the faith with people and helping people on their spiritual journeys! Of course, my “perfect” community is the one to which God leads me! 👍

Before you suggest it, I do like the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy, but I don’t think that’s my charism. 🙂

I’m meeting with my SD next week, so hopefully he will have some thoughts!
 
I too am discerning my vocation, at the moment I am in contact with two orders; The Little Sisters of the Poor and the Dominican Sisters of the English Congregation of St Catherine of Siena. I’m hoping to visit them this year (finances and circumstances permitting).
 
Well, due to some unforeseeable circumstances, I am back to discerning again. I’m thinking about the Holy Spirit Adoration Sisters. I LOVE their perpetual adoration and the silence. I’m going to write them and start discerning with them informally. They’ve been on my mind a lot this week.

adorationsisters.org/

These are also ones I want to get in contact with:

Discalced Carmelite Nuns in Arlington, TX
Little Sisters of the Poor
Dominican Sisters of Hawthorne
Religious Sisters of Mercy
Discalced Carmelite Nuns of Ada (Parnell)
Oblate Sisters of the Sacred Heart (take care of retired and ill priests)
Servants of Mary, Ministers to the Sick
 
Hi, everyone! 🙂

I’m a college student beginning discernment. I am a recent ‘revert’ (I had received the Sacraments as a child, but my family never practiced the faith growing up). I recently told my priest that I thought I should consider religious life, and he told me he thinks I have a possible vocation to contemplative life. This priest is now acting as my spiritual director.

I’m having a little trouble finding communities. There is such a big difference between purely contemplative communities and active-contemplative! I want something in between! 😊

I love the Nashville Dominicans, the Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist, and many other active-contemplative communities, but their daily schedules just look a little too packed full for me. I thought about how I would feel living that life, and though I think I would be happy, I think I would feel rushed and would be thirsting for more quiet time to sit with Christ.

On the other hand, the purely contemplative communities don’t seem like the right fit, either! I am looking online at some cloistered communities, but I’m not sure… I don’t feel comfortable with a full cloister, and I think I need more contact with people in my life. I love the schedule in the contemplative, cloistered communities, in which only about 4 hours are dedicated to work, but I wish the work consisted of something other than sewing, baking, art, etc.!

My perfect community would have a schedule like those cloistered, contemplative communities, but our “work” would consist of teaching classes, spiritual direction, or retreats–something focused on sharing the faith with people and helping people on their spiritual journeys! Of course, my “perfect” community is the one to which God leads me! 👍

Before you suggest it, I do like the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy, but I don’t think that’s my charism. 🙂

I’m meeting with my SD next week, so hopefully he will have some thoughts!
Have you thought about the Sister Servants of the Eternal Word? They are semi-contemplative and do retreats at their Casa Maria. They were formed from the Nashville Dominicans and are Dominican and Franciscan rooted.

sisterservants.org/

I’m thinking about checking them out a little myself.

There’s also the Benedictine Sisters of Perpetual Adoration in Clyde, MO. They are not active at all, but they are still able to go home and visit their families once a year for 2 weeks.

benedictinesisters.org/
 
Well, due to some unforeseeable circumstances, I am back to discerning again. I’m thinking about the Holy Spirit Adoration Sisters. I LOVE their perpetual adoration and the silence. I’m going to write them and start discerning with them informally. They’ve been on my mind a lot this week.

adorationsisters.org/

These are also ones I want to get in contact with:

Discalced Carmelite Nuns in Arlington, TX
Little Sisters of the Poor
Dominican Sisters of Hawthorne
Religious Sisters of Mercy
Discalced Carmelite Nuns of Ada (Parnell)
Oblate Sisters of the Sacred Heart (take care of retired and ill priests)
Servants of Mary, Ministers to the Sick
Holding you in my thoughts and prayers 🙂 I am waiting to hear from the Little Sisters of The Poor regarding late vocations.
 
Holding you in my thoughts and prayers 🙂 I am waiting to hear from the Little Sisters of The Poor regarding late vocations.
I was really seriously discerning a vocation with them at one point earlier on. I love how devoted they are to caring for the aged and poor. I already have my CNA training, and I want to go back to get training as a Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN/LVN), and eventually work up to being a Registered Nurse. I am planning on emailing the Vocation Director I was in contact with for a while (Sr. Constance, I believe). 🙂

I’ll keep you in my prayers! If God wants you there, He’ll find a way.👍
 
I was really seriously discerning a vocation with them at one point earlier on. I love how devoted they are to caring for the aged and poor. I already have my CNA training, and I want to go back to get training as a Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN/LVN), and eventually work up to being a Registered Nurse. I am planning on emailing the Vocation Director I was in contact with for a while (Sr. Constance, I believe). 🙂

I’ll keep you in my prayers! If God wants you there, He’ll find a way.👍
I have placed my vocation in Gods hands, I know he will lead me to where he wants me to be. I will hold you in my prayers and thoughts 🙂
 
Well, due to some unforeseeable circumstances, I am back to discerning again. I’m thinking about the Holy Spirit Adoration Sisters. I LOVE their perpetual adoration and the silence. I’m going to write them and start discerning with them informally. They’ve been on my mind a lot this week.

adorationsisters.org/

These are also ones I want to get in contact with:

Discalced Carmelite Nuns in Arlington, TX
Little Sisters of the Poor
Dominican Sisters of Hawthorne
Religious Sisters of Mercy
Discalced Carmelite Nuns of Ada (Parnell)
Oblate Sisters of the Sacred Heart (take care of retired and ill priests)
Servants of Mary, Ministers to the Sick
*I will keep you in my prayers Carmelite Girl. Wow it seems you have one thing happen on your journey after another. I actually looked at the Holy Spirit Sisters on my first discernment almost 30 years ago… they seemed a lovely community… just not what I was drawn too at the time. You will continue to be in my prayers.

Blessings of Peace and All Good!*
 
Well, due to some unforeseeable circumstances, I am back to discerning again. I’m thinking about the Holy Spirit Adoration Sisters. I LOVE their perpetual adoration and the silence. I’m going to write them and start discerning with them informally. They’ve been on my mind a lot this week.

adorationsisters.org/

These are also ones I want to get in contact with:

Discalced Carmelite Nuns in Arlington, TX
Little Sisters of the Poor
Dominican Sisters of Hawthorne
Religious Sisters of Mercy
Discalced Carmelite Nuns of Ada (Parnell)
Oblate Sisters of the Sacred Heart (take care of retired and ill priests)
Servants of Mary, Ministers to the Sick
Carmelite, I know you from Phatmass. You have an interest in nursing.

You might consider the Congregation of the Infant Jesus (CIJ) formerly the Nursing sisters of the Sick Poor, among congregations with outside apostolates. Their original apostolate and still their main one, is nursing. They do wear civvies now, much more practical for nursing, and are small, about 55 members. Their website is:

www.cijnssp.org

Other congregations include nursing, but are not dedicated to this specifically, and could give it up in favor of other works if their members dwindle. Another to consider are the Daughters of Charity.

Best of luck and keep us posted! I think that your experiences could be very useful for other discerners.
 
Carmelite, I know you from Phatmass. You have an interest in nursing.

You might consider the Congregation of the Infant Jesus (CIJ) formerly the Nursing sisters of the Sick Poor, among congregations with outside apostolates. Their original apostolate and still their main one, is nursing. They do wear civvies now, much more practical for nursing, and are small, about 55 members. Their website is:

www.cijnssp.org

Other congregations include nursing, but are not dedicated to this specifically, and could give it up in favor of other works if their members dwindle. Another to consider are the Daughters of Charity.

Best of luck and keep us posted! I think that your experiences could be very useful for other discerners.
Thank you for posting the suggestions, however, I feel called to wear the habit and veil. 🙂 Please keep me in your prayers. 👍
 
*I will keep you in my prayers Carmelite Girl. Wow it seems you have one thing happen on your journey after another. I actually looked at the Holy Spirit Sisters on my first discernment almost 30 years ago… they seemed a lovely community… just not what I was drawn too at the time. You will continue to be in my prayers.

Blessings of Peace and All Good!*
I know! 🙂 I thought I had it all figured out, but then God threw me for a loop. I intend to take my discernment slowly, day by day, and make sure that I know all about the community before applying. I think it would be best if I looked at this like dating my future spouse. I wouldn’t marry someone after only meeting them one time. 😉

As soon as I get a job as a Nursing Assistant, I plan to make some visits to some communities. Until then, I plan to spend as much time in Adoration as possible. I also want to sign up for a Holy Hour so I have a regular schedule. 🙂
 
Hi, everyone! 🙂

I’m a college student beginning discernment. I am a recent ‘revert’ (I had received the Sacraments as a child, but my family never practiced the faith growing up). I recently told my priest that I thought I should consider religious life, and he told me he thinks I have a possible vocation to contemplative life. This priest is now acting as my spiritual director.

I’m having a little trouble finding communities. There is such a big difference between purely contemplative communities and active-contemplative! I want something in between! 😊

I love the Nashville Dominicans, the Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist, and many other active-contemplative communities, but their daily schedules just look a little too packed full for me. I thought about how I would feel living that life, and though I think I would be happy, I think I would feel rushed and would be thirsting for more quiet time to sit with Christ.

On the other hand, the purely contemplative communities don’t seem like the right fit, either! I am looking online at some cloistered communities, but I’m not sure… I don’t feel comfortable with a full cloister, and I think I need more contact with people in my life. I love the schedule in the contemplative, cloistered communities, in which only about 4 hours are dedicated to work, but I wish the work consisted of something other than sewing, baking, art, etc.!

My perfect community would have a schedule like those cloistered, contemplative communities, but our “work” would consist of teaching classes, spiritual direction, or retreats–something focused on sharing the faith with people and helping people on their spiritual journeys! Of course, my “perfect” community is the one to which God leads me! 👍

Before you suggest it, I do like the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy, but I don’t think that’s my charism. 🙂

I’m meeting with my SD next week, so hopefully he will have some thoughts!
Hi,

Would you consider Benedictine monastic life? The Benedictine motto is “Ora et Labora” (prayer and work) and most try to achieve a good balance of both.

Sorry I don’t have the links ready for you, but you might look at St. Emma Monastery in Pennsylvania or St. Walburga in Colorado, or possibly the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Connecticut.
There are also other Benedictine Monasteries that wear a modified habit that have some limited ministry, but their primary focus is prayer. Some examples of these are the Benedictines of Canyon, Texas and the Benedictines of Perpetual Adoration of Clyde, Missouri. Benedictines have a dedication to hospitality, and many of them welcome guests and retreatants. I’m sure if you do a general search for Benedictine nuns/sisters you will find more information. Good luck and God bless!
 
Would you consider Benedictine monastic life? The Benedictine motto is “Ora et Labora” (prayer and work) and most try to achieve a good balance of both.
Sorry I don’t have the links ready for you, but you might look at St. Emma Monastery in Pennsylvania or St. Walburga in Colorado, or possibly the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Connecticut.
There are also other Benedictine Monasteries that wear a modified habit that have some limited ministry, but their primary focus is prayer. Some examples of these are the Benedictines of Canyon, Texas and the Benedictines of Perpetual Adoration of Clyde, Missouri. Benedictines have a dedication to hospitality, and many of them welcome guests and retreatants. I’m sure if you do a general search for Benedictine nuns/sisters you will find more information. Good luck and God bless!
I’ve thought a little about the Benedictines. To be honest, I’m a little intimidated by them, but my spiritual director says that something that intimidates me may be just what I’m meant for. He’s a tough one. 🙂
 
Hi,

Would you consider Benedictine monastic life? The Benedictine motto is “Ora et Labora” (prayer and work) and most try to achieve a good balance of both.

Sorry I don’t have the links ready for you, but you might look at St. Emma Monastery in Pennsylvania or St. Walburga in Colorado, or possibly the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Connecticut.
There are also other Benedictine Monasteries that wear a modified habit that have some limited ministry, but their primary focus is prayer. Some examples of these are the Benedictines of Canyon, Texas and the Benedictines of Perpetual Adoration of Clyde, Missouri. Benedictines have a dedication to hospitality, and many of them welcome guests and retreatants. I’m sure if you do a general search for Benedictine nuns/sisters you will find more information. Good luck and God bless!
Seasame,

You are right that your Spiritual Director will be of invaluable assistance.
[Truthfully He or She will be of immense value.

Also have you narrowed down the Rule/ That seems attractive to you? As you may have already figured out there is a vast difference between the Rules and Spirituality between the various orders. If you can narrow it down by Rule… then perhaps you can contact various communities that follow that rule to see how they balance prayer and work?

There are various search engines and books available too, which may help you on your way… Don’t be afraid to use more than one… sometimes you will find one works better than another.

Many of the helps have been posted before… However here are some links:
  1. VocationMatch.com… [http://www.vocation-network.org/]*
  2. www.religiousministries.com
    ( This is a great one as it lists communities by state, by order and by ministry
3)www.VocationsPlacement.org

The wonderful thing about these is they all work differently. Some narrow choices by rule or charism. Some allow you to narrow by geographical area… Don’t be afraid to make use of all of them… you will receive many different types of materials that may be of help to you.
 
Hi, everyone! 🙂

I’m a college student beginning discernment. I am a recent ‘revert’ (I had received the Sacraments as a child, but my family never practiced the faith growing up). I recently told my priest that I thought I should consider religious life, and he told me he thinks I have a possible vocation to contemplative life. This priest is now acting as my spiritual director.

I’m having a little trouble finding communities. There is such a big difference between purely contemplative communities and active-contemplative! I want something in between! 😊

I love the Nashville Dominicans, the Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist, and many other active-contemplative communities, but their daily schedules just look a little too packed full for me. I thought about how I would feel living that life, and though I think I would be happy, I think I would feel rushed and would be thirsting for more quiet time to sit with Christ.

On the other hand, the purely contemplative communities don’t seem like the right fit, either! I am looking online at some cloistered communities, but I’m not sure… I don’t feel comfortable with a full cloister, and I think I need more contact with people in my life. I love the schedule in the contemplative, cloistered communities, in which only about 4 hours are dedicated to work, but I wish the work consisted of something other than sewing, baking, art, etc.!

My perfect community would have a schedule like those cloistered, contemplative communities, but our “work” would consist of teaching classes, spiritual direction, or retreats–something focused on sharing the faith with people and helping people on their spiritual journeys! Of course, my “perfect” community is the one to which God leads me! 👍

Before you suggest it, I do like the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy, but I don’t think that’s my charism. 🙂

I’m meeting with my SD next week, so hopefully he will have some thoughts!
A plug for the Benedictines,who combine very well the best of active and contemplative religious lifestyles. Balance is their keyword. Many of the non-cloistered ones do mainly retreat work at their monasteries, which combines well with meditation, divine office and lectio, prayerful reading, a hallmark of Benedictine life. This includes both habited and non-habited groups. The latter tend to be older and attract older candidates, but are very prayerful, Benedicine and do mainly retreat work.

If, like many young college-aged women, you prefer the habited groups, there are the Clyde OSB Perp Adoration, already mentioned, and the Petersham MA OSB, which merged with the Tickfaw (LA?) group. The Srs. of St. Emma also mainly do retreats. The Walburga OSB in Virginia Dale CO live in a rural harsh climate near the Wyoming border, do retreats and farm work, very busy. The Regina Laudis CT group also have a number of apostolates going, including farm work, which they combine with singing the complete office in Greg chant and Latin, including the night office, as do the Westfield VT group, affiliated with Solesmes–fine if Gregorian chant and Latin are your thing. The OSB’s at Spring Rock WA are an offshoot of Regina Laudis, do farming and have a new website.

There are many non-habited Benedictines, especially in the midwest, at St. Joseph MN, Duluth, MN, St. Paul, MN, Richardton, NDak, Yankton, SDak, Cottonwood, ID, Erie, OH, Ferdinand, IN, Beech Grove, IN, which recently had 4 final professions–and many smaller groups. All of these combine the office, meditation, silent prayer, lectio, with retreat work. Benedictines tend to be highly educated, enjoy teaching–many were former teachers–enjoy meeting the public, and are very devoted to Benedictine religious life.

There are many Dominican groups that would fulfill your criteria also. These also are mainly the non-habited older groups who do retreat work, not formal teaching. The Dominicans, like the Benedictines, have a long tradition of learning.
 
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