Three Principals For Honoring Your Husband

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**Well, it is quiet possible that I am not saying the same thing as Portrait.

But in a sense, I do believe that what I said applies to all times and places as well**. Not in the sense that every family must, even when the husband is paralyzed, rely on him to provide but rather that society in general must be predisposed a certain way. So it might be that Portrait is emphasizing the same as I am. I don’t think Portrait is saying that a husband who is paralyzed should still provide for the family. The wife in this case will have to provide but it would be unfortunate since the children will have no one. But it is out of necessity. Governments should also try and accommodate for families in this situation to provide some income perhaps so that the mother doesn’t have to work often.
Do you believe that:
  1. Women should have no authority in the Church, the family, and society.
  2. Women should never teach adult men.
  3. Women should never lead adult men in any way.
  4. Women should not have political power.
  5. A woman must* never* reject or rebel against her husband’s authority.
  6. Women should not become police officers or soldiers.
  7. Women should not participate in the Mass (as anything other than ordinary laypeople).
  8. Women should not ever participate in any sort of leadership or administrative role at a parish (because that would be authority in a church).
I ask because these are all ideas that Portrait has endorsed in this thread.
 
Do you believe that:
First, I don’t appreciate being tested for whether I match someone else’ position.

But to answer your questions:-
  1. Women should have no authority in the Church, the family, and society.
  2. Women should never teach adult men.
  3. Women should never lead adult men in any way.
This depends on the context. In the context of Liturgy, or with formulating and pronouncing doctrine and dogma, the answer is YES. But if we are talking about any position of teaching or authority in general, then NO.
  1. Women should not have political power. I don’t believe this
  2. A woman must* never* reject or rebel against her husband’s authority.
  3. Women should not become police officers or soldiers.
These depend on the context. I do believe that a woman should not randomly pursue to be a police officer or soldier unless out of necessity. Same goes with the rebelling against authority. Random rebelling I would assume would be problematic
  1. Women should not participate in the Mass (as anything other than ordinary laypeople).
    **
    I thought this was always the case? Women can only do at mass what any other ordinary men can do. Is there something specific you had in mind?**
  2. Women should not ever participate in any sort of leadership or administrative role at a parish (because that would be authority in a church).
Well, I would think the president of the Catholic Women’s League was always a woman. 🙂
I ask because these are all ideas that Portrait has endorsed in this thread.
I haven’t read all the posts but I would think Portrait wouldn’t endorse such views although it might seem implied perhaps in somethings he might say. But I obviously cannot speak for someone else with certainty.
 
Well, it is quiet possible that I am not saying the same thing as Portrait.

But in a sense, I do believe that what I said applies to all times and places as well. Not in the sense that every family must, even when the husband is paralyzed, rely on him to provide but rather that society in general must be predisposed a certain way. So it might be that Portrait is emphasizing the same as I am. I don’t think Portrait is saying that a husband who is paralyzed should still provide for the family. The wife in this case will have to provide but it would be unfortunate since the children will have no one. But it is out of necessity. Governments should also try and accommodate for families in this situation to provide some income perhaps so that the mother doesn’t have to work often.
I’m sure Portrait would not claim that a husband must still be the one to provide even if he was paralyzed. My problem was not with having a universal, ie, a rule that applies everywhere and always, my problem was that Portrait claimed the universal did not depend on the real differences existing between a couple. 🤷 This would imply that it is always wrong for a man to do anything which Portrait sees as a woman’s role, perhaps unless necessity for survival or some such thing comes into play. However, he is basing his understanding of what is a womans role off of the interpretation of some people within the church on a particular scripture. In other words, his reason is because some people said so. Yes, they were people within the church, but just because you are a member of the church or even a clergy does not imbue you with infallibility. I would have much less of a problem with what he is saying if he would admit that differences in gender roles are based upon real differences in those of each gender. Because then it is simply a matter of determining what is actually a difference between men and women a) always and b) generally and then developing rules corresponding to a) and b) such that those based on differences always existing should always be followed, but those based on general differences need only be followed if those same differences are carried over into the particular man and woman in a particular marriage. In other words, these type b) rules can never be given as absolute, but only as a general rule, and they should not be held as a society as an absolute for the same reason. If you agree with this basic principle, then all that remains is determining what the differences actually are. 🤷
 
But what I meant to say was that in general, does it not seem that women have a better chance of bonding with ones offspring considering 9 months of carrying in the womb and years of breast feeding?
I have been neither a mother nor a father, so I cannot speak from experience on either end. My mother has not been more nurturing or formative than my father.
In this sense, aren’t mothers, in general, more suitable for the nurturing role?
I agree. I am merely suggesting that a mother, considering the unique forms of connection she has with the child from the moment of birth, has a higher chance of being successful at being good with the children compared to the father. Would that not seem reasonable?
I am not qualified to say. This is an empirical question and I do not have the data to provide an answer.
 
Here’s the actual paragraph in question:

Thank you, women who work! You are present and active in every area of life-social, economic, cultural, artistic and political. In this way you make an indispensable contribution to the growth of a culture which unites reason and feeling, to a model of life ever open to the sense of “mystery”, to the establishment of economic and political structures ever more worthy of humanity.

Source:
vatican.va/holy_father/john_paul_ii/letters/documents/hf_jp-ii_let_29061995_women_en.html

Note that the Pope refers to the indispensable contribution of women who work. There is nothing in the text to support your interpretation that women should just work to support themselves until they can find a man who will marry them.
Dear AngryAtheist,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for the above.

Women who work, dear friend, do undoubtedly make a valuable contribution, but this does not resolve the issue as to what category of women JPII is referencing. Since he has already addressed wives and mothers and their contribution, it seems a logical deduction that, since working women are distinguished from those groups, they must necessarily be single women who must needs support themselves. Moreover, in such a letter addressed to women, JPII could have quite easily have mentioned separately another group of women who were wives and mothers and working women, this he did not do. If, dear friend, they were such an important category, then surely he would have singled them out for warm approval and admiration. The fact that he did not suggests very strongly that he did not recognise such a group as being the norm or an ideal paradigm.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
The Arabs (particularly the Saudis) do largely exclude their women from wider society. Which in practice has only lowered their status.
Dear AngryAtheist,

Cordial greetings.

Catholic women who are workers at home are not excluded from society, my dear friend, and their sphere of work is indispensable for the good of the wider society, inasmuch as they are playing a key role in the nurturing and spiritual formation of their children. Moreover, they are providing the secure environment for children who know that they are are always on the scene. There is surely nothing inferior or demeaning in this.

On this sort of reasoning, dear friend, you could level the charge against St. Paul that he encourgaged women to be excluded from society, since it was him who said that women should be “workers at home”.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
Would women even be educated in this ideal world that you imagine?
What would be the point in a society where they could never use such knewledge?

After all, illiterate women are even easier to relegate to the domestic sphere (and that is part of your ideal).
Dear AngryAtheist,

Hello again and thankyou for the above.

Unfortunately we do not live in and ideal world, dear friend, so your remarks of above are purely conjectural and unhelpful to the topic currently under review.

There is nothing wrong with a women being educated and having a degree. An unmarried women can pursue a career until and if she enters into wedlock.

God bless.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
Sorry, I forgot that some things are just self-evident and that anyone who disagrees with you is a victim of the modernist fallacy and feminist insidiousness and the culture of death and etc.

What is obvious to me as a professor of religion is that anyone fighting in combat zones is distasteful because wars are the one of the most tragic reflections of humanity’s fall.

I do not think it surprising at all, however, that one should ask why women should not be allowed to fight in wars for their country or values.

If it is so incontrovertible, demonstrate that to us. You established how obvious the fact is, so providing the “irrefutable evidence” should be child’s play.

But the priesthood and religious life and the single state are all acceptable vocations/callings, so clearly not every individual is subject to that teaching.

What would acceptable reasons for a woman remaining single be? What would acceptable reasons for a man remaining single be?

Please quote these questions in your next response and provide a list without commentary, so that I may actually understand whence you are coming.

I am not obligated as a Catholic to take everything St. Paul says at a literal level when it comes to the institution of marriage, or anything, for that matter. The Church has not taught that nor does it teach that now.

Simply stating something to be the case does not make it so.
Dear Baelor,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for your response above.

Indeed, dear bother, there are some things that are self-evident and one such thing is that women are simply not adapted to undertake certain tasks owing to their physical frame. Even St. Peter refers to women as the “weaker sex” (I Pet. 3: 7). Their natural physical weakness is undeniable and requires no verification.

As regards women fighting on the front line in war zones, apart from any moral considerations, that fact that they are the “weaker sex” does not not make them very suited to such an enviroment and all the rigours that accompany it. Moreover, the woman’s male collegues would be continually feeling protective of her, male chivalry has not cmpletely died out, dear friend. Clearly, this would be problematic in a war zone and could endanger the lives of others. Many, my dear friend, would deem this to be evidence enough, asside from the fact that it is utterly unethical to put the fairer sex in such situations. The godless clamour by some today to allow women to fight in zones close the enemy, is acutated politcally correct idealogy and fanatical views of equality. Catholics should give such ungodly thinking a jolly wide-berth.

The priesthood and religious are indeed exceptions, as is the case of those who will never marry for one reason or another, and this I have not denied. However, dear friend, this in no way undercuts the truth that it was God’s intention for men and women to enter into holy wedlock for mutual companionship and for procreation. The text in Genesis which states that it is not good for man to be alone underscores this truth and was, in fact, the basis for the institution of marriage in the frist place.

The acceptable reasons for a women remaining single would be that she simply does not meet some chap with whom she ever becomes romantically involved, or she is called to the religious life. The same reasons would apply to a man, with the addition that he might be called to the priesthood. At any rate, Catholics have never defended the modern notion of women defering marriage and starting a family just so they can selfishly pursue a career, that, my dear borther, is both un-Catholic and unbiblical and is by product of radical femenism.

An obligation is laid upon you to recieve biblical teaching that has perpetual validity, for even the Holy Mother Church cannot trump the timesless teaching of Sacred Scripture, nor would they ever dream of doing so. Moreover, St. Paul’s words in Titus 2: 5 do not occur in some metaphorical context, thus they ought to be taken literally, unless there is good reason to do otherwise. As someone has said, “when the literal sense makes good sense be careful not to make it nonesense” - wise counsel indeed. St. Paul is giving very practical instructions to the womenfolk and his words about them being “workers at home” occur amidst other requirements such as loving husbands and children, being sensible, chaste, kind and submissive to husbands. None of this has been abrogated and remains binding upon those who profess godliness, including the requirement to be “workers at home”.

An obligation is laid upon a man to provide for and support his family, my dear friend. This is a truth and so one can never state it to often - “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (I Tim. 5: 8). Of course there may be cases where, owing to severe health problems, a man cannot be the breadwinner and in that case the woman will have to work, but this is not normative.

God bless.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
The actual Greek can be interpreted and translated in many ways, and the general idea (to keep at home, to be concerned with domestic affairs) appears in other writings of the period and is quite frequently taken to mean “don’t be a gossiping busybody, mind your own business.”

There are Protestants that interpret this verse to mean that women are not to leave the house. Thankfully, we have the Tradition to help us interpret the Scriptures. So we don’t handle snakes to prove our faith, for instance.
Dear Litcrit,

Cordail greetings and a very good day.

True, the Greek can be interpreted/translated in various ways, but the context in which the passage occurs must also help us to determine the correct interpretation. As far as I am aware, dear friend, most orthodox exegetes have elucidated the words as “workers at home”.

However, dear friend, I think if we turn to I Tim 5: 13-14 we actually find that the two interpretations are combined and do not necessarily exclude one another. St. Paul says that younger widows can fall into the habit of being “gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not” and so he would have them “marry, bear children, rule their own households”. Thus because there is this tendency to gossip and be busybodies, they should marry, start a family and manage their households. In St. Paul, then, being a gossip/busybody and “ruling households” are distinguished and so that helps us in arriving at a correct understanding of Titus 2: 5. and “workers at home”.

God bless.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
Dear Baelor,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for your response above.

You’re polite…I’ll give you that.

Even St. Peter refers to women as the “weaker sex” (I Pet. 3: 7). Their natural physical weakness is undeniable and requires no verification.

We are physically weaker, but we are definitely not weaker in the mind my friend.

As regards women fighting on the front line in war zones, apart from any moral considerations, that fact that they are the “weaker sex” does not not make them very suited to such an enviroment and all the rigours that accompany it.

I know some very strong women who are not very nuturing, who would make great combatants and military officers. Not all women are the same. Look at Joan of Arc? She is a saint. Therefore, the Catholic church DOES support women in combat.

The acceptable reasons for a women remaining single would be that she simply does not meet some chap with whom she ever becomes romantically involved, or she is called to the religious life. The same reasons would apply to a man, with the addition that he might be called to the priesthood.

I agree. Being sincle is a vocation.

At any rate, Catholics have never defended the modern notion of women defering marriage and starting a family just so they can selfishly pursue a career, that, my dear borther, is both un-Catholic and unbiblical and is by product of radical femenism.

JP II has supported women having careers and contributing to society. This statement is simply false. This is not radical feminisim. 2 salaries are what is needed to sustain a mortgage and a family. Times have changed and the Catholic church has NEVER made a stand against mothers having a career. This is not selfish…it is a necessity!

St. Paul is giving very practical instructions to the womenfolk and his words about them being “workers at home” occur amidst other requirements such as loving husbands and children, being sensible, chaste, kind and submissive to husbands. None of this has been abrogated and remains binding upon those who profess godliness, including the requirement to be “workers at home”.

St. Paul was also talking about issues prevelant during “his” time. I think Pope JP II was listening to the Holy Spirit when he stated women’s important contribution to society “outside the home”.

An obligation is laid upon a man to provide for and support his family, my dear friend. This is a truth and so one can never state it to often - “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (I Tim. 5: 8). Of course there may be cases where, owing to severe health problems, a man cannot be the breadwinner and in that case the woman will have to work, but this is not normative.

An obligation is laid upon the married persons to support their family. If a man chooses to be a SAHD, then he is fulfilling his role that he is best suited for. The goal of marriage is to raise happy well adjusted children and to bring eachother closer to Heaven. The man is not obligated to be a breadwinner and the Catholic church has never stated this ever.

God bless.

God bless you too Portrait.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
I don’t think Portrait is saying that a husband who is paralyzed should still provide for the family. The wife in this case will have to provide but it would be unfortunate since the children will have no one. .
THe children wouldn’t have “no one”. They would have their father, who happens to be paralysed.
 
THe children wouldn’t have “no one”. They would have their father, who happens to be paralysed.
I’m sure there are many paralized moms out there doing a fantastic job too. The kids would not have no one if mom worked and dad was at home (paralized). I agree.

This thread is quite anti-women and anti-men…very contradictory to what JPII said about women. Why are men being judged as not being emotionally able to love and care for their children?
 
I’m sure there are many paralized moms out there doing a fantastic job too. The kids would not have no one if mom worked and dad was at home (paralized). I agree.

This thread is quite anti-women and anti-men…very contradictory to what JPII said about women. Why are men being judged as not being emotionally able to love and care for their children?
Excellent question!! The man I have decided to marry is well beyond capable of such a task!
 
Indeed, dear bother, there are some things that are self-evident and one such thing is that women are simply not adapted to undertake certain tasks owing to their physical frame. Even St. Peter refers to women as the “weaker sex” (I Pet. 3: 7). Their natural physical weakness is undeniable and requires no verification.
No one I know has argued that women on average are physically weaker than men, or even that this tendency is not natural. The problem with your reasoning is that it does not make sense. You have not provided a compelling reason that because women in general are physically weaker, no women should do X.
As regards women fighting on the front line in war zones, apart from any moral considerations, that fact that they are the “weaker sex” does not not make them very suited to such an enviroment and all the rigours that accompany it.
Again, it does not follow that because women are generally weaker physically no women should be fighting in war zones. The military already has protocol for determining suitability for active duty that addresses this issue. The fact that men are not the weaker sex does not mean that every man should be allowed to serve in the military, I am sure you agree. The same reasoning applies to the case of women.
Moreover, the woman’s male collegues would be continually feeling protective of her, male chivalry has not cmpletely died out, dear friend. Clearly, this would be problematic in a war zone and could endanger the lives of others.
Have you been on active duty with all the women in the military in the last, say, two years?
The text in Genesis which states that it is not good for man to be alone underscores this truth and was, in fact, the basis for the institution of marriage in the frist place.
But in some cases it is good for men to be alone, such as when vocations to the priesthood or a calling to single life (not necessary religious) apply.
The acceptable reasons for a women remaining single would be that she simply does not meet some chap with whom she ever becomes romantically involved, or she is called to the religious life. The same reasons would apply to a man, with the addition that he might be called to the priesthood.[/qutoe]
Where does this Church teach this? Show me in the Catechism. From my understanding, it is not problematic that a Catholic should remain single but unmarried with no intention ever to marry or pursue a religious vocation. Am I misinformed? If so, show me the specific Church teaching.
At any rate, Catholics have never defended the modern notion of women defering marriage and starting a family just so they can selfishly pursue a career, that, my dear borther, is both un-Catholic and unbiblical and is by product of radical femenism.
Nor has the Church discouraged women from remaining single if this is the best way for them to glorify God.
An obligation is laid upon a man to provide for and support his family, my dear friend. This is a truth and so one can never state it to often - “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (I Tim. 5: 8). Of course there may be cases where, owing to severe health problems, a man cannot be the breadwinner and in that case the woman will have to work, but this is not normative.
The obligation does not exist. Again, simply asserting that a statement in the Bible is universally applicable and to be taken literally in a particular context (e.g. “provision” = “breadwinning”) does not make it true.

The Bible speaks the Truth, and this Truth conforms to reason. You are suggesting abandoning reason in favor of a literal interpretation of a particular passage. This kind of thinking is the opposite of Catholic theology.
 
No one I know has argued that women on average are physically weaker than men, or even that this tendency is not natural. The problem with your reasoning is that it does not make sense. You have not provided a compelling reason that because women in general are physically weaker, no women should do X.

Again, it does not follow that because women are generally weaker physically no women should be fighting in war zones. The military already has protocol for determining suitability for active duty that addresses this issue. The fact that men are not the weaker sex does not mean that every man should be allowed to serve in the military, I am sure you agree. The same reasoning applies to the case of women.

Again I agree!

I assure you that St. Thomas, the Angelic Doctor ofthe Church also strongly believed in the use of ones reason to determine things about faith. It is why he treated Theology in a rational manner. God follows the nature of His creation.

Have you been on active duty with all the women in the military in the last, say, two years?

But in some cases it is good for men to be alone, such as when vocations to the priesthood or a calling to single life (not necessary religious) apply.
The acceptable reasons for a women remaining single would be that she simply does not meet some chap with whom she ever becomes romantically involved, or she is called to the religious life. The same reasons would apply to a man, with the addition that he might be called to the priesthood.[/qutoe]
 
Sorry about my last post, somehow I messed up and put what I was saying in the middle of what I was trying to quote…

I was trying to say that again I agree with Baelor. And add support by mentioning the fact that St. Thomas, the Angelic doctor, places a huge emphasis both on the use of reason to help our faith and in expanding and explaining our faith, and the fact that God works according to the real existing natures of His creation. Yes, He can also work outside of this framework, but He created things with the natures and qualities He did for a reason. Also, St. Thomas often uses as a principle that the nature determines the operation of things. In other words, the way we act, and are meant to act, is dependent on our real existing natures, and so, leads one to the aforementioned conclusion that differences in the role, or operation, of the genders is based upon real existing differences between them. If you don’t like this principle Portrait, take it up with St. Thomas.🤷
 
Dear AngryAtheist,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for the above.

Women who work, dear friend, do undoubtedly make a valuable contribution, but this does not resolve the issue as to what category of women JPII is referencing. Since he has already addressed wives and mothers and their contribution, it seems a logical deduction that, since working women are distinguished from those groups, they must necessarily be single women who must needs support themselves. Moreover, in such a letter addressed to women, JPII could have quite easily have mentioned separately another group of women who were wives and mothers and working women, this he did not do. If, dear friend, they were such an important category, then surely he would have singled them out for warm approval and admiration. The fact that he did not suggests very strongly that he did not recognise such a group as being the norm or an ideal paradigm.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
As I said before, that is one of the most obviously biased readings of an important document that I have come across:rolleyes:
 
Dear AngryAtheist,

Cordial greetings.

Catholic women who are workers at home are not excluded from society, my dear friend, and their sphere of work is indispensable for the good of the wider society, inasmuch as they are playing a key role in the nurturing and spiritual formation of their children. Moreover, they are providing the secure environment for children who know that they are are always on the scene. There is surely nothing inferior or demeaning in this.

On this sort of reasoning, dear friend, you could level the charge against St. Paul that he encourgaged women to be excluded from society, since it was him who said that women should be “workers at home”.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
Workers at home?
Where did you come up with this phrase?
 
Originally Posted by AngryAtheist8
The Arabs (particularly the Saudis) do largely exclude their women from wider society. Which in practice has only lowered their status.
Dear AngryAtheist,

Cordial greetings.

Catholic women who are workers at home are not excluded from society, my dear friend, and their sphere of work is indispensable for the good of the wider society, inasmuch as they are playing a key role in the nurturing and spiritual formation of their children. Moreover, they are providing the secure environment for children who know that they are are always on the scene. There is surely nothing inferior or demeaning in this.

On this sort of reasoning, dear friend, you could level the charge against St. Paul that he encourgaged women to be excluded from society, since it was him who said that women should be “workers at home”.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
The only people today who exclude women from the public sphere and any position of leadership in religion, the family, and society (as you advocate) are Muslims like the Saudi Arabians, and it demeans Saudi women a great deal.

Therefore its a more than relevant example.
Now, do you think Catholics should be more like the Saudis (in their treatment of women) or not?
 
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