Three states of unconsecrated life

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DarkLight said:
I have to say, in my personal experience, the internet is a godsend. The internet means I can have a chat with a married friend while her baby is down for a nap, even if arranging an in-person meeting would be prohibitive.
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But that only works if both people are into it. I have chatted on the internet with people who see nothing wrong with stepping away from their computer and taking 10 minutes to respond. That is no fun
 
Anglewannabe said:
But that only works if both people are into it. I have chatted on the internet with people who see nothing wrong with stepping away from their computer and taking 10 minutes to respond. That is no fun
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That’s a feature, not a bug.

The beauty of the internet is that you can have asynchronous conversations. So, if I have a brilliant thought and a few free minutes, I can share it, and then if you have a brilliant thought and a few minutes three hours later, you can reply, and we don’t have to be in the same room or at the same time.
 
Xantippe said:
That’s a feature, not a bug.

The beauty of the internet is that you can have asynchronous conversations. So, if I have a brilliant thought and a few free minutes, I can share it, and then if you have a brilliant thought and a few minutes three hours later, you can reply, and we don’t have to be in the same room or at the same time.
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Again, it depends on the type of person. When I log on, I want to read something fairly long. I find one liners annoying and even ask people not to send them
 
Anglewannabe said:
Again, it depends on the type of person. When I log on, I want to read something fairly long. I find one liners annoying and even ask people not to send them
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Yeah that really does vary by person (and I suspect age group). I tend to prefer the exchange of shorter sentences. I also am used to having a lot of what I do be on the computer, so I’m probably logged in more often.
 
Anglewannabe said:
Again, it depends on the type of person. When I log on, I want to read something fairly long. I find one liners annoying and even ask people not to send them
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That could be a problem.

So… You would only want to be friends with people that have the time or talent to write you a fairly long message? You know what they say, sometimes, less is more. Personally, I have found that some people can drone on about minute details I don’t want or need to know.
 
Right. Those people who believe that they are brilliant and should post multiple paragraphs basically re-stating the same thing in several different and not so different ways seldom get a reading from me.
Get to the point already. Ho hum.
Conversely, the texting shortcut posters drive me nuts.
R u … this r u that.
So childish.

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At any rate, it’s the internet.
There are so many deceptive people online, I guess I’m fairly wary.
 
pianistclare said:
Right. Those people who believe that they are brilliant and should post multiple paragraphs basically re-stating the same thing in several different and not so different ways seldom get a reading from me.
Get to the point already. Ho hum.
Conversely, the texting shortcut posters drive me nuts.
R u … this r u that.
So childish.

😃
At any rate, it’s the internet.
There are so many deceptive people online, I guess I’m fairly wary.
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I was talking here primarily of continuing relationships started in the normal way, rather than people you’ve met online. I’ve maintained a lot of friendships through the amount of moving around academia has that way.
 
pianistclare said:
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When you’re in academia, especially in the student/young professional stage, people move around every few years due to education and job demands. Online contact can be a way of keeping up with people you clicked with who are now several states away.
 
Irishmom2 said:
That could be a problem.

So… You would only want to be friends with people that have the time or talent to write you a fairly long message? You know what they say, sometimes, less is more. Personally, I have found that some people can drone on about minute details I don’t want or need to know.
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If someone didn’t have the talent to write a paragraph, I would respect their position and be more than happy to wait for them to find time to call me. Like you say, less is more and I would rather see less of them if when I do interact with them it is quality.

And IMO the one liners tend to be minute details of things I don’t care about. Like my cousin who will send out ‘I just baked banana bread smells yummy’. I can do without that one liner
 
Anglewannabe said:
If someone didn’t have the talent to write a paragraph, I would respect their position and be more than happy to wait for them to find time to call me. Like you say, less is more and I would rather see less of them if when I do interact with them it is quality.

And IMO the one liners tend to be minute details of things I don’t care about. Like my cousin who will send out ‘I just baked banana bread smells yummy’. I can do without that one liner
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Tell her to give you a piece of that banana bread to see for yourself how yummy it is. 🙂
 
Anglewannabe said:
If someone didn’t have the talent to write a paragraph, I would respect their position and be more than happy to wait for them to find time to call me. Like you say, less is more and I would rather see less of them if when I do interact with them it is quality.

And IMO the one liners tend to be minute details of things I don’t care about. Like my cousin who will send out ‘I just baked banana bread smells yummy’. I can do without that one liner
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Eh, for me many of those details are what friendship is built upon. It’s not any different from sitting in person over coffee and making small talk - it’s just a different format. Hey, maybe you can get that banana bread recipe!
 
Sarcelle said:
Tell her to give you a piece of that banana bread to see for yourself how yummy it is. 🙂
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She lives 500 miles away. I would much prefer hearing about the banana bread over coffee where I could ask about the ingredients and have a tow way conversation. She would have made the effort to come and see me (and I would do the same), a one liner emails is expecting me to log on, only for her to get to share
 
Anglewannabe said:
She lives 500 miles away. I would much prefer hearing about the banana bread over coffee where I could ask about the ingredients and have a tow way conversation. She would have made the effort to come and see me (and I would do the same), a one liner emails is expecting me to log on, only for her to get to share
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I suspected that. My comment was meant as a joke.
 
DarkLight said:
When you’re in academia, especially in the student/young professional stage, people move around every few years due to education and job demands. Online contact can be a way of keeping up with people you clicked with who are now several states away.
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I think I knew what you were trying to say.
It was just worded strangely. Sorry./
 
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