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Thanks for the encouragement!
No problem! Just make sure you’re making the choice because you want too, the choice that you feel is best for you. Don’t worry about what others will think. A Church with rampant abuses is enough to test the Faith of any man or woman. No need to put yourself into that situation if you don’t have to. Just pray about it, and the Lord will lead you in the right direction. God Bless!
 
I was on my parish finance committee and building committee when our pastor decided that the Tabernacle should be removed from the altar and placed in a separate room alongside but completely out of sight. He claimed this was a Vatican II decision and cited other parishes as well as being in “conformance” with this concept. I wrote him a letter voicing concern that the sacredness of our church was being greatly diminished and the church was being reduced to a mere “meeting hall”. The change went through and we left the parish and are started attending a neighboring one - which, ironically, went through the same Tabernacle change itself. We had been in the first church for over 34 years and it was extremely painful so we are staying in the second (changed) church. I even wrote the same type letter to the second church’s pastor with similar ineffectiveness. I am still greatly distressed about both events. We have never made any vindictive statements about these decisions or about our pastors. We just think that it is very, very wrong to denigrate the Tabernacle holding the Body and Blood of our Lord by removing it from the people sight. Am I wrong to have done this?
You could try writing to the bishop. I wrote to my bishop about my Newman Center, and he said he will speak to the pastor there.
 
You really believe a Roman Catholic Parish could cause you to lose your salvation?
No, however I think my spouse and I will have a much more fruitful attempt if we are in another parish. I don’t think this parish is completely off the rails, but I do think that we are better suited to go elsewhere.
 
You really believe a Roman Catholic Parish could cause you to lose your salvation?
There are many Catholic parishes where “loyal dissent” is taught by Priests or those “in charge” of the parish (ie. RCIA directors, etc.). I’ve heard it myself. Denial of Church Dogmas is sometimes rampant in these parishes. Denial of Church Dogma is a mortal sin, and you know where that leads you…

Not to mention there are people who sometimes lose the Faith entirely, directly because of parishes of this type.
 
What was it the Jesus commanded?

Oh yes, “LOVE ONE ANOTHER”. And I don’t think Jesus put any qualifiers or restrictions on that commandment.

Communion is not solely about the Eucharist. It is also about the fellowship with one another.

Taking the coddling and hugging away out of the Mass reduces the person to an automaton who just shows up and goes thru the scripted ritual.
Is that right? You know what’s in the hearts of those who come to worship Our Lord in the Eucharist? Once a week we come to worship Our Lord and we got to blah blah blah, huggy kissy, dance and clap, sing happy songs etc etc… and how much time is actually given to God? Give me a break!! Have your fellowship afterwards with coffee and donuts!!!
 
Is that right? You know what’s in the hearts of those who come to worship Our Lord in the Eucharist? Once a week we come to worship Our Lord and we got to blah blah blah, huggy kissy, dance and clap, sing happy songs etc etc…
**Is that right, You know what’s in the hearts of those that blah blah blah,? **
huggy kissy,
You have a problem with those that hug and kiss during the “Peace be with you” that follows the Lord’s Prayer.
** Never been to a Mass that people danced, so I can’t answer that one, but on the surface I think you are just throwing stuff out there to vent steam.**
and clap, sing happy songs etc etc…
What you want depressing songs all the time. Somewhere in dem there scriptures it says to make a joyful noise…
and how much time is actually given to God?
You seem to know whats is in the mind of those present as to judge how much time is given to God?

How much time to you give God in any given Day? God is gracious to give you 24 hours of life each day. Do you give HIM back a tenth of that in return in the form of prayer?
2.4 hours?
Give me a break!! Have your fellowship afterwards with coffee and donuts!!!
Actually we do fellowship afterwards with coffe and doughnuts. 🙂

It seems people like you are too concerned about the actions of others. You should worry about your own actions. What other people do is between them and God.

**Jesus did say there would be weeds amongst the tares. **

Also we are to not judge others lest we be judge by the same measure. Do you want to be judged by God with the same loathing anger or at least with the same disdain that you have for your fellow parishioners?
 
Once a week we come to worship Our Lord and we got to blah blah blah,
Now if the blah blah blah is being done where the tabernacle is then you should be obligated to chastise these people. I have done so on a number of occasions.
 
Is that right, You know what’s in the hearts of those that blah blah blah,?
You have a problem with those that hug and kiss during the “Peace be with you” that follows the Lord’s Prayer.

** Never been to a Mass that people danced, so I can’t answer that one, but on the surface I think you are just throwing stuff out there to vent steam.**
What you want depressing songs all the time. Somewhere in dem there scriptures it says to make a joyful noise…
You seem to know whats is in the mind of those present as to judge how much time is given to God?

How much time to you give God in any given Day? God is gracious to give you 24 hours of life each day. Do you give HIM back a tenth of that in return in the form of prayer?
2.4 hours?
Actually we do fellowship afterwards with coffe and doughnuts.
🙂

It seems people like you are too concerned about the actions of others. You should worry about your own actions. What other people do is between them and God.

**Jesus did say there would be weeds amongst the tares. **

Also we are to not judge others lest we be judge by the same measure. Do you want to be judged by God with the same loathing anger or at least with the same disdain that you have for your fellow parishioners?
I know no one’s heart. I can only see the actions. And yes I think those actions speak of where people are coming from. I hear as much noise in some churches as if I’m at a basketball game. Little recognition of the Real Presence if the Tabernacle isn’t hidden somewhere. If the sign of peace were somewhere else in the liturgy I wouldn’t have a problem with it. Depressing songs, no I think we have enough joyful noise as it is. Loathing anger? Talk about judgemental!!! I"m speaking of what I see and hear. :eek:
 
Peter Da Rock:
That is because of the High Powered Evangelists that came onto the scene after 1965 and not because of the NO.
a) There have always been “high powered evangelists”.

Vatican II was a major, disruptive change in Catholic theology and practice. (The differences between Pre Vatican II Catholic Theology and Post Vatican II Catholic theology are greater than the differences between Roman Catholic Theology, and Anglo-Catholic Theology, when those two split.)

Post Vatican II evangelists can make an appeal to authority (The Pope) to demonstrate that they (the evangelists) are right.

b) Where were/are the “High Powered Evangelists” for Catholicism? Did they all suffer the fate of Marcel Lefebvre?
Peter Da Rock:
I have never experienced a TLM.
You have missed a beautiful spiritual experience.
Peter Da Rock:
Do you get the point yet? Or are you still so prideful of your Latin and Tridentine Traditions?
Traditions endure, because they are seen as points of stability in a changing environment. A Latin Tridentine Mass hearkens back to days of stability. It provides the perception that despite major changes in secular philosophy, politics, ethics, etc, one can worship in the same manner as one’s forebears, with the same beliefs and practices. That perception can be extremely comforting, especially to refugees of secular theology.

Archbishop Marcel Lefebvre has a couple of very useful sermons on the importance of maintaining the Latin Tridentine Mass.
Peter Da Rock:
You really believe a Roman Catholic Parish could cause you to lose your salvation?
Does a violation of Canon Law cause one to lose one’s salvation? If so, then yes, activities that violate Canon Law and are held under the auspices of a Roman Catholic parish could cause one to lose one’s salvation.

xan

jonathon
 
Is that right? You know what’s in the hearts of those who come to worship Our Lord in the Eucharist? Once a week we come to worship Our Lord and we got to blah blah blah, huggy kissy, dance and clap, sing happy songs etc etc… and how much time is actually given to God? Give me a break!! Have your fellowship afterwards with coffee and donuts!!!
This is my first post. I initially joined the forum to find answers about doctrines, devotions, etc. However, I was scanning this thread and shocked to see so much negativity regarding the Mass and different parishes. I don’t mean to sound obtuse, but this does not seem complicated. It’s Mass people!!! Enjoy it!!
I go to Mass to worship Our Lord. As much time is given to God as you want to give.
Every week I am in awe to have the honor to witness the miracle of bread and wine becoming the Body and Blood of Christ. I pray and I give thanks for my church, my family and my community. Sometimes we sing, sometimes not. I do not really notice what people have on their feet. I do notice if there is too much chatting going on, but for the most part, those in my parish are respectful in all aspects of behavior. We do have several alter girls. I didn’t even know this was a controversial issue. I assumed there were not enough boys who were interested, and they allowed girls, who were blessed with giving souls, to help.
I have notice people come and go within our church. It’s interesting that those who go are usually VERY involved in the parish, multiple committees, teaching (CCD, RCIA), It seems to become an ego issue. Soon they don’t like how things are done and become disgruntled. If Canon Law is not being enforced, I can understand that objection. But if your complaint is that the Mass is too casual, too musical, too friendly, though no law is being broken, then by all means leave. However, maybe in the next parish you can relax, worship and not get overly upset and involved in the running of the parish.
I am reminded of a man I work with who is Fundamental Christian. Every time he becomes disillusioned, he leaves his church and joins a new church, soon he becomes unhappy, breaks off and starts a new (?chapter, group, whatever). He stays around for a couple of years, and once again becomes unhappy and leaves the very church he started. And then starts another! It’s crazy. I have watched him repeat this cycle several times. I have decided that there are those who, for one reason or another never going to be satisified.
Like I said before, why does worshiping Our Lord have to be so controversal? Satan must be thrilled.
 
Is that right? You know what’s in the hearts of those who come to worship Our Lord in the Eucharist? Once a week we come to worship Our Lord and we got to blah blah blah, huggy kissy, dance and clap, sing happy songs etc etc… and how much time is actually given to God? Give me a break!! Have your fellowship afterwards with coffee and donuts!!!
This is my first post. I initially joined the forum to find answers about doctrines, devotions, etc. However, I was scanning this thread and shocked to see so much negativity regarding the Mass and in different parishes.
I don’t mean to sound obtuse, but this does not seem complicated. It’s Mass people!!! Enjoy it!! I go to Mass to worship Our Lord. As much time is given to God as you want to give.
Every week I am in awe to have the honor to witness the miracle of bread and wine becoming the Body and Blood of Christ. I pray and I give thanks for my church, my family and my community. Sometimes we sing, sometimes not. I do not really notice what people have on their feet. I do notice if there is too much chatting going on, but for the most part, those in my parish are respectful in all aspects of behavior. We do have several alter girls. I didn’t even know this was a controversial issue. I assumed there were not enough boys who were interested, and they allowed girls, who were blessed with giving souls, to help.
I have notice people come and go within our church. It’s interesting that those who go are usually VERY involved in the parish, multiple committees, teaching (CCD, RCIA), It seems to become an ego issue. Soon they don’t like how things are done and become disgruntled. If Canon Law is not being enforced, I can understand that objection. But if your complaint is that the Mass is too casual, too musical, too friendly, though no law is being broken, then by all means leave. However, maybe in the next parish you can relax, worship and not get overly upset and involved in the running of the parish.
I am reminded of a man I work with who is Fundamental Christian. Every time he becomes disillusioned, he leaves his church and starts (!) a new church, soon he becomes unhappy, breaks off and starts a new (?chapter, group, whatever). He stays around for a couple of years, and once again becomes unhappy and leaves the very church he started. And then starts another! It’s crazy. I have watched him repeat this cycle several times. I have decided that there are those who, for one reason or another never going to be satisified.
Like I said before, why does worshiping Our Lord have to be so controversal? Satan must be thrilled.
 
Someone…

First. Joey said most.

Second. You are not most.

Third. It is your preference.

Fourth, you Protestant background is evident since you took the statement by Joey out of context and took MOST to mean ALL or at least your ex-protestant glasses missed the MOST part of the statement.

Fifth. There is too much of a hangup on terminology. I use the term EOM as well since that is what is it is called here in Alabama. Even my Priest uses that term.

Sixth. Just as the Catholics here at CA are a very small minority the Traditionalists are even smaller. And like all minorities, the traditions you hold fast to will also more then likely die out over the course of time. Like said earlier. The traditions have developed over time. Indvidiual parts of that tradition have come and gone just like the winds.

Seventh. Any forced attempt to restore the Latin Rite will be met with great opposition. Many priests will oppose this. I will oppose it. Why? The vast majority of American Catholics do not understand or comprehend Latin. To sit thru an entire Mass and not being able to interpret the Latin will cause the mind to wander. People will migrate toward Protestant churches where ENGLISH IS SPOKEN AND WHERE SCRIPTURE IS READ IN ENGLISH AND PRAYERS ARE DONE IN ENGLISH.
Latin no longer has a place. It was dead 500 years ago. It’s even more dead now. The English Mass is just the next logical step in the development of Tradition, just as the Douay Rheims was the next logical step.

Eighth. Traditionalists, why stop at the Latin Mass? Why not ban all all non-latin Bibles as heretical and bring back the Latin Vulgate back to it’s TRADITIONAL state?

Do you get the point yet? Or are you still so prideful of your Latin and Tridentine Traditions?
Wow. I must be really messed up in thinking Catholics believe in, practice, and hold to Tradition as God commands and aren’t just like Protestants in wanting to change with the season. I thought Catholics didn’t change and go with the flow of society. Because God never changes, nor do his teachings. Tradition and following that is what makes Catholicism RIGHT. Progressive Catholics who are all for changing and throwing out things to “get with the times, man!” IMO, they might as well be Protestants.

I’m a convert(not confirmed yet) and I LOVE the TLM. Mainly because its focus is on God and not on worshiping yourself as many NO Masses I have been to do. Too Protestant for me, if I wanted that I would have never wasted my time converting. You think Traditions such as this are going to die out? Thats almost funny. TLM’s are growing, not vanishing. Keep wishing though. If anything needs to vanish its this disgusting liberal thinking that the Church should change and do whatever society wants it too.

“Oh noes we don’t wanna be unified as Christians anymore we just wanna hold hands and sing and feel all warm and fuzzy inside at church, stop trying to teach us things! Boo@ Tradition, who cares if the Bible tells us to hang onto them…we know better than God!”

:rolleyes:
 
Let me re-iterate point #6
Sixth. Just as the Catholics here at CA are a very small minority
There are 70,000 members at CA. How many are Catholic? Let’s assume all are Catholic and there is not one single member has more than one logon name. 70,000 Catholics out of 1.5 billion Catholics. That is an insequential 0.005 %. A very small representation.
the Traditionalists are even smaller.
Assuming a generous 10% of that Catholic membership are Traditionalist, then…I am sure you can do the math…if not it is 0.0005 % representation.
And like all minorities, the traditions you hold fast to will also more then likely die out over the course of time.
This resurgence is only because of the Pope Benedict XVI. Will it hold steam with the next Pope in a couple of years? Only time will tell. Now the question begs from you that hold the TM in such high regard. Was Pope John Paul a heretic because he was silent on the issue or at least he was a bad Pope because he was silent?
Like said earlier. The traditions have developed over time. Indvidiual parts of that tradition have come and gone just like the winds.
Like on poster said. The Mass is the Mass.

Let me state for the record, how many Catholics actually know about the TM? I’ve been attending Masses since 1984 and converted in 1998. I have just learned about the TM because of this forum alone. So I pollled as many people as I could this past Sunday. Roughly 10 percent know of it’s existence, mind you these people are military and have been to numerous parishes over the course of their careers and lives. And roughly 10 percent of this 10 percent has actually attended a TM. 100% did not even know that Pope Benedict XVI has made a proclamation that if a group wants a TM, the Priest shall accomodate them. hmmmmmmmmmmmmm… What are you conclusions?
 
JoeyWarren;:
This resurgence is only because of the Pope Benedict XVI. Will it hold steam with the next Pope in a couple of years?
Probably. Look at who, where, and how often the TLM has been performed in the last 40 years. And look at the obstacles that have been placed in the way of parishes that have wanted to utilize it, in the last forty years.
Let me state for the record, how many Catholics actually know about the TM?
That Catholics don’t know about the TM doesn’t mean much beyond not knowing much about the theology, doctrines, and practices of their faith.

xan

jonathon
 
Where do you suppose Catholics would expect to hear about the MotuProprio concerning the TLM? One would think in the Diocesan News or at Mass. Based on past practice, I would say less than 10% of the Bishops made any kind of statement and less than that by parish priests. We trusted our Bishops and Priests after VII and we were betrayed. As to the TLM dieing out, the early church should have died out also. Gee…I wonder what happened? 😃
 
The TLM started to fade away after Vatican II

Will it continue to fade away? Who knows?

Let me state for the record, I am not opposed to the TLM.

I just don’t see it returning to the same prominence it once held prior to Vatcian II.

Side note:

There are complaints about Verbal Liturgical Abuses.

How detectable are VLAs when they are done in Latin vs a native tongue(English for USA)?
 
There are complaints about Verbal Liturgical Abuses.

How detectable are VLAs when they are done in Latin vs a native tongue(English for USA)?
Actually, they are much more detectable in the TLM. The words and actions are all printed right there in the missal.
 
Serious abuse at notable points can make a Mass invalid. That’s why we must continue to pray for our priests. Verbal errors can happen at any time and must be corrected at the time. A slip of the tongue is not a sin or an abuse. God Bless every Priest.👍
 
What is the message the Cardinals are sending when you elect someone that is way past age of retirement and is past the age when most Popes have died?
Thye could have chose a young liberal Pope, one that had no ties to Vatican II or the Traditional Mass. Instead, guided by the Holy Spirit, they chose a conservative Pope thqt knows that importance of Tradition.
 
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