Tips to feel like I'm close to God

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I’ve been trying to give up my desires and just live to get to heaven (I think trying to give them all up at once is not the best idea though)
I’m not in state of grace right now so maybe I feel more distant
But when I’m in a state of grace
Sure I feel no stress from sin and want to live my life good
But more than that it’s just like “I’m clean can I die now” kinda feeling

I know I have purpose here but I just see life getting more painful

I wish I could hug God to have that physical comfort

How do achieve this closeness,trust,and hope?
Does it just come with being persistent over time?

I feel like my life has just been “stop doing that and you’ll be alright”
With Porn (which I don’t mind stopping)
Letting go of my unrequited love (not fun)
Stop choosing what I want (not as easy as it sounds)

Should I pray more?
How to I get there?
 
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Firstly just take a deep breath and relax. Sounds like you have the right idea, you know about the mercy of God and you want for follow His commandments so that is a good start. Yes, always pray more. But again you sort of know the answers already, do you want to know why? because God is telling you. So relax and listen, you do know. Ok pop to confession to get the state of grace thing sorted, that’s the best way to get a good relationship with Jesus. So, praying, start off slowly with something you can commit to, like say 10 mins a day, every day. Also start this relationship with Jesus off, it’s a friendship, so like any friendship, learn something about your friend. Best place is the gospels and also spiritual books or saints lives if you are a great reader. If not so much, then lucky for you cos youtube has the gospel of Luke and John in movie form which has word for word what is written in the Bible . So once you know a little about your friend Jesus and you may already know but you can never read the gospels too many times ( and in fact the whole Bible) then start chatting to Jesus about your day, your family, your friends, the world etc. whatever you want need or wish, thank Him, ask for His help etc. This is how you get closeness, trust and hope…ask for it. Remember He told you to ask and it shall be given to you (Matt 7:7). You will find during all this, that you learn to listen to Him too.
 
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Scripture tells us not to rely on feelings. Feelings lie.

Trust that every one of God’s promises are true. He is close even when you don’t feel him.
 
Ok that cleared some stuff up for me

I will try to trust my feelings
But I still wish I had the physical comfort of being held by him (sorry if this is a strange want but reminds me of when I hug a girl like I feel relaxed and at peace)

I’m bad at getting myself into a routine but yes I will try to pray more
I feel like I constantly think about my problems and how I want God to help me but not sure if that counts as praying

All these response were really helpful
I think I do need to calm down and take it slowly
I think I know a lot but don’t trust what i know
Im rushing things
I’ll pray for patience then I guess lol
Thanks guys
 
In our sacristy we have a carved timber “no hands but ours.” It’s a point.
I’m wondering if you might have grandparents who would give you a hug? Or maybe your parents? Maybe you offer to hug them first?

Just get that hug your longing for. God bless.
 
I get hugs frequently from a girl used to like (probably likes me now and I’m sad for her) but she’s an athiest so like the nulls out the feeling

The other girl is a great Catholic but just no interested in dating anyone and avoids hugging me (Shes not doing rude but various reasons)

So that’s why I wish I could feel that love I want from God
So I wouldn’t grieve for these girls anymore
Perhaps it’s just a young earthly desire of mine I need to outgrow
 
I vaguely remember feeling that way when I was young and it does fade over he years but never really goes away. I haven’t felt quite like that for a while but I wouldn’t like to think I’d go through the rest of my life without a hug.

You’ve heard of teenage angst I suppose? I had it, probably most people have it. It does fade especially that feeling when you’re alone before sleep.
When you feel like that maybe try a prayer to Our Lady.
 
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Submit yourselves therefore to God.
Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.
Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
Humble yourselves - in the sight of the Lord, - and he shall lift you up.
 
‘Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.’ - St Augustine
 
Love yourself, have reasonable expectations and pray “I believe, help my unbelief!!!”
 
Watch this video:


And watch some of Pope Francis’ videos:

Know that you can do something so small as improve your recycling habits and you are being a good catholic for the day: (for god’s planet)

 
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"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you." James 4:8
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him." Heb 11:6
Live/act as if He exists: “Ask, seek, and knock.” Pray, fast, read the bible and lives of the saints and concilliar decrees and Church history and the Catechism. Etc
 
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I remember that first video
I used to cry almost everytime I saw it

If I wanted to cry and couldn’t it was my go to video to get the tears out and remind of God’s love for me

Had a really good day today that had to be God helping me out in a way I never expected
Even though I’m not in a state of grace His grace presented itself
 
Yeah I’m young and I’m hoping if I stay at it the want to feel God will mature with age
And turn into a gift to be sought in heaven
 
Nicely put. I like geese.

@ineedofmercy, When I went through a rough spot, a priest advised to serve others.
I began visiting shut-ins. It helped me learn more about how to love.
Feelings are all about me. God is all about other.
 
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ineedofmercy said:
I know I have purpose here but I just see life getting more painful
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That’s step 1 of sainthood.
ineedofmercy said:
I wish I could hug God to have that physical comfort
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You can already hug Him by hugging the less fortunate.
ineedofmercy said:
How do achieve this closeness,trust,and hope?
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You need to recognise His works in your life.
ineedofmercy said:
Does it just come with being persistent over time?
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Yes
ineedofmercy said:
I feel like my life has just been “stop doing that and you’ll be alright”
With Porn (which I don’t mind stopping)
Letting go of my unrequited love (not fun)
Stop choosing what I want (not as easy as it sounds)
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It will be easy soon.
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Should I pray more?
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You should pray everyday.
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How to I get there?
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Have faith.
 
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I’m reminded of the scripture when Jesus said, “Blessed are the poor in Spirit for they shall see God.” This verse is about…well, it reminds me of your user name…it’s about realizing that within ourselves we have few merits to approach a righteous God, so we have to fall back and ask for God’s mercy. We have to rely on Jesus who is worthy to come before God on our behalf.

I would ask Jesus to come deeper into your life and to help you live a life which is pleasing to God. Ask Him to change your heart. Everything begins with a change of heart. This is something we cannot do on our own. And as others have suggested, pray, attend mass, etc.

It’s also important to read the scripture…perhaps beginning in the New Testament. St. Jerome is accredited with saying, “When we pray we speak to God, but when we read God speaks to us.”

The scripture also says that “God inhabits the praises of his people.”
I have found it helpful to thank God and to praise him more. Make praising God a part of your daily life.

I’m praying for your journey with our Lord.
 
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