Tips to stay out of pornography?

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Keep up the good fight! Never give up. Each day is a new beginning. Frequent Confession will help to build graces that resist temptation.
 
I don’t know if you have sisters or not, but think of it this way; we are all children of God, and those women are your sisters.
 
AZ42 said:
Any tips to stay away from the stuff?
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It might help if you recognize that in porn there is no love, no joy, and not even much pleasure. The male actors are just going through the motions. The women often look unhappy (coerced, abused, sometimes drugged into docility). If you have a heart, it should break when you see that.

Consider also that porn fills your mind with disordered fantasies and unrealistic expectations. This makes it difficult to have a loving relationship in real life. You might be close physically, but mentally and emotionally a million miles away. Do you hope to be happily married someday? Are you already married? Either way, you need to quit porn now, so that those images can fade, and then your mind and heart can be totally present, and you can be totally present for your beloved.

You can do this. I’m praying for you.
 
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I didn’t find the quote, but I believe Saint Augustine (who will be my Confirmation Saint in the Spring) said that it was helpful to remember the wounds of Christ when you’re tempted. Remember all of what he went through for you and your sins. And as someone has said, you can get apps for your phone that block porn. Similar applications can probably be found for your computer and other devices. I’ve been through it. It’s not easy. And it’s not fun knowing you’ll have to confess to it again when you’d hoped you wouldn’t have to, but power through it and take all the advice and help you can get!
 
TheLittleLady said:
Not at all, I simply wonder how this happens. People tell me they google search for “peach pie recipes” and end up with pornography. I wonder how that happens!
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The mechanism works like this:

The ads on a site are from a third-party, that third-party (google adds, or else) track you across different websites. A single click has them flagging your interest in that specific content (it’s kept on your machine via cookies). So even if you disconnect the cookie is held on your machine, and the next time you’re browsing that’s the content they’ll be giving you.

So, if you click (say by mistake) one single time on an add featuring a woman - the adds that will be following across all sorts of sites will be erotic related. SOLUTION: Clear your browser history of cookies, otherwise wherever you go on the NET that specific click bait banner/adds will follow you.

Now, that content does generate lots of money and subscriptions. So, some site owners aren’t going to get any higher paying adds than the erotic ones. Hence, on many sites the only adds you’ll get are erotic related.

One single click, and if you don’t clear your history that content will follow you around everywhere you go for years to come…
 
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You need to avoid near occasion of sin.
Do you live alone? If not, then leave the door of your room open at night and when you’re using your phone, tablet, laptop etc.
Also, there are some tools you can use to block porn from your internet-connected devices. Use them.
 
Understood completely, having worked in the industry since the Internet as we know it began. However, as I was reported by someone on this thread, I will not comment further 🙂
 
AZ42 said:
I struggle with viewing pornographic images. I know I shouldn’t view these things, but I feel like I can’t stop myself. Any tips to stay away from the stuff?
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Chastity is the proper integration of sexuality within the whole person, in whatever state of life you are in.

What else is going on in your life? Do you visit nursing homes? Attend or lead a bible study with other men? Help clean up the parish grounds? Call friends and plan activities?

The key to chastity is to live a whole life, and stop focusing on sex.
My friend, that is hard work, every day, for the rest of your life. There is no magic potion for virtue. It’s a struggle.
I guess I am just trying to emphasize that “tips” are not the key. It’s not like tips to make a flower grow; you do the tips and you’re done.
The key is patient life-long struggle to live a whole life according to God’s will.

The trap of pornography is when the shame stops us from living fully with others, and you become stuck in a vicious cycle of isolation.
 
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Stop cold turkey. There is no other cure to start with. You. Have. To. Stop.
What I do is lie down and take a nap. It’s just as productive.
 
summary of methods to fight the temptation of lust in general (source: catechism of perseverance)
Natural methods
  1. The escape of opportunities
  2. The mortification
  3. Humility
  4. Vigilance
  5. work
Spiritual methods
  1. The prayer
  2. Frequent Confession
  3. Frequent Communion
  4. Devotion to the Virgin Mary
  5. Meditation on our Last Ends: Death, Heaven, Hell, Judgment
and I would add
6) Meditation on the passion of Christ
 
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From my experience, you have to know all these methods, and exercises them often, because using only one of these methods does not always work. For example, often when passion takes you with great violence, you do not even have the strength to raise your spirit to God to pray him, but it is by thinking that you can die immediately after sin and go to Hell. or thinking that by resisting you will gain glory for Paradise, that the fires of temptation will subside, and you can now pray to God to protect you from the coming assaults. Often these thoughts do not lower the fire, so it is by posing acts of humility that you lower the fire of passion, and so you use the various methods of fighting against lust one after another until overcome it
 
If you want to fully tackle this you have to go at it 100%, full steam ahead. For a few years I wanted to stop and I told myself I was trying to stop but I never blocked websites and used software filters and disabled private search and all that. Didn’t go full steam ahead in the prayer realm either.

You have to put in your full effort if you want the rewards of stopping. Offer up your struggles as a sacrifice for your penance
 
I’ve heard a lot of people say that exercise helps to get rid of lust in general, and it has in my experience. It should be much easier to stop once you get rid of the need to do it in the first place.
 
Fraevo63 said:
My honest advice to you is to suggest that you wean yourself off of all forms of secular entertainment. I know it sounds extreme but we need to captivate our entire mind to obediance to Christ. TV shows, music, movies, books, video games etc. Surround yourself with with things pertaining to God and godliness. Do this and you won’t even conceive in your mind to view porn.
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Please don’t take this as an attack, because I’m sure your heart is in the right place, but you’re giving really extreme advice for someone whose profile says they weren’t instructed in the faith as a child and is only now in RCIA later in life. There is nothing wrong with a Catholic viewing (non-pornographic) secular media. Catholicism is not a cult.
 
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Many including me have overcome this. You too can. But for this fight you need to ask for help from the heaven. You did the sins of flesh for the pleasure of your body. Humans basically have three bodily pleasures. Food, Sleep and that of flesh. You can start by abstinence and saying way of the cross during that period. Believe me it will work wonders. I have read when you abstain from bodily pleasures angels come down from heaven to assist you.
 
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