To all single virgins practicing chastity

[joyful]

What has been your biggest struggle? and how did/do you overcome it?
This can also go for people who are now in religious life or are now married, based on your past experience?

 

[Reuben_J]

It really depends on the level of your spirituality. How strong is your conviction in doing what is right? And what is right according to you? Would your decision be influenced by the practical reality around you and in your life or are you steadfast in your belief of God? These questions certainly have some bearing in the outcome of what you would do.

At certain time in your years of growing up, you may be feeling a little naughty. You may want to conform to your peers.

So how you were brought up certainly affects your outlook.

My children have grown up but they were brought in the faith which was very tangible in the family. Our standard was very high in term of chastity, you can say we were the odd ones out. Fortunately, we lived in a strong Christian Community where our friends are of the same spirituality. It helped to live the life of being different because you were not so alone.

So my children were able to be chaste and in fact leaders among their peers in the universities. Probably it would be different scenario altogether if they had not being brought up in the way they did.

What I am trying to say - we are called to be chaste and be virgin. Mother Mary should be our role model. Sex should be sacramental and saved for marriage only.

God bless,

 

[fin]

I’m a single virgin with a desire to be married and have a family. I am a normal person with sexual desire, and I don’t masturbate or watch porn or any of those related stuff.

I admit that having sexual desire and not being able to act on it is hard, and like I said, I’m not being perpetually unchaste or anything like that, just a normal, healthy sexual desire, a desire to give myself to another.

I find that even among faithful Catholics, no one really talks about the struggles of single chaste virgins who have a sexual desire.

Everyone talks about how to help those who struggle with porn or masturbation…but what about us who don’t struggle with those, but are still dealing with the cross of not being able to have sex since they’re not married? It seems this isn’t being addressed.

 

[SusanneT]

’m a single virgin with a desire to be married and have a family. I am a normal person with sexual desire, and I don’t masturbate or watch porn or any of those related stuff.

I admit that having sexual desire and not being able to act on it is hard, and like I said, I’m not being perpetually unchaste or anything like that, just a normal, healthy sexual desire, a desire to give myself to another.

I find that even among faithful Catholics, no one really talks about the struggles of single chaste virgins who have a sexual desire.

Everyone talks about how to help those who struggle with porn or masturbation…but what about us who don’t struggle with those, but are still dealing with the cross of not being able to have sex since they’re not married? It seems this isn’t being addressed.

I completely agree and would add to that the desperate desire many of us had as un-married women to become mothers.

 

[joyful]

I sooo agree. I think a lot of us desire sex not in a lusty way but all that it expressed in the context of a marriage.

 

[joyful]

yeah. it feels counter-culture. many young women today who are non-religious see motherhood as a burden. but i guess if you enjoy taking care of others or love kids its hard to not want that

 

[AdamP88]

I find that even among faithful Catholics, no one really talks about the struggles of single chaste virgins who have a sexual desire.

I think because those people don’t have a “problem” per se. I mean, we talk about porn addiction and masturbation because it’s a problem for people.
But single people don’t have a problem in that way. If you’re living chastely then that’s kind of the normal way it should be and even those of us who are married have a season of life like that.

In fact, once you’re married chastity becomes a bit more complicated.

 

[joyful]

I just found this article. I feel like it’s true. Whenever I’m in adoration I sense God filling all my human desires:

My body, given for you

Recently, I’ve found myself discouraged over the realization that many young Catholics view sex as something shameful. In fact, I have struggled with personal feelings of guilt over my longing for physical intimacy, attempting to stifle these desires despite the fact that they are natural. Of...

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