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It seems some people don’t like any variation in any Mass anywhere.
That’s because the Church herself forbids it.
Just read the forward alone of* Inaestimabile Donum:
The faithful have a right to a true Liturgy, which means the*
Liturgy desired and laid down by the Church,** *which has in fact indicated where adaptations may be made as called for by pastoral requirements in different places or by different groups of people. *
Undue experimentation, changes and creativity bewilder the faithful…
*The Second Vatican Council’s admonition in this regard must be remembered: *"
No person, even if he be a priest, may add, remove or change anything in the Liturgy on his own authority." And Paul VI of venerable memory stated that: “Anyone who takes advantage of the reform to indulge in arbitrary experiments is wasting energy and offending the ecclesial sense.”
However, I hope holding hands does become “officially” optional. We have other options at Mass and I think that is fine.
The Magisterium of the Church lays down what the Mass is, and what it isn’t. We aren’t there to form a consensus on what form, matter, or gestures are to be used. The Church decides that. Even a priest ~ I daresay, even a bishop ~ is not in a position to approve of changes to what the Magisterium has laid down.
I admire the older Catholics. They just go along with the changes, no complaint, just practicing their faith.
For me, just practicing my Faith means being informed about what my Faith is ~ What the Church teaches and instructs, and why. What is right? What is wrong? ~ then, modifying my behavior and opinions so as to conform to Holy Mother Church.
“Older Catholics” sat idly by while the altar rails were stripped from their Churches and images of the Risen Lord replaced all of their crucifixes on the altars, all under the guise of reforms called for by the Second Vatican Council. They never asked, “Show me which Church document says that.” (Now the Magisterium has called for the crucifixes to be put back on the altars, and the images of the Risen Lord removed.)
Today, we have the internet.
We have Catholic forums.
We can access the Vatican website and read the documents for ourselves.
It should be much more difficult for priests or the laity to tamper with the Church’s property. (And by that, I don’t just mean the buildings and statues. The Mass is the property of the Church as well!) We should not stand idly by when we see the Church’s property being vandalized.
(I myself, not ten years ago, heard our then-pastor tell the faithful
during Mass that Vatican II required that we remove the altar rail in our church and that we must 'bring our parish up to date." News Flash: We still have our altar rail, but not the same pastor.

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The innovators will do whatever they can get away with. Holding hands during the Our Father and/or lifting one’s hands is
fine during private prayer, at prayer meetings, etc.
However, it is not approved in the General Instruction of the Roman Missal, and therefore should not be “added” to the rubrics of The Mass by individuals (be they ordained or laymen).
Pax Christi. <><