To interfere or not tho interfere

[BKulash_eski]

I was married when I was a Marine, during a time of war, and at the county building. I am not sure if the marriage was blessed byt he church, I trusted that my wife had gone through the proper steps, having been raised in a parochial school. I did not re-enlist as to pursue a career as an officer, because I believed that she deserved more. Trusting her to take over some of the financial responsibility, I became a student. While I was attending school I was not providing for her as I would had liked, but we knew that it was only until I received my BA. Then I would had gone to officer candidate school and our life would be back on course. My wife left me, remarried, and outside the church, again. I was hit very hard by her leaving. My entire life plan not only included her but revolved around her. Due to the unbreakable bond that I thought I was a part of and how much I trusted my wife(as I trust God). Looking back I no longer believe that she took those steps, I pray for her to reconcile with the church, but do not know that I should try to have anything else to do with her. I do not want to interfere with what she is putting herself through(second marriage?) if our marriage was not valid. I love her. I do not want to see anyone turn from their faith, but am not sure what, if any, good I can do for her any longer. I will not even date until I am sure that the marriage has no chance of validity. Do I contact her, the new guy her parents, or do I stay out of it. She is unreachable. and hates me something I have never seen from a Catholic person before.

 

[Joe_5859]

I’m sorry you have had to go through all that.

My advice would be to talk to your pastor about this. Trying to contact her (or worse yet her parents or the new guy) when she is in that frame of mind would only make things worse IMO.

May God bless you during this painful time.

 

[Scoobyshme]

I was married when I was a Marine, during a time of war, and at the county building. I am not sure if the marriage was blessed byt he church, I trusted that my wife had gone through the proper steps, having been raised in a parochial school. I did not re-enlist as to pursue a career as an officer, because I believed that she deserved more. Trusting her to take over some of the financial responsibility, I became a student. While I was attending school I was not providing for her as I would had liked, but we knew that it was only until I received my BA. Then I would had gone to officer candidate school and our life would be back on course. My wife left me, remarried, and outside the church, again. I was hit very hard by her leaving. My entire life plan not only included her but revolved around her. Due to the unbreakable bond that I thought I was a part of and how much I trusted my wife(as I trust God). Looking back I no longer believe that she took those steps, I pray for her to reconcile with the church, but do not know that I should try to have anything else to do with her. I do not want to interfere with what she is putting herself through(second marriage?) if our marriage was not valid. I love her. I do not want to see anyone turn from their faith, but am not sure what, if any, good I can do for her any longer. I will not even date until I am sure that the marriage has no chance of validity. Do I contact her, the new guy her parents, or do I stay out of it. She is unreachable. and hates me something I have never seen from a Catholic person before.

Sometimes, all we can do is fast and pray for those in her situation. We are all in a war that is far greater than the one you were in, and in fact, greater than all earthly wars combined. It is not against flesh and blood, but principalities and powers, darkness against light, good against evil, etc. We are in a struggle for the eternal life our our immortal souls. In the end, forever, you and I will be in heaven or hell. Period. And the enemy (Satan and the devils) are master tacticians. They know our greatest weaknesses and the best times and manner in which to attack them! We, on the other hand, have a Master Tactician, too, and better weapons. The preferred small arms of His army is the Rosary. Other weapons include the Sacraments. Prayer and fasting are like physical training. If you don’t pray, it’s the same as not keeping in shape. If you can’t even get to the battle, how are you going to fight the war? It’s not a disgrace to be wounded in battle (in this case, “sin.”) It is a disgrace, however, to desert in the line of fire. We can always call a medic and get help (go to a priest for Confession). But we have to look out for those in our unit who have been wounded, too, and help them.

You might enjoy listening to Fr. John Corapi’s audio series on “Old War/New War” which talks about these things. There are six talks in the series, and you can download the MP3 files for free here:

alabamacatholicresources.com/Fr_John_Corapi.html

God bless!

 

[BKulash_eski]

Thank God for all of you. I have been struggling with this, perhaps my whole life. Not to sound arogant, but I am confident that the Devil focuses directly on the most faithful, hopeful and loving of all of us. This is how I know that God love me more than anything this world will ever be capable of showing me. It is a war, and I am concerned that it will never end.