I think you should deepen your understanding of the purpose of the Sacrament of Marriage. Only one aspect it is for the raising of children.
While I agree that any consenting adult man and woman should be able to marry no matter their age, I personally at a certain point would give up looking after about 40, maybe 45. As of right now i’m 23 and i’ve never had a relationship and have dated but never got a second date, and anymore I just feel that God wants me to be single. I’m not thrilled with it, but It doesn’t sadden me like it used to. I’m already overweight and losing hair besides not being that interesting, so by 40 i’ll be even less attractive, so I might as well just get used to it. Besides, even if I met someone, I’d be worried about birth defects. My mother and father married when she was 38 and he was 45 and had me a year later and had two more kids. I turned out okay, but my brother has Aspergers and my sister has a bunch of health problems due to my mom being on heart medication. I’d rather just not have kids at that point, and since I don’t believe in birth control, i’d rather just stay single after I hit 40.
Discerning that you personally do not wish to marry or have serious and compelling reasons to avoid marriage is different than believing that age should be included in a universal norm, though, just to clarify what you’re saying. It wouldn’t be good if someone were to take your sensible analysis of your own life as some commentary on what people you don’t know have done.
I understand, i was just talking from a personal viewpoint. If other people want to get married at an older age, let them go ahead.I don’t think its wrong, I just think its wrong for me.
Well, we ought to be ready for whatever the Lord has in store. After all, a person doesn’t have to pass muster with a committee to find they have been deemed suitable marriage material. It only takes one person finding one person. I respect anyone who decides they have reasons not to marry, but OTOH I wouldn’t be all the surprised if they change their mind later. It turns out that it is a day-to-day discernment, when one is free to marry. That’s OK.
Are you teasing the members of CAF?
Get married if you think it will make you happy. But my concern would be, if you’re 44 or 53 or whatever age, if you aren’t already happy with your life the way it is, then you will eventually be disappointed when you find that marriage is not the magic formula you’re looking for.
Why would I have to be unhappy with my current life to get married?People do crazier stuff every day
Jala
Church doesn’t agree. Can’t imagine why what age adults are when they get married is anyone’s business but the people getting married.
That’s true.People do crazier stuff every day
Jala
Yes. Choosing marriage doesn’t automatically indicate that someone was unhappy in the single life. Some people report that they were far more happy after they met the person they eventually married, but those who are happy in their own skin while in the single life very often go on to very happy marriages, too. Those who were miserable while they were single often find that marriage is no cure, either, that is for sure!!
Completely unrelated, but if you are gaining weight and losing your hair, you might want to get your thyroid checked. And don’t sell yourself short! at 23, you are just a baby. Anything can happen. If you want to improve your appearance, it will never be easier than in your 20s.
You know, I’ve been reading your posts for a while and it’s patently obvious to me you need to take up skydiving. Or possibly mountain climbing. Maybe surfing. For the luvva mike, go DO something. Srsly. You life is to be lived. Sell everything you own, buy a big motorscooter and start traveling around the country.