To tell or not to tell?

[setter]

"For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own likings, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander into myths.” 2 Timothy 4:1-4

What is the role, responsibility and function of the lay Catholic in presenting “sound teaching” to fellow Catholics who expound and assert that they have been given decisive ecclesial advice and counsel particular to the divulged particulars of their situation, which in fact is contrary to sound Church teaching in matters of faith and morals?

I have found this specifically in the area of human sexual conduct (medical/age/circumstance exceptions for ABC, conjugal chastity, homosexuality …) where too often those given erroneous or incorrect counsel/”teaching” by clergy trumpet the loudest to others what exceptions are available to apparent Church teaching and/or exert pressure for others to adopt a “don’t ask, don’t tell” form of discourse when the issue/topic is taken to task. To counter present runs the risk of being labeled self-righteous, judgmental, unqualified, intrusive, insensitive…and made to look as the ogre. I would appreciate any thoughts or similar experiences.

 

[dulcissima]

Here is a quote that I think pretty well sums up your dilemma:

Let us be slow to judge. * Each one sees things from his own point of view, as his mind, with all its limitations, tells him, and through eyes that are often dimmed and clouded with passion.

St. Josemaria Escriva