Too ashamed and embarrassed for Confession

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The sacrament of reconciliation is made for sinners. Especially the mortal sins. Your obligation, if you have a mortal sin on your soul, is to go to confession. His obligation as a priest, is to hear your confession. You are there to become holy so you can grow in the Holy Spirit; he is there to allow you to do that. A priest will help you, if it is an addictive sin, where you go back for the same sin, because you keep falling, or if it is a silly sin that shouldn’t have happened, regardless if it is a serious sin that is deadly or a venial sin which strains our relationship with God, you should go to confession. He will help you. Keep in mind, the priests sin, and it is common priests go to confession weekly to their brother priests. If anyone should be embarrassed in sinning, if they are living their vocation correctly, are the priests themselves, and they sin all the time. Go to confession weekly, or monthly, but go frequently, even if it is the same sin. Go to confession, because you are there for yourself to be sanctified, not there for him. (Ave Maria Gratia Plena)
 
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Yes, it is sometimes scary for me, as if I ask him the priest, he’ll know my identity. But I’m willing to take this way because I really don’t want to serve Eucharist in this state
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I don’t say this is a flip or snarky way, but so what if he knows your identity? Some of us go to face to face confession, and our pastors treat us no differently after they hear our confessions. Remember the priest’s role in confession; hopefully that will help you.
 
You can’t make that call and it takes a lot of presumption on your part.
 
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If you live in a larger town or metropolitan area, you could always research the Confession schedules for other parishes.
 
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The great presumption is that and adolescent is committing a mortal sin merely by failing in a struggle with biological, emotional and psychological factors that diminish culpability.

Far too much guilt and anxiety results for these sometimes heroic efforts.
 
Priests are there for your salvation, not your condemnation
 
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Hey everyone, thanks for all your help. Today a different priest came, as there is multiple priests in my parish. I got confession when I asked, and he didn’t seem to mind that much. He was very nice to me. But feel free to keep the conversation going for future reference.
 
Yes, that is the beauty of confession. When I got confession yesterday, it was scary and embarrasing, but now I feel much better.1
 
Just go, I asked my priest before Mass last night and as he was standing by the front door he said I could have confession outside, in the street, I don’t care where I have it. There weren’t loads of people around or anything.

I’m guessing whatever you confess, he has heard it before already.
 
Yes, I already got confession yesterday before mass. The priest gave me confession in a small room. I guess the place of confession doesn’t matter.
 
Yes very true, because you know that you can carry on a normal Catholic life and be close to God again
 
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Yes, that is the beauty of confession. When I got confession yesterday, it was scary and embarrasing, but now I feel much better.
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Welcome to the wonderful world of conversion! In many ways, confessing the same thing (especially in a short space of time) to the same priest can be immensely difficult. At the same time though, from a priest’s point of view, there’s something incredibly humbling about it. Trust me when I say that the priest is going to think badly of you! It’s not easy to do because our flawed nature gets in the way but struggling through your reluctance, fears and anxieties will make the sacrament more meaningful (if not more effective) for you. Finally, given that this is something which I’m guessing you’re struggling with, no matter how many times you sin in the same way, and no matter how often, keep going to confession!
 
Don’t feel bad. Your hormones are raging and that is healthy. Just go to confession. It is an important time of struggle in your life. It humbles you.
 
Funny thing about confession sometimes is you mention a sin that is big in your eyes followed by a sin that appears tiny to you and the priest asks you questions about the smaller sin.

I guess the bigger sin is what it is and the smaller sin has the potential to cause more harm?
 
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