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TrueLight
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Hey Corsair,
I don’t know how involved you are in each parish. Does that cause a conflict for you?
Are you saying you are in the choir, by the way?
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I don’t know how involved you are in each parish. Does that cause a conflict for you?
Are you saying you are in the choir, by the way?
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Incomplete
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Don’t you just hate that when a good priest is transferred?
We have belonged to one parish since 1992. We were happy there, but by chance ended up at another parish one day in 2004.
Ultimately it’s where we ended up attending Mass all the time. I learned so much from that priest. He’s the best confessor I ever had. He has developed in me a desire to grow in holiness. I got involved in parish activities, very involved. I grew to know and love the people there.
But we never changed membership. We did, however, financially support both. The priest at the first church is very aware of where we go and was fine with it. (Since we belonged to the first one, it’s where my daughter was confirmed, so we did keep communications open.) The second priest outright said that non-members are welcome to anything the parish offered.
But the first priest recently announced his retirement. So we decided to go ahead and join the second parish, which has a waiting list. We had been attending there for seven years, and I think I kind of shocked the priest when I said we were ready to be on the waiting list.
A few weeks later the Bishop announced he was transferring the second priest.
sigh
We’re staying at the second parish, despite some changes there that make me rather sad. The people have become family. So we stay.
But the point is, you don’t have to officially have dual parishes. Go where you want. Support the parish you’re registered at and, if you go to another one regularly, support it as well as you can, too.
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TheRealJuliane
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No, you’re not alone. I consider myself to have dual citizenship right now although I am only technically registered in one parish. But I’ve been attending the other parish on a semi-regular basis and it’s where I go for confession and adoration. They both have good points and I’m not sure I want to give either one up for good. I see people who defected from the one church at the other church, and also some cross-overs like me.Thanks for sharing because I sometimes wonder if I am the only one which has such dilemmas.
There is no reason we can’t go to any church we wish. Although I wouldn’t just skip all over town because one does need to find a group and ministries, I think seeing other parishes is good.
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TrueLight
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I’ve never heard of a waiting list to join a Church? What does that mean, if you don’t mind?
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TrueLight
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What I’m learning from this thread is that I don’t have to have two registrations, even if I attend and support both.
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It doesn’t actually end up meaning much. Nobody is turned away from anything there for lack of membership.
It’s a college parish. I’ve noticed that at other Newman parishes as well. Every student who wants to be a member can be. But we need room for them, and the desire is to make sure they feel welcome, to make sure it isn’t a parish completely overrun by non-students. A waiting list is meant to ensure a good mix.
Yet nobody is turned away from worshiping there. Nobody is turned away any of the programs offered there. I have no doubt that if I or a family member was in need of anything, the priest would take care of us. So while I understand the waiting list in theory, I’m not totally sure of the reason. Except, maybe, that some people won’t want to be on the list, and in that way we keep it more open to students. I do know that the list seems to have kept the mix good.
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TrueLight
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I see. Okay thanks.
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corsair
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Actually, Truelight, both the FSSP and diocesan parishes support each other when it comes to the TLM. And I have many friends at both places.
No, I’m not in the choir. I happen to be the “rabble rouser” who pressed for the TLM here at our little OF parish. I am acting as Sacristan because no one else knows how to vest an Altar properly. I also sort of coordinate the choir, Altar boys, get the printing of the Propers done, vestments cleaned and chair the Latin Mass Society. Lately I have been getting folks to step up and help but its been a slow process.
Its been fun but now its time to hand off most of the chores. We have a head Altar boy that gets really excited about taking over for me and training them and doing the coordination. He’s a great young man.
Our next project is raising enough funds for completing our vestment sets. We are lacking a good Rose colored set. We have a mix of Roman and Gothic. So now looking to get the rose Roman set for Gaudette Sunday and Laetare Sunday.
Our new choir director is a talented lady who wants dedicated singers. So far she has three solid and just recruited two more tonight.
Cheers
No, I’m not in the choir. I happen to be the “rabble rouser” who pressed for the TLM here at our little OF parish. I am acting as Sacristan because no one else knows how to vest an Altar properly. I also sort of coordinate the choir, Altar boys, get the printing of the Propers done, vestments cleaned and chair the Latin Mass Society. Lately I have been getting folks to step up and help but its been a slow process.
Its been fun but now its time to hand off most of the chores. We have a head Altar boy that gets really excited about taking over for me and training them and doing the coordination. He’s a great young man.
Our next project is raising enough funds for completing our vestment sets. We are lacking a good Rose colored set. We have a mix of Roman and Gothic. So now looking to get the rose Roman set for Gaudette Sunday and Laetare Sunday.
Our new choir director is a talented lady who wants dedicated singers. So far she has three solid and just recruited two more tonight.
Cheers
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Zacdecat
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Why on earth do you need to register with them? What does it mean? I have never heard of this… where I come from you just attend…
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paperwight66
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Same here in the UK. It seems to be peculiar to the US. I believe another poster said on another thread that parishioners get the bulletins posted to them instead of picking them up when they went to Mass, so maybe it helps with that.
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hudson
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If I had the option i would choose the FSSP Parish. Keep in mind the Bishop could move the Priest at the diocesan Church you attend. At that point you may no longer have the Latin Mass. The FSSP Church will always be a Church that celebrates the Latin Mass.
Edit. I see a few people touched on this already. I didn’t read through the entire thread before posting.
Edit. I see a few people touched on this already. I didn’t read through the entire thread before posting.
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TrueLight
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I’m an ex Protestant. I like the idea of belong to the church I mostly attend.
Registration provides a count to the Diocese, which can make a difference when it comes to deciding which parishes should be combined, closed etc.
I don’t see any reason not to register, if you are actively involved in a parish.
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TrueLight
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The good thing about the diocesan TLM is that the people who oversee it are doing a fantastic job. The Pastor is supportive, but celebrates both forms. Also, there seem to be a rotating schedule of priests who come and celebrate the TLM. So unless a new Pastor comes and says no way, we will have a TLM, I suspect it’s here to stay.
The good thing about the diocesan TLM is that the people who oversee it are doing a fantastic job. The Pastor is supportive, but celebrates both forms. Also, there seem to be a rotating schedule of priests who come and celebrate the TLM. So unless a new Pastor comes and says no way will we have a TLM, I suspect it’s here to stay.
If the FSSP parish was closer, hands down, I would go there exclusively.
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jwinch2
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Exactly. I am of the opinion that if you are going to be a part of the parish, participate in its functions, etc. that the least you can do is register so that the Diocese can properly allocate resources.
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Incomplete
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There is no reason not to register, and in fact, there is a reason to register beyond the count. (Our diocese actually takes a physical count each October, counting people in the pews at each Mass.) If you or any of your kids are planning a wedding, for example, or a baptism, or a funeral, or to be confirmed, a priest is not required to allow you to do any of these things with his parish if you are not a member. He might, but he might not.I’m an ex Protestant. I like the idea of belong to the church I mostly attend.
Registration provides a count to the Diocese, which can make a difference when it comes to deciding which parishes should be combined, closed etc.
I don’t see any reason not to register, if you are actively involved in a parish.
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Zacdecat
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…but you do belong…to the Roman Catholic Church…catholic being universal.
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Paxvobis
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There are three parishes I’ve gone to on a regular or semi regular basis since I reverted to the faith last year.
The first is my territorial parish (OF), at which I am registered. I went there regularly for about 8 months but when I became more traditional in my outlook, I stopped going there. The second is a parish that is neither my territorial parish, nor a parish where I am registered, but they do a very reverent OF Mass and it actually takes just as much time to get there (I’m leaving in 15 minutes for Mass there, actually). I go to that parish except for one Sunday a month where I go to the FSSP Parish downtown.
My advice is not to make a decision now, but just to wait and see how everything pans out in the end. Go to each parish as much or as little as you please and see how the cookie crumbles.
Have a blessed All Saints Day!
The first is my territorial parish (OF), at which I am registered. I went there regularly for about 8 months but when I became more traditional in my outlook, I stopped going there. The second is a parish that is neither my territorial parish, nor a parish where I am registered, but they do a very reverent OF Mass and it actually takes just as much time to get there (I’m leaving in 15 minutes for Mass there, actually). I go to that parish except for one Sunday a month where I go to the FSSP Parish downtown.
My advice is not to make a decision now, but just to wait and see how everything pans out in the end. Go to each parish as much or as little as you please and see how the cookie crumbles.
Have a blessed All Saints Day!
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TrueLight
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Good advice. Thanks!My advice is not to make a decision now, but just to wait and see how everything pans out in the end. Go to each parish as much or as little as you please and see how the cookie crumbles.
Have a blessed All Saints Day!
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